You make a circumstance positive or negative- Sita

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Today's most profound message was this. I have always seen people cribbing. This is not there, that is not there. Even if everything is there, then what the neighbour has not is there. It is human nature to look at have nots than the havs.
How many us of think we are blessed because we do not have any disability. We have organs that are perfectly working fine. There are many in the world who have one disability or the other. How many of us think lucky to have parents. Understand there are enough orphans. How many feel thankful for the education they got. Many are still deprived. How many feel thankful they have house, food to eat. Many go hungry and sleep on the streets. Be thankful to what you have. Then you will realize how much beautiful your circumstance is.

Yes vanvass is written for Sita. So I liked the way she took it. if it is there let it come. We will deal with it when it comes. Why worry for it from today. There are parents from the moment a girl is born they will start worrying about marriage. Arey yaar let it come to that, then take the worry. Sometimes the worry will be baseless. Unnecessarily worrying about future you will destroy present, you will not be able to enjoy present. Learn to live in present. Understand that if God brings you to a problem, he will give you strength to overcome it. Solution comes before the problem. We just have to understand the solution.

Even before Sita Apaharan, Sugreeva was banished from kingdom by Bali. For Ram to get the alliance and fight the war.
Even before infamous hall of dice happened, Krishna had ensured Pandavas have an alliance with Draupadi's family so that they are equipped to fight the war.
Bhima had married an Asura woman to have Ghatkolkach even before Karna got the weapon Shakti from Indra.
Abhi was given half knowledge of Chakravyuha even before Drona planned Chakravyuha on day 13
Prahalad learnt about Narayan in Kayadu's womb even before Hiranyakasyapu got the boon from Brahma.

So when you face any problem understand the solution is already created, defense is already made. It will be available at the right time. Whenever faced with choices take Lord's guidance and the choose the path directed by him. Understand he is creating your defense even without you knowing it.

I will tell a simple incident in my life. In early days of my career I had a manager with whom my working relation was really poor. His values and my values never matched. Over and above him on most occasions I gave importance to my duties with my project team. I used to bunk the unnecessary meetings, trainings because I had work with project teams. I had clearly written off my yearly appraisal as I was sure this guy will find some way to give me bad rating. But just one week before the appraisal was due my unit head took a feedback from delivery team heads on our support team's support to their project teams. Only 3 people got positive feedback out of a 35 member team. And I was not only one of those but I had got extraordinary feedback from all the 3 delivery heads I supported. My manager couldnt touch my appraisal and was forced to give me top rating. This incident had always made me realize never compromise on your values. Choose the path of your conscience and your defence will come at the right time. There are many such incidents in my life where I had felt hopeless, but then in a flash my problems disappeared as if they never existed in first place.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Beautiful di !
Exactly my views
This is what I most often recommend to my friends
For most part every instance in life is preparing us in some way or the other .
We only have to open our eyes to look at it to feel it , to learn it and to implement it .
Many cry I am not lucky , for me luck is nothing , its just our karma and our preparedness , its about our will and readiness to accept .
Its rightly said
Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Again an awesome and positive post from you... Loved it shruti di... But in life it is ofen difficult to follow,I m a chubby and fat girl,from my early childhood I have been repeatedly reminded that I am not beautiful and that has brought my self-confidance down,I know that we should take things as they are and I often tell myself that many people are in much bad condition but I couldnt help to feel bad... @radianteyes the last line you said is so good...
Anyways sorry for blabbering but felt like sharing with my friends here...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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What a wonderful post Shruthi di 👏
Whenever problems come the first thing we think is why me? Why all this is happening to me ? But do we think like this when something good happens to us ? Do we ever say, why this happiness has come to me?

Whatever happens in our life has a greater purpose to serve.. Be it good or bad..
A person who has no problem in life is not very fortunate, because as problems come in our life we learn how to deal with it and this makes us gain an experience.. We must not forget that life is a training ground and problems are nothing else but teachers who help us to pass various exams in life...

And as you said , if problem is written for you then a solution is also scripted, its just that you need to find it. Instead of getting disheartened, take it as a challenge and fight it out..

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Posted: 9 years ago
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beautiful post
its like human nature never get satisfied whatever reason we always crib for anything n everything ..
we worry about our future y not enjoy present n its our deed will make our future n like u said yes if there is problem then there will be solution also...
Happiness is there but we want more..we see the glass is half empty but not half filled also..
we see the negative sadness more not the other side of the coin...
our life is like coin one side is happiness another side is sadness
...but GOD never give only one thing ...
GOD always give us with balanced way ...everything...its upto ushave faith..
today Sunaina said another thing imp Education is education give to think wisely more...

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Beautiful Shruti 👏...u really write amazing...n I must say so many of our thoughts match...

U know I always ...always think that...when I am sad or need something to motivate me...I always think the positive things that I have in life...automatically my heart thanks my lord for giving me what many many others may not have..

I had read this somewhere which I'll share with you

If you have ample food to eat, if you can eat, if you are loved by even few people in your life, have sane brain, decent cloths to wear and a roof above u are far more richer than many other humans in the world

Unfortunately we never realize it...most of them crib about what they don't have instead of appreciating what u have...
Whenever ur sad just think about the blessings u have in life instead of thinking what u don't have...ull be able to appreciate ur life more heartily n it will help u overcome ur sadness
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: tuna_star

Again an awesome and positive post from you... Loved it shruti di... But in life it is ofen difficult to follow,I m a chubby and fat girl,from my early childhood I have been repeatedly reminded that I am not beautiful and that has brought my self-confidance down,I know that we should take things as they are and I often tell myself that many people are in much bad condition but I couldnt help to feel bad... @radianteyes the last line you said is so good...
Anyways sorry for blabbering but felt like sharing with my friends here...


I can very well understand you
I too had gained alot of weight due to a health problem.
I was taunted by my cousins and friends in schools .
But for most part I didn't care , I knew for health issues weight loss was imp but I didn't it for the world , for the society .
If someone has to like me he must see what I am from inside.
I would usually stop their taunts with the comment , " god loved me so much that's why he made so much of me "
I follow this thinking , I don't see how someone looks , I just look into his /her eyes and everything becomes visible .
Believe me you are the creater of yourself .
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Posted: 9 years ago
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karma is more important than bhagya.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@tuna a simple suggestion for you. Others taunt us when we dont feel good about ourselves. So what do we do to feel good about ourselves. First and the foremost what ever negative things that come to your mind in a day before going to sleep write them down in a paper, read it once, then tear the paper off. Before you close your eyes think about something good that happened in the day. It can be just eating an ice cream. Give a thank you for that oppurtunity and always sleep with that positive thought.
Parallelly start a diary which you should update every day morning thanking the good things that has happened to you previous day. Write atleast 3-4 things. Then wish for the good things you need that day. it can be as simple as no traffic block. Give a smile to yourself. Try practicing this. Keep one thing in mind. Never keep the paper you wrote the negative thoughts, but keep the diary where you are writing positive thoughts. I have done this myself and it has calmed a lot and has improved my positive thinking

@aditi yes when good happens no one asks why me. You made me remember cricketer Yuvraj Singh's interview when he was fighting cancer. He told he never asked God why he got cancer, because he said he had also not asked the same when he got " Man of the Tournament " in Cricket world cup 2011. He said when you dont ask your eligibility when great things happen to you, you should not be asking when pain comes to you. Both has to be treated equally. I had loved the interview very much

@Krishna yes we love to see glass half empty than half full. If we start seeing glass half full then lot of problems will be solved

@Anu though I have not gone, people of my organization who are associated with CSR in health care sector tell that if one day we go to the pediatric wing of Regional Cancer Centre Trivandrum, our whole attitude towards life will change. We will not think about petty things any longer.

@charvi life has positives and negatives. And I agree to you. Pain cannot be avoided, but how much we should suffer we can decide
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Nice post, Shruti...as usual. 😊
Also, Sita's life showed us how she has embraced her destiny whole heartedly without any regret , when it came to that, only which a person with great inner strength would do., and we should all strive towards that state in our lives.

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Will miss your detailed posts, rest of this week ...

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