Broken many dhanush by mistake, why didnt you come-Lakhan

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Posted: 9 years ago
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I was debating what to take after yesterday's episode. I decided to go with Lakshman. Though his was the usual emotional reaction for protecting his brother, each line he spoke was relevant . But the cake goes to the line I mentioned above " We have broken so many dhanush in childhood by mistake why didnt you come ". Because in that question was not only was the reason how the dhanush broke was given, but also it had an innocence about it.
I mean what he said is so true. We are all humans. Mistakes happen from us. Without trying to understand the circumstances of the incident, how will some answer a man if he is just putting questions and expects answer in a single line. It was nice to see Ram not stopping Lakshman yesterday. He was in free flow.
Parashuram is a learnt man. He is a sage. He has seen Lakshmi in Sita. If he had kept his anger aside his brain would have worked. First thing it could have asked would be who could lift the Dhanush in first place to break it. It really has to be a divine person. Second the occasion. It has been broken in the swayamvar. So who lifted the bow in swayamvar. He himself had told only the man who has been the husband of Sita in previous birth also will be able to do the task. If he had noticed the varmala in Ram's neck he would have known who he is. Only Hari can be the husband of Lakshmi.
He didnt think the sabha had learnt men from Janak, Rishi Yajyavalkya and Brahmarishi Vishwamitra. Everyone knew the sacredness of the bow. So if they are silent after the bow broke what could be the reason.

And Lakshman's question gave him the answer too. It has happened by mistake. But the man is so posssed by anger and self righteous that he wanted to kill the person who did this to his guru's dhanush.

This is where we need to see the contrast between Parashuram and Hanuman. Hanuman goes and burns Lanka calling Ram's name. Parashuram is also threatening to destroy mithila if the person who broke the dhanush doesnt come forward.

While Hanuman in Ram's name was punishing an adharmi who took a lonely woman by force and because of that his action is approved by God, what Parashuram was doing was making a mountain out of a mole in the name of his guru.
He only sees the broken object. And that object is of more importance to him than any other humane values.

He represented those people of era who gives more importance to objects than the underlying humane values of pardoning.
For e.g for doing a pooja we are asked to keep our clothes washed dried seperately and to only tocuh it post bath. What if a child or leave a teenager accidentally touches it. Will its purity be lost. Do we need to raise hungama over it. When you shout the teenager will also shout, the way Lakshman did. Who should show maturity. You or the teenager.

Another thing I can talk about is the practice of isolating women during their mensural periods. It is practiced in my home, so I know how humiliating it is at times, especially if you have your periods during festivals where guests will come. Everyone who will come and go will know your condition and treat you impure. So what if during that time the woman accidently end up touching something which she was not supposed to. How much shouting the elder should do on the girl. How much it should be said it is a paap.

We need to know that if we expect maturity from teenagers or children, we have to show maturity first. There is no point calling Lakshman Murkh Balak. Because he is not. If you dont show maturity, understand the circumstance expect the teenager to retort. Everyone is not Ram. But not being Ram doesnt mean they are wrong also. Every question of Lakshman was right yesterday.

Message for the day: If we want next generation to respect us, ensure our actions are like that. Show the maturity to command respect. Give less importance to objects, they dont make or break relations, only the underlying human values does. Understand it. And be a role model to the next generation.

PS: This is out of topic. But still putting. Watched Airlift movie yesterday. It is a movie that should be watched. To feel inspired. It shows an incident that is there in Guinness Book of World Record, but I only knew it when I saw the movie. To feel pride in our country, in our country men watch it . It is inspiring
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Fabulous post shruti...
Love Lakshman...
I agree if parshuram can see Sita is lakshmi avtar then can't he think she will be married to narayan only and no one is able to pick dhanush from many years but today its broken clears that some divine person must did that..but his angry stops his mind to think...
About airlift it is must watch movie...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Great connect Shruthi, with following a practice blindly and make mountains out of molehills.
I am so glad you mentioned the isolating of women during those days. i went with the conventional thought till I studied it in biology, and I realised what a vital life process it was, and how the most divine gifts of procreation and motherhood is not possible without this.

So, that was the day, I decided that no God could consider it unclean or dirty by any logic, and it had to be a man made imposition!

parsurama, you are right is more focused on the broken dhanush, and not on the fact that his prophesy of Sita finding a divine match has come true!

The dhanush was only a symbol, and to conquer his anger and look at this with maturity befitting a sadhu is what he should be doing, and this lesson will be taught to him by these two young boys.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Shruthi, marvelous post. You always give a deeper meaning and also a very relevant message in each of your posts. Hats off to you for this incredible message today. Always wait for your's and Arshy's take after each episode. Had to let you know what a wonderful job you are doing.👏👏👏

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Posted: 9 years ago
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You no what Di that I always read your every post be it anything.
As you always amaze me with u r every discription of episode's main thing or spotlight and this is not out of topic as even i thought about it that yesterday matlab just for yesterday I felt that Parshuram was been shown idiot as cant he see Ram's garland and anyone could tell that but his anger didn't let him. If he was able to see Lakshmi in Sita then why didn't he see a god in Ram.

BTW even I saw Airlift yesterday only and U know I feel like giving an applause to whole team the way they showed his potrayal was like real. My mom told me that if this is a picture potraing Kuwaits people and Indian people's plight think what would have happened in that time, in real life. Oh my god just horrible it would have been, Just a awesome movie.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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See it is about controlling your emotions. Your wisdom comes to fore in such extreme moments. We saw the way Raja Janak reacted to Ravan. He had absolute control on emotions even after hearing so much insults. Parashuram if you look represents all those people who have power and use that power one way or other to frighten people to give importance to unimportant things. They may not be bad, but on certain things they are very rigid and fanatic. Lakshman actually equated the breaking of Shiv Dhanush to any other Dhanush. The teenager had the common sense to see all mistakes equitably, but alas in his anger this is what Parashuram forgot
@Arshics actually having scientific knowledge made it harder for me. Because the situation at home was not in a way to accept the scientific notion of a woman's cycle. My life revolved around those 28 days as before dates I have to keep clothes and necessary items separately in a cover for 3 days. If this is not done I will get scolded properly. In addition to that by chance if I have those days on any festival day, it will be cursed as if I decided to have it on those days to escape work. I was always conflicted and will fly of the handle during those days. The most harsh was the treatment of cursing and shouting during festive days as this is something in my control. From not able to walk to through the front door during teenage days believe me my cycles symbolized the shackles I felt on me. It took me a very long time, that too post marriage to come out of the vicious cycle of treating it as normal.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: shruthiravi

See it is about controlling your emotions. Your wisdom comes to fore in such extreme moments. We saw the way Raja Janak reacted to Ravan. He had absolute control on emotions even after hearing so much insults. Parashuram if you look represents all those people who have power and use that power one way or other to frighten people to give importance to unimportant things. They may not be bad, but on certain things they are very rigid and fanatic. Lakshman actually equated the breaking of Shiv Dhanush to any other Dhanush. The teenager had the common sense to see all mistakes equitably, but alas in his anger this is what Parashuram forgot

@Arshics actually having scientific knowledge made it harder for me. Because the situation at home was not in a way to accept the scientific notion of a woman's cycle. My life revolved around those 28 days as before dates I have to keep clothes and necessary items separately in a cover for 3 days. If this is not done I will get scolded properly. In addition to that by chance if I have those days on any festival day, it will be cursed as if I decided to have it on those days to escape work. I was always conflicted and will fly of the handle during those days. The most harsh was the treatment of cursing and shouting during festive days as this is something in my control. From not able to walk to through the front door during teenage days believe me my cycles symbolized the shackles I felt on me. It took me a very long time, that too post marriage to come out of the vicious cycle of treating it as normal.

Raja Janak has found a worthy son in law in Rama, someone who is not just like him, but is four steps ahead of him, in his qualities, and as every girl who idolises her father wants a husband like him, Sita's that dream too has come true.

I could sense the anguish you went through those days. I faced this after marriage, since in my sasural, the belief was similar to what you describe, whereas in my childhood, there was no such restriction. But then I have a wonderful mother in law, who decided her daughter in law will not go through the same trauma that she had to face, so apart from Puja and festivals, I never had to sit out!

I am looking forward to Rama converting parshurama! Rama's coolness only can calm down his scorching anger
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Shruthi, my darling...👏
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Rightly said Shruti.
Lakshman was in full form and did not say anything that could be considered disrespectful...{then what do I know,being a product of modern age}😉.
Rishi Pasrshuram represents that part in all of us where intractability and tunnel vision rules and sometimes even overshadows, our intellect and wisdom w.r.t. to certain situations in life.
I read somewhere that God has 10 divine qualities.Parshuram had 2 of them and ram had 8 .of course Krishna had 10 and that is why his is termed as the sampo*na avatar.
I loved the contrast between Parshuram's uncontrollable anger{that stopped him from seeing the divinity in Ram}and Ram's calm expression in front of this 'destructive storm'.
It makes me wonder at human nature when our symbols and rituals assume a greater significance than the love of god which is the basis for any religion.
B.t.w did watch 'Airlift' yesterday.For all of us who are away from our country,it induces a feeling of warm reassurance that we are still apart of it.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@Shruthi: As usual wonderful topic and attention seeking examples😉.
Reg Parasuram, I have made a separate post, so I just move on to ur e.g. You voiced my mind 😊. Both my paternal and maternal grandparents were/is orthodox. I have my maternal grandmom who still strictly follows all these practices. But luckily my parents are different. Though many times I even cursed my grandparents in my mind for this ill-treatment, mom was the one who gave a meaningful explanation for this omission.

Yes, my mom told during these days ladies need rest from their routine daily works. So make use of it when its provided😆.

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