@pree you have put the ideas beautifully. Coming about men, men of those days knew their duty. Pandavas never asked Panchali to tie her hair. They knew they had failed their wife. Bhima brings Dussashan's blood to wash Panchali's hair. Ram needn't had to be told what to do when Sita went missing. He knew what to do. And if you look whether it is Pandavas or Ram they used all methods Saam, Dan, bhed and then only proceeded with Dand or punishment in the form of war. A virtuous man never shied from taking accountability.
If you observe both Ram and Arjun in Swayamvar you can see them respecting the princesses before proceeding towards the challenge. Maryada, Sanskaar was known to them, unlike the men of today who only know rules that shackles, but hardly know the accountability associated with them. Hence woman has to shout.
@Arshics yes change is the constant. Marriage is a change in woman's life where she has to show certain restraint as her behaviour is tied with the reputation of the man associated with her and also she has to take the next role as a mother and teacher where she has to guide the next generation. To perform these roles you need a certain level of maturity, restraint. Because if you need to manage relation, first you need to feel yourself in a relation. All the shringaar was to give the woman the feeling of that relation and in a marital relation where she is loved and respected why wouldnt she do shringaar. Which woman doesnt love the gaze from her husband that falls on her 😃
Cutting hair, you dont have to tell me that. In ancient days in my community widows were not allowed to enter temple if they didnt shave their head Ouch. It was really bad.
@shadesof nature today feminism has come to a point where all the ancient practices are degraded and in that way we are losing our feminity. I had put in my earlier posts also that I am a feminist. I wanted rationality, I wanted answers because I couldnt take certain incidents happened to the woman in my family. I didnt want myself or any of my sisters in that position where our choice is restrained, where someone else dictates the terms on how should we live or conduct overselves where the men got away without any accountability. And it was my strong belief answers was in the epics, only didnt know where, how to connect. Lot of reading, my own financial independance, marriage and the path I walked braving the odds have helped to connect the dots and each time I see a mythology show I dont waste a chance to grab that piece of information that eludes me. They say pain can destroy you or pain can change you, lead you to a path of transformation. Whatever knowledge I put here for the larger crowd is the fruits of that journey I undertook to understand myself and the world around me. I know the mistakes I committed as a feminist in the journey and if someone can lead an enriching life without committing those mistakes reading this I would be happiest.
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