Episode 13 : Take Five

Kshithi

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Hey Guys,

Sorry for the delay. Yesterday I had a date with Mr. James Bond and could not watch the episode. I was quite sad that this is Daniel Craig's last bond movie. Anyways, I just saw the episode and here is the today's Top Five.

1) Credit: Credit must be given where it is due. Always appreciate when some one is doing a good job, no matter how small or big that job is. It could be a child, it could be an employee, it could be your friend..anyone. A small word of praise from even one person would make their day. It won't cost anyone anything, but you will only gain so much!

2) Koopa Manduka- A frog that lived in a well: For a frog which is living in a well, his entire world consists of only that. He does not know anything beyond that, he cannot comprehend a world beyond that and he cannot understand anything beyond the confines of the well. He becomes narrow minded, arrogant that he knows everything and he is always right. Let us not be that frog. Let us go outside into the world see it as it is. Let us enhance our mind and evolve.

3) Questions: In continuation with the previous episode's top five where we talked about government and kings.

(Those who were not able to read it, here is the link)

When your government/king is not doing your job, we need to question them. We need to hold them accountable. I know this is not a small task. But we need to start somewhere. We cannot just keep quite as a citizen. It is also our duty.

4) Children: When they enter into the world, they are like sponge. As they grow up, they soak in all the that is happening around them, they learn new things. They learn from their parents, other people around them. Then go to school. They would learn from their teachers, friends. And one day they would be an adult. We should always be careful of what we are letting our children learn. Be mindful of the people around them, their friends, teachers etc.

5) Denial: We are experts in that! We conveniently deny that there is any issue. Because if we acknowledge that there is a problem, then you need to face the ugly truth, you would be bothered and disturbed by it. And then you need to think of a solution. Instead of spending so much effort into recognizing and correcting the problems, we take the easy way out and deny everything! But what we fail to understand is, even if you push the problem under the carpet, it is still there. And when you fail to take any action, it will fester and rot. It would become even a bigger problem than it originally was.

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shruthiravi

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Kshiti was actually waiting for your post. I agree to all your points especially Koopa Manduka. I have to put some points regarding this Koopa Manduka aspect. As a responsible parent we have to expose the child to the world the right way. But many parents don't do that. Because they are afraid. Though they say it is for the safety of the child, the real fear is in the fact the child observing and learning new things on their own. Child questioning the ethos. Like you said parents want to live in denial mode. Make the children see what they want them to see. But they never understand the flip side of it.

If the information doesn't come to the child the right way, one way or the other the child will get it wrong way causing much heart burn in future.

Classic example is the usage of social networking sites. Many parents deny child mobiles and computers. What will it end up in. Child will get these gadgets from their friends, learn the inappropriate use of it, will not tell parents as they fear parents will scold them and then end up big problems like MMS, online affair, online frauds etc..

But if the child is introduced to these system with parental supervision, allowed to explore things in the networking sites that are suitable to the child, the child will naturally pick up the good and bad in it. There will be open communication and even if the child face some problem they will ask us. And we can nip the problem in the bud than allow it to fester.

Another is not allowing children on school or college trips. See the excursions are not only a stress buster, but the first step where the child will handle certain things on their own. They get to learn reliability and accountability in a controlled environment. And if that is denied and if they make child dependant on parents for everything how these children are going to handle responsibilities when they face one as they grow up. Mother cannot tie the child in her pallu always, nor can father always hold the hand.

We have to think whether we need our child to be a koopamanduk or a balanced individual. Actually it was good for Kaikeyi to allow Ram to roam about.

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Posted: 9 years ago

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beautiful post

with deep thoughts😃

Yesterday episode was racy towards the end

waiting for today's

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Missed your Take Five yesterday. Good to see you back. How was your date with Mr. James Bond? I too had it and thoroughly enjoyed it😳

Beautiful post. Especially loved the example of a frog. Couldn't agree more with you.

Yesterday we quite had a fast paced episode. So we are heading towards the mystery of Ram's sister Shanta. Can't wait for the track to unfold.

Brilliant post!!!!

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Kshithi Hope your date with Mr Bond was full of thrills and spills and Mr Craig's last outing lived up to your expectations.😊

Okay coming back to the topic. I think the biggest challenge in raising a child is to maintain the delicate balance of giving them the freedom to grow, explore, learn and evolve and making sure that freedom is exercised in the right way. They are innately curious and curiosity always leads to questioning. How we answer those questions is also extremely important especially the ones that we feel are inappropriate and have the tendency to brush them off. When we bring a child in to this world we become their guardians. It is our responsibility to steer them towards the right path, to nurture their minds in a way so that they can consciously understand and are able to differentiate between right and wrong because ultimately they will lead their own lives and forge their own paths. Like Jabali said that we are all lone travelers, we come alone in to this world and will also depart from it alone.

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Originally posted by: shruthiravi
Kshiti was actually waiting for your post. I agree to all your points especially Koopa Manduka. I have to put some points regarding this Koopa Manduka aspect. As a responsible parent we have to expose the child to the world the right way. But many parents don't do that. Because they are afraid. Though they say it is for the safety of the child, the real fear is in the fact the child observing and learning new things on their own. Child questioning the ethos. Like you said parents want to live in denial mode. Make the children see what they want them to see. But they never understand the flip side of it.
If the information doesn't come to the child the right way, one way or the other the child will get it wrong way causing much heart burn in future.
Classic example is the usage of social networking sites. Many parents deny child mobiles and computers. What will it end up in. Child will get these gadgets from their friends, learn the inappropriate use of it, will not tell parents as they fear parents will scold them and then end up big problems like MMS, online affair, online frauds etc..
But if the child is introduced to these system with parental supervision, allowed to explore things in the networking sites that are suitable to the child, the child will naturally pick up the good and bad in it. There will be open communication and even if the child face some problem they will ask us. And we can nip the problem in the bud than allow it to fester.

Another is not allowing children on school or college trips. See the excursions are not only a stress buster, but the first step where the child will handle certain things on their own. They get to learn reliability and accountability in a controlled environment. And if that is denied and if they make child dependant on parents for everything how these children are going to handle responsibilities when they face one as they grow up. Mother cannot tie the child in her pallu always, nor can father always hold the hand.

We have to think whether we need our child to be a koopamanduk or a balanced individual. Actually it was good for Kaikeyi to allow Ram to roam about.

Thanks Shruthi..😊

I love how you elaborate of my points and also give examples!!! Please share your views every day.

"As a responsible parent we have to expose the child to the world the right way." You hit a nail on this head.

Todays' world is much more scarier than the one we grew up in. Internet has been an absolute boon to our world. There is no doubt about it. But, along with good, there is also bad. Today's kids are exposed to so much, I wonder how they process so much of information.

Just last month, a classmate of my cousine's 11 year son talked to him about 'Sex'. The poor kid was confused. He is at an age where is will be curious about his body, sex etc. At the same time he will confused if at all this is something that he can speak about, as we make all this a 'taboo'. We just need to realize that today's kids are going to be curious about Sex, they are going to find out as much as they can about it. And this is not limited to just Sex. As the kid grows, he will be introduced to alcohol, smoking, drugs... and if parents cannot educate them about it, rest assured they will learn all these from their friends, through unauthorized internet sites, learn all non-scientific and unhealthy views on such subject.

We should create a safe communication channel with the kids so that such 'taboo' things can be talked freely within the family. It is far better that kids learn all this from their parents and teachers, than from some unauthorized content. That way parents and teachers can make them understand about relationships, physical relationships, respecting your partners, respecting yourself, consequences like STDs, pregnancies, about addiction to alcohol, addiction to drugs and the consequences. The outside sources would never tell your kids about the consequences of all these.

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Originally posted by: -Mano-
beautiful post
with deep thoughts😃
Yesterday episode was racy towards the end
waiting for today's

Thanks...😃

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Originally posted by: NEIRAlover
Missed your Take Five yesterday. Good to see you back. How was your date with Mr. James Bond? I too had it and thoroughly enjoyed it😳
Beautiful post. Especially loved the example of a frog. Couldn't agree more with you.

Yesterday we quite had a fast paced episode. So we are heading towards the mystery of Ram's sister Shanta. Can't wait for the track to unfold.

Brilliant post!!!!

Thanks Aayushi... 😊

Movie was great! But sad to see Daniel play this iconic character for the last time!! Anyways, I too an looking forward to Shanta's story. I am curious to know if they will show what I have read or they will come up with another version.

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Kshithi

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Originally posted by: RUQAIYA10
Kshithi Hope your date with Mr Bond was full of thrills and spills and Mr Craig's last outing lived up to your expectations.😊

Okay coming back to the topic. I think the biggest challenge in raising a child is to maintain the delicate balance of giving them the freedom to grow, explore, learn and evolve and making sure that freedom is exercised in the right way. They are innately curious and curiosity always leads to questioning. How we answer those questions is also extremely important especially the ones that we feel are inappropriate and have the tendency to brush them off. When we bring a child in to this world we become their guardians. It is our responsibility to steer them towards the right path, to nurture their minds in a way so that they can consciously understand and are able to differentiate between right and wrong because ultimately they will lead their own lives and forge their own paths. Like Jabali said that we are all lone travelers, we come alone in to this world and will also depart from it alone.

Yes it was...some of the stunts very incredible...😃

You are absolutely right. I will just write what I replied to Shruthi...

Just last month, a classmate of my cousine's 11 year son talked to him about 'Sex'. The poor kid was confused. He is at an age where is will be curious about his body, sex etc. At the same time he will confused if at all this is something that he can speak about, as we make all this a 'taboo'. We just need to realize that today's kids are going to be curious about Sex, they are going to find out as much as they can about it. And this is not limited to just Sex. As the kid grows, he will be introduced to alcohol, smoking, drugs... and if parents cannot educate them about it, rest assured they will learn all these from their friends, through unauthorized internet sites, learn all non-scientific and unhealthy views on such subject.

We should create a safe communication channel with the kids so that such 'taboo' things can be talked freely within the family. It is far better that kids learn all this from their parents and teachers, than from some unauthorized content. That way parents and teachers can make them understand about relationships, physical relationships, respecting your partners, respecting yourself, consequences like STDs, pregnancies, about addiction to alcohol, addiction to drugs and the consequences. The outside sources would never tell your kids about the consequences of all these.

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Exactly Kshiti. The world outside is scarier than the one we grow up with. But we cannot make our kids fearful right. The only way out is to give them the right information at the right time. Give them enough knowledge so that they can defend themselves. For that I feel we have to upgrade ourselves to understand the world better. Because the rules that applied to us, no longer applies to today's youngsters. We have to define new rules, and the only way for that is to understand our past better and apply it the right way in the present.

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