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Disclaimer: I really shouldn't be making posts on I-F when I have so much to do, but I can't (and don't want to) discuss this with anyone I know. Therefore, sorry if I disappear. Also, a big thank you to all the posters and updaters - love reading the different takes and being able to read tidbits rather than sit through the episode.
That said, I'm interested in this show because I can't wrap my head around the motivations of 2 of the 3 lead characters. I've actually gotten past the affair, seems like old news now. What I don't get is the appalling lack of the minimum respect/thought to a person who has been an integral part of K-N's lives. I don't get the hurry, hurry, hurry in getting together and having dates and sleepovers when they have the rest of their lives for them. I don't get the hurry in getting Mouli to accept and forgive them both, right now. I don't get the need to organize and/or be part of b'day celebrations. I don't get why they just can't give her the space she needs to process this life changing event - why does it have to be right here, right now?
Why can't N leave town for a few days/months while K-M get their divorce sorted out? She's a grown woman and lives by herself, sure she can live alone for a few. Why doesn't K focus on trying to repair relations with his family, on work or the myriad other things that need to be done as an adult instead of acting like a love sick puppy? Why is this story moving like an express train - there is no build up of anything? No space, no introspection or retrospection, no half measures or patience.
It has been only a few months since it started - is this a finite series? Even if it was, why are there no time leaps used. Literally, a couple of months after introduction, an apparently happily married man and an abuse victim fall in irrevocable love. Within a couple months, the wife/best friend knows and files for divorce immediately after. Within the 30 days of the cooling off period, the new love birds go on dates, organize parties, break up, get back together again. Why this hurry? Why throw it in the wife's face again and again? Why not give her some space and time to heal? Why this utter lack of compassion/respect/even the most basic care? How are these people good people? If you can't treat family/friends who are inherently good people well, what compassion can be expected of you for anyone else?
Mangal Lakshmi
Bade Achhe Lagte Hain
