What does Nandini want?? - Page 3

Originally posted by: vasavi_sri

Nandini was not guilty of what she had done

With Kunal even after sleeping with him in the

Wash room she was seeing her maang filled

With colour thinking of mauli even after she

Was sharing her fears for Kunal how could

She do it Nandini was so hurt when Rajdeep

Was with other woman in front of her she knows

How it feels going through it least she is not

Expected to give her bestfriend the same pain

Kunal is also equally responsible for the hurt

He had caused Mauli she loved him trusted him

Was dreaming a future with him

Originally posted by: -JaZ-

nandini has too much self-pity that she has become so self-centered and failing to empathize with others...according to her since mauli has everything else in her life whereas she has nothing n her only dream of being a housewife was also shattered mauli should let her have kunal whether she divorces him or accepts her as his mistress makes no difference to her but she should not cut her friendship with her n be there to support her emotionally since she is a poor broken soul and she will always be like a bechari only n never consider herself as homewrecker n backstabber since acc to her mauli is after all career oriented n independent and she don't need husband as much as she wants...

nandini has such twisted logics 🤓

Nandini is just a filthy, filthy human being. Like seriously.

Nandini will sing a song now "silsila badalte mard Ka"

Originally posted by: kiransgirl

Wow, really? So in your world, women are only followers? They are never rational, intentional actors? Whenever they transgress so evilly and vilely, against all bounds of human decency, you what play the patriarchy card? The victim card? Well you can sell it, I aint' even gonna buy it. Women, like men,are equal; they are capable of dastardly deeds just like men. We continue to prop up systems of patriarchy and misogyny when we deny that women are just as capable of being heinous as men. And this woman is as capable as Kunal. They will both get their due

And frankly, it undermines any cause of equality when patriarchy is thrown around for every reason. There is no patriarchy here. No one is recalling upon historical patterns of hating women but I,for one, get pretty angry when heinous, immoral vile women pretend to be victims ;they shame real victims. This character is no victim. She is a self-centered, immoral user with no redeeming value as I can see it.

Apologies, I couldn't help but jump in this conversation. Patriarchy is not on a case by case basis, it describes mindset. To understand mindset, you don't need one incident but what was the precursor for that incident. If we were to talk about the show, what was shown was how Nandini never was respected in her own home by her own parents. Now any normal and educated adult will deduct that due to that she has very low self esteem.

Mauli was loved and encouraged and therefore she is strong. Nandini grew up in a home where females were only spoken if men needed something - if that is not patriarchy then what is it? Rajdeep did the same and only kunal showed respect to her. - a lone MAN!!!! Which other man showed her that respect?

In this forum majority of the people blame Nandini and call her names, when let's face it until that baba she was resisting kunal. Who started with godly love crap? Kunal. Who stopped Nandini leaving? Kunal, who refused to tell his wife about the affair? Kunal, and finally who lied to his wife? Kunal. Wife with whom he said his vows.

Nandini is wrong, I admit but patriarchy plays a huge part in this. India as a society is regressive, marital rape is not a criminal offence and when any cheating happens a woman must have seduced the man - yes because the man is a baby and can be led easily.

Women are strong but in this show how is Nandini not affected by the norms set by her parents? Rajdeep? And now kunal?

I love your sentiment that women are equal to men and I wish everyone had the same mindset but honestly can you say that with certainty that all women feel that way? Then female foeticide will be thing of a past. Why is finding out gender of a child illegal in India if patriarchy was not an issue? Why when women get raped the men always blame the women and how they dress and act? Of course society is changing and there are 100s of men who support strong women but India is not there yet.

I find Nandini lost and at times delusional- this is no way absolves what she did and she is responsible for her part but kunal is the main culprit and I am glad Mauli saw that.

Kunal's mental state was healthy.

Originally posted by: evenjleena28

Apologies, I couldn't help but jump in this conversation. Patriarchy is not on a case by case basis, it describes mindset. To understand mindset, you don't need one incident but what was the precursor for that incident. If we were to talk about the show, what was shown was how Nandini never was respected in her own home by her own parents. Now any normal and educated adult will deduct that due to that she has very low self esteem.

Mauli was loved and encouraged and therefore she is strong. Nandini grew up in a home where females were only spoken if men needed something - if that is not patriarchy then what is it? Rajdeep did the same and only kunal showed respect to her. - a lone MAN!!!! Which other man showed her that respect?

In this forum majority of the people blame Nandini and call her names, when let's face it until that baba she was resisting kunal. Who started with godly love crap? Kunal. Who stopped Nandini leaving? Kunal, who refused to tell his wife about the affair? Kunal, and finally who lied to his wife? Kunal. Wife with whom he said his vows.

Nandini is wrong, I admit but patriarchy plays a huge part in this. India as a society is regressive, marital rape is not a criminal offence and when any cheating happens a woman must have seduced the man - yes because the man is a baby and can be led easily.

Women are strong but in this show how is Nandini not affected by the norms set by her parents? Rajdeep? And now kunal?

I love your sentiment that women are equal to men and I wish everyone had the same mindset but honestly can you say that with certainty that all women feel that way? Then female foeticide will be thing of a past. Why is finding out gender of a child illegal in India if patriarchy was not an issue? Why when women get raped the men always blame the women and how they dress and act? Of course society is changing and there are 100s of men who support strong women but India is not there yet.

I find Nandini lost and at times delusional- this is no way absolves what she did and she is responsible for her part but kunal is the main culprit and I am glad Mauli saw that.

Originally posted by: kiransgirl

with all due respect, I don't know what you are talking about. All women OR all men do not have to subscribe to my belief that women are equal to men for my point to stand. It's all excuses for some very immoral behavior and it's justification for it. Since there is none, patriarchy is called into play. It undermines any movement toward the eradication of patriarchy when it is used and abused for any reason, when it does not apply. So Nandani's parents didn't give her enough hugs. She's got low self-esteem. Well, I guess let's blame it on patriarchy. We couldn't possibly see it for what it is right? a lying user with no value. Tell me: don't we all live under a patriarchal system? Then why is it that a majority of us would never have sex with a married man, much less our bff's husband? Are we immune to patriarchy? she should have low self esteem. she's a loser

And curiously, where does your justification end? a pedophile, not loved, with low self esteem is ok because she had a bad childhood? how about murder? That okay because her family didn't make her speak? Or is EMA where you draw the line and try to play the patriarchy card😡😡

And why are you just pointing out patriarchy? You don't think a person's socio-economic background matters too? why is patriarchy ALWAYS the one people glob onto to when trying to justify the heinousness of this character?

What men aren't abused too? Maybe Rajdeep's parents beat him.

Keep patriarchy out of it. She's just a bad seed

It's quite ironic isn't it that you don't wish to listen to my view but believe yours is right? I am not sure if you understand what patriarchy means? It doesn't mean that we don't have the capacity to make decisions, it means how our decisions are welcomed.

Where did I say that an affair is justified? Also where have I said Nandini is not wrong? You are right most women will not sleep with married but but women do sleep with married men, some of them are very strong women. I cannot speak on how you were raised but hating a fictional character for sleeping with a married man when you yourself said you will not do that seems paradoxical in my view.

The Indian code they many are saying means Nandini has committed a crime also states that a man has to consent his wife sleeping with another!!!!! That itself is f****g patriarchy!!! If my husband allows me to sleep with other means our marriage sucks as it is. So by that rule Rajdeep is within the limits of the law because he wanted Nandini to sleep with that fat man.

Just because you are strong doesn't mean all women are, Indian villages are epitome of patriarchy and lack of respect for women. Nandini is immoral, allright - then what is kunal? Pillar of morals?

Who is not blaming Nandini? I guess the only difference is I prefer facts and not emotions, and I believe in civilised conversation. Not one person on this forum is saying that Nandini is not responsible, some just have the ability to think outside the box and look at the bigger picture.

Originally posted by: evenjleena28

It's quite ironic isn't it that you don't wish to listen to my view but believe yours is right? I am not sure if you understand what patriarchy means? It doesn't mean that we don't have the capacity to make decisions, it means how our decisions are welcomed.

Where did I say that an affair is justified? Also where have I said Nandini is not wrong? You are right most women will not sleep with married but but women do sleep with married men, some of them are very strong women. I cannot speak on how you were raised but hating a fictional character for sleeping with a married man when you yourself said you will not do that seems paradoxical in my view.

The Indian code they many are saying means Nandini has committed a crime also states that a man has to consent his wife sleeping with another!!!!! That itself is f****g patriarchy!!! If my husband allows me to sleep with other means our marriage sucks as it is. So by that rule Rajdeep is within the limits of the law because he wanted Nandini to sleep with that fat man.

Just because you are strong doesn't mean all women are, Indian villages are epitome of patriarchy and lack of respect for women. Nandini is immoral, allright - then what is kunal? Pillar of morals?

Who is not blaming Nandini? I guess the only difference is I prefer facts and not emotions, and I believe in civilised conversation. Not one person on this forum is saying that Nandini is not responsible, some just have the ability to think outside the box and look at the bigger picture.

@gaushiv13

Thank you for sharing your experience and you are right that is the reality. Just because one woman gets all the freedom doesn't mean all women do.

I never understand that why to support one woman we have to demean another? Nandini is responsible for her actions but calling her names when the man goes scot free is ridiculous and illogical. I have never said Nandini is not responsible, she is but kunal he started this whole mess.