Originally posted by: mango_pudding1
as a society, we tend to see things very black and white. we don't think good people have flaws and that even bad people can have some good in them. it is because it challenges our notions of neat lines. as a result, even our story lines generally have that kind of attitude. a drama like silsila instead asks viewers to look at all these players as people who may have all sorts of motivations and failings -- this can be confusing because it does not follow the neat lines pattern.
my cousin was telling me about someone he knew -- this man had a married a former prostitute. now this is really surprising as this man was from a normal family with good status. what would motivate him to do so? the story was that in the neighbourhood was a kind of escort/brothel. this woman was sold by her husband into this brothel to pay off the debt. yes, husband. and she was beaten into participating in prostitution. she came from a normal family and had some amount of education (12th pass and could speak english well and her husband actually was educated as well). she somehow escaped and came begging for help. he helped her call the police. afterwards, he got to know her and decided to marry her himself.
now if we just hear that he married a fallen woman, we would assume certain things but do we know what led to their path? the pain involved? people who see nandini as simply a fallen women category will not be able to see her pain and see it as kind of sympathy tactic. instead of seeing her as person, she has been labelled as characterless. so perhaps for some, her pain is a punishment. in order to see nandini's pain, we need to see her as a person. we need to see all these 3 characters as people who are all capable of making bad choices. does that mean their choices are right? no, it simply means they are human and as humans, we all pay for the mistakes we make. everyone one of us will make mistakes. everyone. only if we see it from that angle, would we able to see these characters as human and not get caught up in the whole ema angle. do we have to like these characters? no. do we have to agree with their choices? no. but when we see them as human, we see a drama that is far more complicated then just an affair story.
Very nicely put and totally agree with you.👏
Yes, we have labels and with labels certain perceptions. So, as soon as, we hear or read certain words, we start seeing that person with those perceptions. All our interactions with that person or about that person is clouded with that perception.
Your story reminded me of an incident that happened with me some years back (Real story., I swear). Once on a trip, I met this couple who were very close friends of a friend. The husband was Indian and the wife Russian. As soon as, I saw them, I started wondering on their relationship, how they must have met, how they must be adjusting, are they happy, how are the parents handling it etc. While all this was going on in my head, my friend whispers to me that she was prostitute before she married him and immediately my whole perception of looking at her changed and thus my thoughts too, and the answers to my previous questions too. Being the curious human being that I am about relationships, I opened my mouth to ask them about it. Of course, my friend knew me so well, that he was waiting for me to process everything and at very moment, before I could make a fool out of myself, he burst out laughing and told me it was a prank. I was so mad at him but that whole incident was an eye opener that how one word can change how we look and perceive another person.
Similarly, sometimes it necessary to look beyond these labels. Everything is not black and white, and humans do make mistakes or bad choices. We can choose to berate them for their bad choice or take a step beyond to understand what prompted them to do that. We do not have to agree with their choices, we might even think they are inherently selfish beings, but it was their mistake to make and their choice on how they want to repent. I guess we are so used to seeing on ITV that good people never fall and bad people never rise, its difficult to see good people making such grave mistakes at every turn.
Its an EMA story but more than that its a very complicated story of three characters and how their choices can change a course of life. CV's are weaving the threads tighter with every episode thus creating that "train wreck" which will happen with every thread that opens up. Now I guess, we will able to see how love though beautiful can destruct years-old family ties and friendship leaving nothing in its path but just devastation.
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