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Posted: 7 years ago
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Kunal lied about electrician because he don't want Nandini to stay alone in flat after fire incident

he fear if Nandini will stay alone . and if any risk happen ! Nandini cannot save herself

btw lizard appear in room and Kunal was afraid of lizard but lizard did not bring them close together
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: SummerRain7

Kunal's feelings for Nandini does come across as random.

But if you have observed, makers have deliberately shown Mauli and Nandini with polar opposite personalities. Mauli is practical, whereas Nandini is emotional, Mauli is bubbly and outgoing, while Nandini is silent and soft-spoken. Nandini is also traditional, which Mauli is not. Nandini also has this sensitivity towards other people's feelings, and Mauli herself keeps saying that Kunal would like Nanidni's choices and would have liked Nandini too, had he met her first. So somewhere they are trying to tell us that Kunal finds a connect with her as a person, but with them rushing through that phase they have failed to impress it upon us more effectively.

Plus, the butchering to Kunal's character is off-putting. The guy had one night of guilt and now nothing. But I know he will come back to reality soon.

Yeah I understand that they are trying to depict the two women as opposites, that's very apparent. However, Kunal has also shown to be perfectly fine with Mauli being her authentic self without having to sacrifice anything for her husband or family. That is the premise of him as a husband, someone who is understanding and respectful of Mauli's choices.
The fact that we are shown that he wants someone who is emotional and can't make her own choices and needs him all the time is telling us that women always need men in order to basically survive. That is not what I want the show to head towards. I love this show because of how feminist Kunal is, and him wanting his life partner to always need him and can't even live at a place without his constant over watch seems a little out of character to me.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: pamk06

I don't think Kunal feelings were random. His feelings started with attraction during the dance and from that day he started seeing her as a woman rather than Mauli friends. From then on he started seeing in her the qualities which may be he wanted in a wife as Mauli always claimed that Nandini has all qualities that Kunal wanted. Then, every time he tried to control his feelings circumstances worked the other way such fear when he thought she went back to Rajdeep, jealousy when she dance with her friend, relization that she reciprocated his feelings or Mauli forcing him to help Nandini and his feelings grew. I will not say it love yet but it is defiantly much more than attraction.

Also, I don't think their long talks were about deceiving Mauli or of sweet nothings. Their talks have always been about separation and what is right which was their mind thinking. If they did not do the eye locks how would we as viewers see the fight between heart and mind. I am not saying they are right but the dedication is where they come back to the right side. I mean they were locked in a room but they did not give into their feelings till they were in a life threatening situation.

Also, this is just my view as a viewer.

I thought it was random in the sense that it sprouted from nowhere but I guess that is the point. Despite himself, he's drawn to Nandani. But I wouldn't go far as him thinking that it's qualities he wants in a wife though, because he has been genuinely happy with Mauli. And we have been shown time to time that he is perfectly fine with Mauli working and being as self-sufficient as she is. Yeah I agree, one thing that I have seen time to time is that Kunal has always tried to keep himself away from Nandani. He doesn't hug her back, he leaves home early and comes late at night, he doesn't eat the food Nandani made for him. But there are instances where his feelings can't help but get in the way of making his decisions. They have hugged, but both of them have made deliberate step towards being separate from each other. Kunal literally found a flat the day after Nandani tells him to do.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: music_l0ver036

Yeah I understand that they are trying to depict the two women as opposites, that's very apparent. However, Kunal has also shown to be perfectly fine with Mauli being her authentic self without having to sacrifice anything for her husband or family. That is the premise of him as a husband, someone who is understanding and respectful of Mauli's choices.
The fact that we are shown that he wants someone who is emotional and can't make her own choices and needs him all the time is telling us that women always need men in order to basically survive. That is not what I want the show to head towards. I love this show because of how feminist Kunal is, and him wanting his life partner to always need him and can't even live at a place without his constant over watch seems a little out of character to me.

Exactly, and thats why, when they started with an overdose of sanskaar and tradition in Nandini, I started to hate it. And I agree that so far Kunal was not shown to be having any issues with Mauli's nature, but if he'd start now, it won't look very convincing.Though I must say, at least this baby thing is going to be huge for Kunal.
Kunal is right now fascinated by Nandini's personality or whatever aspects of her personality he had seen so far. It is an attraction, a physical and emotional attraction. It happens in real world too most of the time, but one has to know how to divert one's mind from getting carried away. Kunal is a grown man, so I am hoping he will snap out of his laachar majnoo mode and look at his wife. But then, we know what this story is all about and where the makers are headed. Just like they rushed with the realization phase, without Nandini in the house Kunal may suddenly have another realization, that he is undeniably and irrevocably in love with Nandini. Let's wait and watch.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: Diya_Abhilasha



@Bold: If Mouli does not have qualities what kunal needed then why he married mouli? And in a marriage two persons thoughts / likes/dislikes may not match each other.They will adjust with each other to make it a successful marriage.

If Kunal in future sees some other girl who is more beautiful than nandini then again his jazbaat will change?



Well, there might be other qualities in Mauli like her smile, her caring nature which he must have liked enough for him to fall in love with her. He was adjusting in his marriage, had accepted her as she is and was happy. I don't think he ever thought that he will find another girl. Infact when Mauli in the beginning suggested he woul have loved Nandini, he was angry and had also opposed a friend of his would was involved in EMA. But then life took an unexpected turn for him.

I seriously don't know if he will fall in love with a third girl but his character that they have shown till now does not suggest that he is a person who falls in and out of love easily. Infact in the beginning he was also fighting his feelings for Nandini too as he did not want that to happen.

Please note that's this is just my view
Edited by pamk06 - 7 years ago
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: Jiggy7


Exactly thats what I said they are conveying emotions through eyes, subtle hints or whatever.. Dey aren't really controlling feelings.. For example during packing scene N hugs M and says I will never forget whatever happened in this house.. will treasure those memories forever and looks at K... She z conveying her love... When K looks at N and tells it would have been nice if someone were to stop me... He z conveying his love.. siwaye N ke ghar chodne ke decision ke koi aur aisa activity nahi h which shows that anyone wants to control feelings...😆😆

I think they have admitted to themselves and to each other that there are feelings whether they like it or not. And it's actually a great thing that they talk about it. This is something that won't just go away if you ignore it enough times. The step they've taken to communicate with each other, no matter how small, is beneficial. It's better if you try to solve a problem head on rather than pretend like it doesn't exist. And when they do talk it's not like they're so happy and disregard anyone elses feelings besides their own. Again, they have taken major steps in staying away from each other. Situations sometimes lead them to interact with each other no matter how hard they try. The whole show is about EMA, like that is a major plot so things have to happen in order for it move ahead lol so longing eyelocks and indirect comments about emotions are the way to go at this point in time
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: music_l0ver036

I thought it was random in the sense that it sprouted from nowhere but I guess that is the point. Despite himself, he's drawn to Nandani. But I wouldn't go far as him thinking that it's qualities he wants in a wife though, because he has been genuinely happy with Mauli. And we have been shown time to time that he is perfectly fine with Mauli working and being as self-sufficient as she is. Yeah I agree, one thing that I have seen time to time is that Kunal has always tried to keep himself away from Nandani. He doesn't hug her back, he leaves home early and comes late at night, he doesn't eat the food Nandani made for him. But there are instances where his feelings can't help but get in the way of making his decisions. They have hugged, but both of them have made deliberate step towards being separate from each other. Kunal literally found a flat the day after Nandani tells him to do.



Yes, the feelings had to be sudden because as you said he was extremely happy with Mauli so when you are happy why would you look for love elsewhere. Hence when he was struck with the feelings during the dance scene he was flabbergasted. He didn't know what was happening, what going on and he didn't want to feel what he was feeling. Hence his words to Mauli to never go away from him as he was scared.

Mauli herself has mentioned Kunal wanted a wife who wears saree, cooks food etc but more than that who he can take care of or protect. Mauli is very self sufficient and they are very equal but Nandini when she entered their lives was vulnerable and unknowingly he became her pillar of strength more than Mauli. So even in the temple scene during land slide, he was more concerned about Nandini because he subconsciously he knew that Mauli can take care of herself. And all this feeling of attraction, taking care of, protecting are increasing with each passing day. We just have to wait and see if this is temporary or permanent.

Also, I do not mean that Nandini is not strong, no not at all. Where Mauli is practically strong or matters related to outside world, Nandini is emotionally strong. hence, she could survive 7 years of abuse as well be strong in her decision to walk away.
Edited by pamk06 - 7 years ago
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: surabhi01

I have read ur post that u r saying both r conveying love


U read my post, yet u conveniently ignored MY MENTIONING OF N'S LEAVING HOUSE and questioned me regarding same..

Fine they are expressing their UNNAMED FEELINGS ( which isn't love according to u ) through their eye conversations, subtle hints, night talks etc which they want to avoid...
The channel uses the terminology love in its titles ' Kunal realises his love for Nandini' and I just followed that.. I didn't use new labels like attraction, lust etc...
Fir v aap bolte ho to maan maan leti hun unke beech jo feelings hai unka koi naam nahi h especially its not love!!!! They are conveying their UNNAMED FEELINGS through their activities which is in no way helping their intended cause of supressing these UNNAMED FEELINGS...
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: music_l0ver036

I think they have admitted to themselves and to each other that there are feelings whether they like it or not. And it's actually a great thing that they talk about it. This is something that won't just go away if you ignore it enough times. The step they've taken to communicate with each other, no matter how small, is beneficial. It's better if you try to solve a problem head on rather than pretend like it doesn't exist. And when they do talk it's not like they're so happy and disregard anyone elses feelings besides their own. Again, they have taken major steps in staying away from each other. Situations sometimes lead them to interact with each other no matter how hard they try. The whole show is about EMA, like that is a major plot so things have to happen in order for it move ahead lol so longing eyelocks and indirect comments about emotions are the way to go at this point in time


If u think communicating feelings and contemplating on its unrighteousness is the way to overcome them, it might be..

But from my POV complete avoidance is the technique and thatswhy I considered N's leaving house as the only instance when either of them has taken a constructive step to overcome their feelings and rest of the eye conversations, night talks, subtle hints etc as deterrent to their intended purpose of overcoming the feelings...

Maybe different ppl use different methods to overcome their fatal feelings.. But if talking it out is the way, wouldn't it be beneficial it both of them together or individually talk it out with M, put forward their mistakes and find an amicable solution...

And I never said they should stop doing whatever they are doing and agreed without it story wouldn't move forward, be it EMZ/EMA/EMF... 😆😆😆 But these activities appear to me as forwarding their feelings and leading to the crux of the story rather than ways to supress their feelings...
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Posted: 7 years ago
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jiggy u have tell sivaaye Ghar chodne ke elwa khuch aur aisa kiya nahi hai Jo control feelings.may u tell me control feelings karne ke liye aur kya Nandini ko karna chahiye

kya Nandini ko India ke Bahar chale jaana chahiye ya phir koi ashram join kar Lena chahiye aur duniya se sanyaas le Lena chahiye?? ya phir aankhon mein Patti bandh ke ghumta chahiye
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