why is amrit always slapping saroj??

prernacda

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Posted: 13 years ago

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she is encouraging it...but then does not want to trouble her father who has 3 more daughters to marry...keeping her family izzat and he is a jerk period...

his mom needs to go on teerath yatra with chachi

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Sana Khan

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Posted: 13 years ago

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I never speak on forums about my personal life but i will tonight. I was also a sufferer of domestic violence and everytime after my ex beat me, i despised him..i didn't go acting as everything was ok, he made my skin crawl, i actually wanted him dead. He hit me once to often and i got up and walked away, yes i lost everything even my family who wanted me to stick it out and accept his apology but i would not lose my self respect for any man or my family. Will my family forgive me and speak to me again, who knows ? but i for one no that no matter what my outcomes was, i did right thing. Now i have a wonderful husband who loves me and adores me. So my message is for anyone who wants to do something to please parents, please urself 1st, i know it is hard esp in our culture but even we as children of our parents deserve some respect, afterall to gain respect, u must show respect. Also never worry if people say ' no man will marry a divorced woman ', it is wrong, a decent guy would.

Now back to topic, i can't understand why Saroj is so loyal to Amrit and it looks as though she always gonna be that way and jus accept him slapping her, maybe she is blinded by his looks. She don want anyone to know so her papa don get troubled, well she is troublin her papa by doin what she is doin. Yes Amrit will change and become sweet but still does not make up for slappin her in 1st place.

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megustajalebi

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Originally posted by: sweetsana1
I never speak on forums about my personal life but i will tonight. I was also a sufferer of domestic violence and everytime after my ex beat me, i despised him..i didn't go acting as everything was ok, he made my skin crawl, i actually wanted him dead. He hit me once to often and i got up and walked away, yes i lost everything even my family who wanted me to stick it out and accept his apology but i would not lose my self respect for any man or my family. Will my family forgive me and speak to me again, who knows ? but i for one no that no matter what my outcomes was, i did right thing. Now i have a wonderful husband who loves me and adores me. So my message is for anyone who wants to do something to please parents, please urself 1st, i know it is hard esp in our culture but even we as children of our parents deserve some respect, afterall to gain respect, u must show respect. Also never worry if people say ' no man will marry a divorced woman ', it is wrong, a decent guy would.

Now back to topic, i can't understand why Saroj is so loyal to Amrit and it looks as though she always gonna be that way and jus accept him slapping her, maybe she is blinded by his looks. She don want anyone to know so her papa don get troubled, well she is troublin her papa by doin what she is doin. Yes Amrit will change and become sweet but still does not make up for slappin her in 1st place.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I can imagine how hard it must be to talk about it, even on an anonymous forum. I'm glad you have moved past that and are in a better place with your life 😊

I think Saroj is in denial with her situation. A lot of victims don't want to outright admit that they are in a bad situation. We don't know exactly what she is thinking. Perhaps she thinks that if she can put on a smile and move past what occurred, then everything will be ok. If that's true, it's actually really sad.

I don't understand why she won't tell anyone though and told her sister not to tell anyone. This isn't 1955 where the wife's family will be shamed for something like this. It's 2012, and it doesn't look good if a guy and his family are revealed to be abusive. They'll suffer the badnaami, not Saroj and her family.

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prernacda

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Posted: 13 years ago

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thanksforsharing and standing up...our mothers are our worse enemies sometime and i can relate...

standard saying...we suffered too and put up with it...so you should too...!

the biggest bs copout

wish you all the best...

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Sana Khan

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Originally posted by: prernacda
thanksforsharing and standing up...our mothers are our worse enemies sometime and i can relate...

standard saying...we suffered too and put up with it...so you should too...!
the biggest bs copout

wish you all the best...

Exactly, i know from my experience my parents stayed with eachother jus for me and my sister, so my mom expected me to stay with my ex, however i met a wonderful friend who gave me the courage to face what was happenin to me and leave, she was like an angel and she taught me the meanin of life. Regardless as to what has happened i still love my parents and will continue to, jus wish one day my mom speaks to me and see's her gorgeous lil grandson

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Sana Khan

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Thank you for sharing your experience. I can imagine how hard it must be to talk about it, even on an anonymous forum. I'm glad you have moved past that and are in a better place with your life 😊

I think Saroj is in denial with her situation. A lot of victims don't want to outright admit that they are in a bad situation. We don't know exactly what she is thinking. Perhaps she thinks that if she can put on a smile and move past what occurred, then everything will be ok. If that's true, it's actually really sad.

I don't understand why she won't tell anyone though and told her sister not to tell anyone. This isn't 1955 where the wife's family will be shamed for something like this. It's 2012, and it doesn't look good if a guy and his family are revealed to be abusive. They'll suffer the badnaami, not Saroj and her family.

Denial is a womans biggest problem, esp in this situation because we don want to admit. It is a tv serial so Saroj will make Amrit come right way but in reality it isn't so easy to forgive and forget, hands should not be raised in 1st place on a wife.

I don mind sharing, i myself volunteer to talk to other women who were in my situation. I might not ever be able to stop domestic abuse but if i can encourage women to 'get up and leave ' then i am happy. I don ecourage divorce but i certainly don encourage stayin in an abusive marriage..

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