Why Get Married?

Episode 3 was on the dowry system...i was wondering what the views are on marriage of our forum members ...if you are married...what was your reason for deciding to get married?...did you have a choice at all?...and was dowry an issue you had to face?...if you are not married yet...what will make you want to get married?...and will you really even have a say in the matter?...what will you do if the dowry issue shows up?

share your vote!😃

@ ary42 ...thanks...but i want to know what the personal views are...if the ground truth is also your personal view today...then that is ok too

thanks for your votes!...interesting there is a bit of everything..."love" seems to be the majority...i wonder why all the views and such little votes?😕...

Originally posted by: 18mypride

voted for 1st option ❤️

jissse pyar kiya usse shadi ki... zamaane se baghavat kardi humne, hamare gharwale court kacheri tak chalgeye HUM dono ko alag karnekeliye...

ultimately they agreed ... we are happily married living together ..

shaadi mein na hum ne ek juice piya na khana khaya... kisi se ek tohfa na liya na ek paisa... bas duwa chahi ki hame alag na karen..

by God's grace everything is fine ... finally its all almighty's wish!

16yrs of friendship 6 yrs of wedding life 😊 feeling so happy to share with U!

Originally posted by: Chitrashi

Love (As in romantic love) in my opinion disappears after the first two days. What remains is making adjustments with each other. For me the true definition of love is spending 20 years of your life with someone, knowing all their strengths and weaknesses and still choosing to be with that one person. Being embarrassed by your partner's habits, opinions, actions in front of your family and friends (there would be numerous occasions on both sides) and still justifying your partner and supporting him/her. And this test of love doesn't come unless you've lived with that person for a number of years.

Seriously I haven't found the right reason to get married as yet. In my mother's generation marriage was a way towards financial security, since not a lot of women were working and an unmarried girl in her brother's household was nothing less than a drudge. But in recent times with education and financial independence I see no reason why a woman should get married.

Apparently a lot of women agree with me since the rate of marriages are dropping in urban centers esp. in working class women as also an increase in rate of divorce. Also with financial independence has come a greater unwillingness in girls to adjust (an euphemism for mental/emotional/physical harassment by in-laws).

I am not married and see no reason why I should. In my opinion marriage is a legal process by which you acquire the one person who can be guaranteed to misunderstand you all your life. In my case, it would not even be misunderstanding, we both cannot even begin to comprehend the way the other thinks.

I am very close to someone and if I ever do decide to get married it would be him. But we both love the cities we live in and hate the hometowns of the other. Neither of us can conceive leaving our hometowns. We have diametrically opposite world views. I'm extremely close to my family and involved in the lives of my cousins, uncles, aunts etc, he is not at all close to his parents even. I love Hindi movies and serials he abominates TV. I love the printed books and reading, he's on his comp 24x7. Small, small things but an example of how different we are, and we are both resigned to this state of affairs.

PS: I haven't voted since I'm still looking for that elusive answer. As a teenager/young woman I could never comprehend "What is love" and now that I understand what love is, I think it'll take me time to move to that next level :)

@ Chitrashi ...yes i am always surprised at the things i share on IF also :) ...actually your case is similar to mine ...except of the special someone ( i don't have one)...but taking care of my parents is a major factor for me not marrying yet...though for my culture marriage is not an automatic goal..only if you plan to live with the person...but i can perfectly stay single for the rest of my life i think...now i think i should go back to whole point of this post...which was to sort of link it to the Dowry episode...i just remember that Aamir kept saying that marriage has turned into a business in India because of the reason why people get married...so i was wondering what was the reason why Indian's are getting married...