To know your priorities in life

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Posted: 13 years ago
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This is not about BM,Rano,Alok or even Ishaan. This is about Suhana and her decision to work in a serial. Everyone comes across a point in life where your own priorities need to be analyzed and then decision needs to be made about them. Suhana decided to act not because it was her dream to act or because she really wanted to work outside.She was discovered and just took the serial job without giving too much thought in to it because she was supported by BM.

Then she started liking acting in a serial -which is not abnormal either.The fame which comes with acting is not that easy to give it all away.

That being said,she has to now make a decision -as she now knows the pros and cons of acting in a serial.She will have to work odd hours,she has to sacrifice her time with Ishaan but at the same time she is enjoying what she is doing.The decision is for her to make-not anyone else not even Ishaan OR EVEN BM this time.

If she decides to continue acting,then that is perfectly fine too.She should just sit down and have a talk with Ishaan and Rano as well.

What if Ishaan was working in a serial and he came home at 2:00 am?Then Suhana also would have complained about it right?It is not about Bahu or Beta.It is about an individual getting married and how every act of yours affects your partner and at the same time your own dreams,your own aspirations also have to be fulfilled.

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Tani91 thumbnail
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: svpg


What if Ishaan was working in a serial and he came home at 2:00 am?Then Suhana also would have complained about it right?It is not about Bahu or Beta.It is about an individual getting married and how every act of yours affects your partner and at the same time your own dreams,your own aspirations also have to be fulfilled.



wonderful topic and I agree with you👏
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at the top. I think that is what they will ultimately show. Ishan supports Suhana at this point because she is happy working in a serial and that is something she is good at. Ishan is putting Suhana's happiness before his own which is amazing

I totally agree that if Suhana does want to quit it should be on her own terms and not because Rano is upset or not. Call me a feminist or whatever but why the hell should she quit her job just because her husband is "unhappy" (according to her mother in law) I find that completely absurd
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Good post... I think in Nuclear family.. only husband and children would be there and if husband is supportive and understanding, there will be no much problems. But in Joint family, you have responsibility towards in laws also and as a DIL you have to take their decision considering their views also.. Sometime you have to sacrifice your wishes for happiness and peace in the family .
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Posted: 13 years ago
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@ abhi: I think if family is supportive than it's not so difficult for a woman to juggle in her personal & private life... & there is very less burden in joint family as the other members share the responsibilities of home but in nuclear family it often creates a rift between hubby & wife over the responsibilities of home & children. In SGP the entire family except rano is supporting suhaana that's why it's easier for both ishaan & suhaana...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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great post topic-maker👍🏼
as 38 post only so welcome to the forum & if it's ok with u, do teel us ur name or a pen name.this is nishaan.
& chandni u said it all👏
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: misty85

@ abhi: I think if family is supportive than it's not so difficult for a woman to juggle in her personal & private life... & there is very less burden in joint family as the other members share the responsibilities of home but in nuclear family it often creates a rift between hubby & wife over the responsibilities of home & children. In SGP the entire family except rano is supporting suhaana that's why it's easier for both ishaan & suhaana...



I agree with you in joint family not much problems if all agree.. But i think in joint family conflicts may arise, depending on earnings, spending,working sharing, comparisions would be much more in joint families..
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Tani91



wonderful topic and I agree with you👏
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at the top. I think that is what they will ultimately show. Ishan supports Suhana at this point because she is happy working in a serial and that is something she is good at. Ishan is putting Suhana's happiness before his own which is amazing

I totally agree that if Suhana does want to quit it should be on her own terms and not because Rano is upset or not. Call me a feminist or whatever but why the hell should she quit her job just because her husband is "unhappy" (according to her mother in law) I find that completely absurd

Agree with Both of You 😃
Suhana has to decide her Priorities at the End...😊 and I want her to understand this by her own at least this time😉😆
I wud Love to see something along the Line... Where Suhana Appreciate Ishaan putting her Happiness before Him... and She wud do something similar for Ishaan too... 😃
I also want to see Suhana realizing How her Working in Serial is Possible coz She Lives in Joint Family... and She doing something to tell them that without Kashyap's Support She wud have never been able to start with the Acting for the First Step... 😃
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Posted: 13 years ago
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hmm ... Rano is right to a point... that she doesnt approve of suhana working...
but her reasons and her outburst was wrong... she is (1) more worried about what the mohalla wala are saying... does it matter more than the happiness of the children... because mohalla walas will talk one way or the other... (2) she is emotionally blackmailing suhana saying that ishaan has become lonely...yes initially he was against her working... but has rano updated her info.?.. as ishaan now approves suhanas working...(3) she accuses suhana of not doing any housework>.. wasnt she the one who said that she will give her all the love and never let her bahu do any housework...? now why is she changing her tune?

that is my point of view... ofcourse suhanas priorities are another question... i was just replying to the statement."rano is right"...


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Posted: 13 years ago
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^I completely agree with that...Rano's sentiments and reasoning is completely justified but not the way she is enacting them. Rano first of all said that Ishan was lonley which he said he didnt have a problem with it and secondly she taunts them by saying that they will not have children (which I felt was completely absurd and uncalled for) and then also what work does Suhana do. I mean if Suhana doesnt do housework then atleast let her focus on her career, it shows that she is better at acting than she is at cooking/cleaning right
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Sometimes , our mothers have super sense of our thinking , which neither we want to admit or we want to show .

Ishan is giving mix signals . When he is with suhana , he is saying he is right . While Rano told him private , he said " main bhi toh mana kiya than naa. Meri kaun sunta hain . Aab kuch nahi ho sakta , maana karna thaa toh taab karna thaa " if he has no problem then this sentenses speaks volums . It is also important to understand the underlinning problems too . He still has problem but he is not willing to accept it . Other wise that day he would have said , maa I don't have problem but We'll talk more on the subject later or let go talk in my room as we need work things out with suhana too . Which didn't happen .

Rano did see ishan waitiing alone for suhana at night , at staires etc . If this was other way around then rano had asked ishan to come home sooner too . May b rano is right , may b not . But I do know one thing Suhana is wrong . She needs to work things out in different perspective . She needs to see that no decisions should b made in haste .

If we think Rano only cares for mohalla wala then We r wrong . The way rano jump to defend suhana regarding actor talk makes me believe she cares. Samaj is part of us , we are part of that samaj . Just the same way KK too has to make choice of ignoring the samaj or not soon .

Here too problem is 2 sided . Suhana doesnot think beyond what she wants to do and Rano can't present her point in constructive manner . Ishan too is not helping by giving his honest opinion what he wants . Suhana - rano likes it or not . As for accusation of suhana not doing any house work , well does she ? It is not accusation since suhana is not doing anything . Li,e someone said in other thread . Can she not make tea or something since she had PM shift .

Many times Rajni too tells Disha that raheno do I'll do it . So disha leaves like that ? No she sticks around to help . If she can . Suhana too needs to help around specially when she can . Problem is they gave too much time to suhana to understand what is expected of her which she has not learned yet . Suhana doesn't need to do cook n clean all the time but when she can . Not just show up for breakfast , lunch dinner .

Rano has said in the past that she wants to give love to suhana n never want her to do household chores . Rano along with BM wants suhana to help around house , but does she ?

End of the day its suhana who needs to work out her priorities .

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