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Since Friday,s episode, I have been thinking about friends and realatives I know, who have changed there life style and personalities for there husbands. Some did comfortably as they themselves were not happy they way they were,and some did because if they didnt do it " WOH KAHIN AUR JA KAR APNAY SHOAK PORAY KAR LAIGA", this line may sound filmi but its true. I know quite a lot of ladies, who say there prayers( namaz) at time when husbands are not around as the husband dont LIKE his wife to do something which is so OUTDATED. I have seen them wearing clothes which make them uncomfortable but yet they do it as husband want them to be like that.
My question is how FAR, what is the LIMIT and WHY always WOMEN??? I have accepted my husband the way he is, and he SHOULD accept me , yes there are times when I wish he wouldnt behave the way he does, but then I can reason it but cant OREDER him, I want to be treated the same way . I do things which makes my husband happy because I LOVE him and because I dont have to COMPROMISE on my MORALS and my VALUES, if he would want me to wear western dresses , I would wear it if its covering me according to my VALUES, but if it doesnt then I wouldnt even wear desi dresses which doesnt . I would not be a show off peice for him infront of his friends, but if he would want me to be with him as his life partner and with respect then I have no problem in going out and meeting his friends and colleagues, but at the same tme I would not tolerate any of his friend making me uncomfortabel.
Share your thoughts as I am fully with Badi Maa here, she couldnt compromise with her values, its good that she didnt change
My sister in law is my ideal when it comes to keeping her own identity, her husband was VC of big foriegn bank , parties all the time , my sister always attended the parties in Sarees, her desi make up style and never tried to pretend what she was not, didnt speak English , so never pretended that she can, we knew that some of other Desi BAIGUMAAT(Mrs.) use to make fun of her but that didnt bother her, husband gave up on changing her, guess what , she was very popular with GOORAS and GOORIS as she was honest and simply loving person, which mattered the most.
My question is how FAR, what is the LIMIT and WHY always WOMEN??? I have accepted my husband the way he is, and he SHOULD accept me , yes there are times when I wish he wouldnt behave the way he does, but then I can reason it but cant OREDER him, I want to be treated the same way . I do things which makes my husband happy because I LOVE him and because I dont have to COMPROMISE on my MORALS and my VALUES, if he would want me to wear western dresses , I would wear it if its covering me according to my VALUES, but if it doesnt then I wouldnt even wear desi dresses which doesnt . I would not be a show off peice for him infront of his friends, but if he would want me to be with him as his life partner and with respect then I have no problem in going out and meeting his friends and colleagues, but at the same tme I would not tolerate any of his friend making me uncomfortabel.
Share your thoughts as I am fully with Badi Maa here, she couldnt compromise with her values, its good that she didnt change
My sister in law is my ideal when it comes to keeping her own identity, her husband was VC of big foriegn bank , parties all the time , my sister always attended the parties in Sarees, her desi make up style and never tried to pretend what she was not, didnt speak English , so never pretended that she can, we knew that some of other Desi BAIGUMAAT(Mrs.) use to make fun of her but that didnt bother her, husband gave up on changing her, guess what , she was very popular with GOORAS and GOORIS as she was honest and simply loving person, which mattered the most.
Mannat Har Khushi Paane Ki
Veer Hanuman
