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Roshni

@Roshni.

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Posted: 15 years ago

#11

Awesome post Simran ji!

I too am young to be thinking of marriage - College student as of yet!!

Some thoughts by me:

According to me Marriage means some compromises from our side to enter into a new world and I know like Suhana it takes some time to adjust in the new environment!! When you have a supportive family like the family of Kashyaps, you will not have any difficulties in adjusting yourself! Before you ask for anything, they give you what you require! (Like the AC), Ishaan too is supportive and giving her time! Yes, because you enter a different environment, the customs differ!

As the cliched proverb :Slow and Steady wins the race, Suhana is slowly getting accustomed to her new family and soon she would prove herself as a good Bahu which all of have to do!

PS: Simran you were doing the updates on Bure bhi hum Bhale bhi hum forum?

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Hey Roshni!! Thanks for the reply ji. I'll come to the discussion when I'm a bit more free (exams sar pe hain!!!!!!). Yesh, I did updates for Bure Bhi Hum Bale Bhi Hum and Baa Bahoo Aur Baby! My longggggggg updates ji, haye.-)

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@allizzwell

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Posted: 15 years ago

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@simran

Simmie what a wonderful thread yaar..👏... very very much essential for the SGP members as am sure many experiences and expectations will flow in here.....

as earlier posted too.... mine was an arranged marraige.... hardly interacted with my hubby for 4 days after engagement (the families knew each other distantly as fate had it our horoscopes matched and we got engaged...)and then he had to rush back abroad for his job.... in those 4 days of dating too... we hardly knew anything about the other as there were many distractions such as we went for a movie "dil toh pagal hai..." where i was more keen in watching SRK than him....🤣.... ( he still complaints about that.....😉...). then 9 months of gap for marraige but i took efforts at that time to understand my inlaws better, my husband's preferences and stuff like that..... In my marraige, the people of my inlaws building greeted me more than my hubby as i am too much of a social animal....🤣....

Yet darling.... the 9 months of my premarital interactions and my following 9 months when i had to reside in my inlaws place (till i obtained a visa)taught a hell lot of eye-opening lessons for me... the people were the same, their affection was the same ...the new situations and how i had to deal in those situations had all the major goofups i committed... so i had to learn life is a rose.. true.... but remember to handle it with the thorns too.....however have absolutely no regrets as i emerged much matured due to the circumstances and i stayed back with my inlaws for 9 years and kept joining my husband only during my child's vacations.....

Later it became difficult for my child when he missed his father and now we have put up together .... i would say my child too learnt a lot from the elders and benefitted a lot from the joint family though in a tough way..... many a time he had to learn it the hard way but i am happy today with the kind of compliments that come our way in grooming him has been totally due to the experiences in his life.....

So for me joint family is a wonderful experience and i have high regards and respect for each and every member of my family.....!

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Yaaaay finally koi toh aaya jo uss paar hai (meaning shaadied hai ji!) lol. Thanks for sharing your experiences Laxmi di!

Haye, I'm in a love marriage situation. But I am still terrified lol. He always says his mom will love me a lot and I know she will/does, but still scared here ji. I've had a fairytale romance, which had its ups and downs. I am a total family person, and I've told him that I'm not living alone anywhere. My reasoning is that I am going to have to leave my mom, so I want my second mom to be with me. I've always been complimented by the elders ke achi beti hai (I get along with them more than my age group wale lol); so I tell him ke you na just chup ji. You are mine already so I don't need to patao you, bas baade paat jaye lol.

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@allizzwell

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Posted: 15 years ago

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Originally posted by: ~*simran*~
Yaaaay finally koi toh aaya jo uss paar hai (meaning shaadied hai ji!) lol. Thanks for sharing your experiences Laxmi di!

Haye, I'm in a love marriage situation. But I am still terrified lol. He always says his mom will love me a lot and I know she will/does, but still scared here ji. I've had a fairytale romance, which had its ups and downs. I am a total family person, and I've told him that I'm not living alone anywhere. My reasoning is that I am going to have to leave my mom, so I want my second mom to be with me. I've always been complimented by the elders ke achi beti hai (I get along with them more than my age group wale lol); so I tell him ke you na just chup ji. You are mine already so I don't need to patao you, bas baade paat jaye lol.

Simmie.... your affection , your caring attitude for the elders will def. be able to win their hearts...and u are 200% right.... if one is able to think we have 2 mothers in our life.... life will never be harsh....! U will find a place in their hearts only as a daughter simmie...not as a daughter in law..... mark my words... follow your heart and u will achieve what u desire.....!😃

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Thank you ji! I'm a total maa ka bachcha, so I need the affection! Everyone still makes fun of me when I call her everytime I go somewhere or want something or anytthing lol. I am the only person in my family who gets teased which so unfair, and to think I'm the oldest, haye. You know we always see how much love our own parents give us, their sacrifices, and their lives to us. So it is only fair to see your in-laws with the same eyes. Aur waise bhi I enjoy having family around me.

I think it's not even comprimise (well for me) b/c you do things for others out of love. I am the oldest in my family, and well I've seen some days. My parents think that I have comprismised a lot, and let go of a lot. However, I see it differently. I see the smiles of my younger siblings and feel happy. For me, they are bachcha party and purely out of love I have done what I have ji. Ditto for the life I'll live with my hone wala patidev and inlaws. Thoda mera thoda unnka out of love. B/c it's love for me, I don't look at it like a comprimise in living; I look at it ke a new incorportion to my life has been added.

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@allizzwell

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Posted: 15 years ago

#17

@simran

I don't look at it like a compromise in living; I look at it ke a new incorportion to my life has been added.

Simmie..... these quotes of yours stole my heart..😉... lovely.... awesome....!👏

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Sanaya

@Sanayaa

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Posted: 15 years ago

#18

laxmi di u told me about dis topic nd I just culdnt stop myself from coming here 😉

Awesum topic simran thnks a lot for opening dis 🤗

Kkkk now coming back to d topic 😆 well I m also tooo young for marriage...I m a lil baccha lolz nd I dont want to be d next baalika vadhu 😆 kkk jokes apart for me as for many of u, marriage is definately a fairy tale....I dont really want to look at d negative aspects of marriage*if dere r any*......Its lyk d biggest drm of my life to get married to dat special person in my lyf 😳 nd I kno it will be one of d most happiest moments of my lyf...LOlz I just dont want to think about compromises problems nd all....I prefer to be in my dream world where everything is just perfect...lolz...
Talking about sasuraal oh man I badly want to get married in a joint family....I just luv d feeling of being in a joint family...haha nd it will be sone pe suhaga if I get a sasuraal lyk dat of suhana's uske baad to g balle balle no tnsns 😆
@Laxmi di: wow yaar I m truely impressed by u... U preferred to live wid ur inlawas wah wah...
Omg only 4 days of dating ahem ahem....sirf chaar din... 😲
Wow u guys went to see DTPH one of my fav muvies....I just luv it 😍 hehe u kept on staring srk poor jij...but I wuld have done d same lolz....

@Simran: I m equally impressed by u g.... I agree our happiness lies in d happiness of our family vo khush to hum bhi khush... I always wanted to be same wid my brother but I culd never do dis lolz I always wanted things before he got although I luv him lyk nything he is my lyf but sumtimes I behave lyk manics but d next moment I get busy trying to make him happy....well Dis is me ek hi baat har baar der se samajh aati hai ki I get happy wenever he is happy lolz...
I hope ur married lyf is equally awesum as ur pre marital lyf
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@-RD-

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Posted: 15 years ago

#19

Hmmm .....Well i fall in the category of those engaged to be married soon ...later this year in my case !!!!

My Sasural people ...super cool , my wud be FIL- my buddy ..we crack each other up .....as for my wud be MIL - spoilt and vsweet -luves to pamper and spoil me ......she thinks i am the best thing that evr happened to her son ...where as i think her son is the best thing that ever happened to me!!!!And the super loving dadiji who luves to see me in western dresses and holds an opinion on them as well!!!Other then that I am quite spoilt but my parents really have this fear that after marriage i'll be more bigda hua .....more spoilt .....cause mere wud be inlaws and fiance love to pamper me .........agar woh kuch pampering bhool jaaye to dadiji hain yaad dilaane ke liye ...........

As for my fiance he is very submissive when it comes to me otherwise he is quite the opposite..koi usse kuch karva nahin sakta ..he has is own rules he goes by but when it comes to me i think lot of rules have been twisted , bent n what not and all family members vouch for this , other than that he luves to pull my leg and irritate me but knows how to make me lauf the next instant ....whenevr he is making fun of me he is super happy and seeing happy makes it all worth it ........We have known each other for a long long time now ...and i trust his judgement and intelligence more than my own....but i usually boss over when it comes to his personal issues and have given him a piece of my mind on some occasions ......mere issi bossy attitude ne meri wud be MIL ko impress kiya .....she says i have been able to rectify some damage done by others in his case

I am looking forward to staying with my inlaws with whom i have spent some wonderful moments ..and share some awesome chemistry ...and as for my fiance ..us becoming friends was a series of coincidences ...but i guess we were meant to be ....and as for us getting married ...after the fact that our friendship was on the rocks for so many years ...it seemed like a dream when he resurfaced and asked for my hand ( i thought he had come to apologize and be friends ...and i played a little hard to get !!!) so much so he had already asked my parents for my hand before he approached me (in larko ka kuch nahin kaha ja sakta they are as unpredictable as girls)...aur mere parents total fida over him ...kaise na kehte ......

Hum larkiyan bhi kaise kaise chakkar mein fass jaati hain !!!!!