Arshi ji... I seriously can't believe this is the last CB... it's finally hit me that you're leaving š š
By the looks of today's CB... the show doesn't seem too interesting... yet we stick around because we're emotionally attached (well, in my case.. that's exactly it.) I'm still waiting for a miracle where the show will change its track and actually be realistic for once (and not to mention, get one female character in order at least... they're all whack now by the looks of it š¤¢)
I really, really wish that you'd ride out the rest of the the bad times with us just as you rode the waves of good times with us all... After all, a family is only really called a family when it sticks together through especially thick, and thin.
Because this is the last CB for an indefinite amount of time, I will write up a few words based upon ongoing CB reading, and a few spoken updates about the show š³
I'm still waiting to catch a glimpse of some sort of news that reveals KKumi will somehow turn 180 degrees and be the strong, rational, educated woman that she once was.
Contrary to popular belief on the forum right now, I am very disappointed at the fact that everyone is looking at Pramad as the culprit. Unfortunately, we have a lot of Pramad-types in society... and even worse is that the ones stuck in situations involving unstable people like Pramad most likely end up being the ones who suffer; thus, they are compelled to do one thing or the other to remain dignified as human beings... to demand their rights to equality and freedom of choice.
But that's the thing with Kumud. She has done absolutely nothing to keep her dignity intact. Honestly speaking, where is that "bold" character Jennifer was preaching about to the media in March? She's definitely disappeared... and left a very bad example of what to do when you're in an abusive relationship behind... Now since everyone's talking about social messages here, I want to ask, (and forget momentarily the issue of Pramad... because even though what he does is extremely wrong, hey, it's reality... as much as I hate to say it, this stuff happens everywhere daily... minutely even. To wives, to elderly parents, to kids, even switching the roles in the relationship, making it husbands who suffer in abusive relationships in a lot of cases... this happens everywhere. And it's wrong.)
But, yes, I would like to ask... What is Kumud doing to keep her dignity intact? What is she doing to put herself in a better situation alongside her partner? Is being in denial, being a doormat, and suddenly becoming Dr. Phil really making things better? By remaining passive, all she's doing is putting herself in a bigger mess. She does not initiate any boundaries when it comes to respect. She does not try to ever improve her own situation... Instead all she does is kitchen politics with Kalika whenever she needs to let off steam...
If SP's "Nayi Sochi" slogan was absolute truth, KKumud wouldn't be the coward she is now. I can back this up, again, with personal experience as a child, listening to similar stories around the kitchen table while my Maammi and Nani would be sipping chaa and gossiping about the latest family happenings abroad and in India... A coward, in my definition of television shows, is someone who doesn't stand up to the social taboos of society. They just sit there quietly and allow themselves to be thrown around like a football... which is exactly what Kumud's done. Ever since she was married, never has she caused an uproar for being forced to eat the rabri, nor when she was cut on the forehead, nor when Pramad almost threw her over the side of the bridge on their first night. Even contrary to what her own father told her, which was to stand up for what she believed in, her rights, her values, her morals (so the whole "protect Bapu's honour stuff... it never made sense... And she claimed she was different.)
She remained silent about all these crimes, and the family got used to it... to the point where they're now looking at it with acceptance rather than correcting what is wrong. If she's supposed to be setting an example because she's on TV... WRONG move on her part.
Yes, it's completely out of the norm for them to be showing such gruesome stuff on prime time television... But it's also shameful of them to continually degrade their female protagonist. Socially speaking as the rest of the forum... That doesn't set a good example to women and our future generations of women.
I know it's hard to digest... but even though it's Pramad who's initiating all these crimes, and committing them... it's Kumud who's not putting an end to it... which is making the crimes worse and worse day by day. Wrong message to send to viewers, and definitely not a "nayi soch" way of approaching the touchy subject of domestic violence.
Edit: I know this is a super biased opinion considering how forceful my rant above was... but I have to say, to truly be a feminist, you must look at how to positively change a woman's situation. THAT is absolute feminism. It's true, men have always had the upper hand since... as long as we know. And if you read Anton Chekhov's "Short Stories About Women" you will see proof of this, and also, stories that prove the exact opposite. It depends from situation to situation. In Kumud's particular situation, she hasn't been blessed with having a lot of control like she had with the gentle, loving Saras of her past... which is why I firmly believe that being a feminist, and maybe even a true Kumud-wellwisher in this situation would be to not blame Pramad all the time, but rather, understand that it's up to Kumud and only Kumud to change her situation... and if she doesn't.. then in my opinion, she deserves all the gaaliyan for being so blind to reality.
Edited by veera25 - 11 years ago
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