Saraswatichandra & Parental Attachment Bonds

As an infant his father neglected him so he primarily bonded with his mother.

His relationship with his mother profoundly influenced his early developmental years. Unfortunately for him this bonding was short lived and ended in a traumatic experience.

His mother committed suicide in his presence though he pleaded for her to live. He was then brought up by a short-tempered father who never made an attempt to understand or know him and, at every opportunity belittled his birth mother and favor his step mother. The step mother is a conniving and shrewd lady whose sights are set on her husband's wealth and Saras's annihilation from their lives.

His birth mother valued education and had an abiding faith in God. She also advised Saras to obey his father. Saras applied himself diligently to his studies and prayer. But felt trapped into obeying his father's unreasonable demands. He did as his father wished in order to keep his birth mother happy - for somewhere in his mind he believed that he may have driven her to suicide (this thought was planted and nurtured by his step mother).

The parental attachment bond shapes an individual's brain, profoundly influencing a person's self-esteem, his/her expectations of others, the ability to attract and maintain successful adult relationships, and the ability to communicate effectively about emotional/personal issues.

In short as a child, Saras experienced confusing, frightening, and traumatized emotional bonding with his parents. It is no wonder that he grew into an adult who has difficulty understanding his own emotions and the feelings of others. His emotional balance is fragile and easily tipped by LN and Guman who are experts at pushing his buttons. Hours of self-reflection and prayer have provided him with some tools to find satisfaction in being with others and a sense of self-esteem. But he is still striving to find that which will enable him to rebound from disappointment, discouragement, and misfortune.

Today his eagerness to take the job offered by BD clearly reflected his need to fulfil his father's (LN) command - to show he was capable of standing on his own two feet and achieve something in life.

Saras has still a long way to go... ... he is still trying to please his daddy LN!