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Sorry for being the Aunty types with below post.
The novel Saraswatichandra was of Indian morals of late 1800. This serial is an adapted version of it in the modern times. Even in today's time when we show a heroine, who is so fiercely protective, proud and loving of her parents, to be busy in love making with a boy who has yet not publicly accepted her as quite bold.
My feeling comes with a personal experience, I remember my times, and doing such a thing first time without marriage brought in so much shame in me. Not that I felt I have done any thing wrong ( as I had not crossed any limits), but just physical proximity was so guilt ridden. The guilt felt was that I betrayed my father who trusts me so much, by allowing someone to come so close to me which he will never approve of before any commitment. Mind it I am not talking of long back but end of nineties. We were brought up with such pride and trust by our parents, that we felt the shame of betraying them even if we just talked closely to someone ( out of passion ).
Even the back drop the serial taken is of middle class background that too a girl from a village, where such social stigmas are taught to you from childhood, that you are for only one person, who can touch you, that too after marriage. Such thoughts are not burdensome, but give you a pride when you abstain. You feel pure.
I was surprised to see Kumud not showing any repentance ( not that she did any wrong, but the kind of background serial has built up, it was expected. Had it been a modern setup it would have been different).
I am not trying to do any moral policing, but was expecting a certain reaction from the character called Kumud, the way she is pride of her parents and she would never want to betray them. In fact I felt the feeling should have come the day she went to the roof top or for date. It was betrayal to her proud parents who trust her blindly.
Bottom line is we middle class girls are taught that to judge right or wrong, just think had you been doing it in front of your parents ... You will get the answer.
I know many of you would say, it's normal, for a 20 something girl in love to do this, even I agree, but what I don't agree with is that she did not repent it, as it was somehow a betrayal of trust of her parents, who supported her when she was right( when she returned late at night from the town with saraswatichandra ).
This post was written on 14 may, much before today, after the first embrace episode!
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