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Then Isabel, I also have a question. where did Crimson sky or Bani attacked the person particularly, they just mentioned their views..

why is it always like whenever any ragvir fans will say something that will be good, and if anything any saalkh fan will say will be taken in wrong sense.

why only Bani and Crimson were given warnings, when they just mentioned their views in general sense, where as somebody interrupted a healthy discussion and tried to instigate a fight and another member applauded it and they were just getting away with it..

@ crimson_sky:Again, I don't know, the kind of attack that was made on you, that you are talking about and what exactly qualifies as a warning in ur POV..I have been told by the mod on several occasions whenever I have been stepping over the line- and I try to view it objectively and thinking about it rather than jumping to a conclusion that the mod is out to get me. I am not saying the same thing happened with you- you might have had a different issue. All I am saying is, that if you don't agree with a certain member, or the action of a mod- there are better ways to deal with it. I am not saying you should curb your voice/ issues or forget them. But I just feel that open bashing will get us no where. Everyone has feelings. If you had a problem with a PM the mod sent you, you could have bombarded her with PMs in return until both of u reached a mutual understanding. It works, believe me, considering I have done that in the past on this very forum.

I just feel that talking about the same thing again and again and expressing our displeasure on how a certain member has talked/ behaved...just adds to the negativity of the forum. Again, I am not saying that I have always been right in the past..I have done the very mistakes that I speak of now...But don't you think, all of this is very tiresome and nothing but a vicious circle? It would just take us nowhere and would create a bigger divide in the forum...

Isabel...I read your post. You know what?....I AM FULLY IN AGREEMENT WITH YOU. I propose you read my post in the patni thread. And read it not as a RagVirian reading someone who is accused ot being a Saalekhian (because I always considered myself neutral). Read it as a person who wants to see the truth.

Originally posted by: t2004sachin

t2004sachin : How do u know that the other members involved have not got a warning by the mod? I think it is very wrong on our parts to think it is only the Saalkeh fans who get warnings and not Ragvir fans. There is no point denying it, I am a Ragvir fan, and I have got warnings in the past by the very mod you guys think to be biased. There are many other Ragvir fans I know who have got warnings to whenever they have stepped over the line.

Nobody said that a certain segment of fans needs to be careful while others don't. I just commented on whatever was happening in the forum today. I don't want to get into the nitty gritty- but there were members who commented on the kind of person a particular member is in real life- just because she did not like a fictional character. I just don't agree with that POV. Also, please understand- my posts here are not directed to a certain fanbase but to all members of this forum in general.

Crimson_Sky : If that has been said to you, then it is indeed wrong. Maybe you should keep bombarding her with PMs to tell her how wrong it is- until you finally get justice....

Originally posted by: isabel

t2004sachin : How do u know that the other members involved have not got a warning by the mod? I think it is very wrong on our parts to think it is only the Saalkeh fans who get warnings and not Ragvir fans. There is no point denying it, I am a Ragvir fan, and I have got warnings in the past by the very mod you guys think to be biased. There are many other Ragvir fans I know who have got warnings to whenever they have stepped over the line.

Nobody said that a certain segment of fans needs to be careful while others don't. I just commented on whatever was happening in the forum today. I don't want to get into the nitty gritty- but there were members who commented on the kind of person a particular member is in real life- just because she did not like a fictional character. I just don't agree with that POV. Also, please understand- my posts here are not directed to a certain fanbase but to all members of this forum in general.

Not liking a fictional character is different, spoiling a healthy discussion by giving nasty comments and then applauded by another member is different. She could have just mentioned her POVs like others did in the post.. Then that would have not instigated any comments from anybody.. But she mentioned just one -liner and then asked for a fight.

It's happening for quite long ..

I am not sure if any ragvir fans are getting warnings or not, But certainly it's not stopping few members from their nasty acts..

they just take it for granted that they can tell anything at any point of time and spoli the mood..
the mods should issue strict warning to them also.

And I would alos like to clarify no where Crimson sky or bani ,mentioned about the name of any person.. they just wrote that anybody who can say bad things as a wife to sadhna her real life thinking are wrong .. It's not personal attack

t2004sachin: I am sorry, I disagree with you here. I am not saying the member was right in doing whatever she did, like jumping into a discussion like you say. But her opinion I maintain was on a fictional character. Commenting, or passing our judgement on how the member might be in real life, is wrong IMO. Its ok to not agree with her, or even have a problem with her jumping into the discussion and reporting to the mod ,etc. But its a personal attack when someone says how a certain member may be in real life....Thats just my POV...Everyone is human being and passing these type of judgments are wrong. Who are we to judge someone anyways? We are not God!

I am not in favor of any personal attacks or passing any judgments on anyone for his/her POV. But in this particular situation, I must say the member did cross the line.....first of all it was a fun and harmless topic.

What was the need to write that comment and with blanks ?? If you dont like any character then its fine but please be honest and direct about it. There is no need to play such games and spoil the mood of everyone. Its so obvious that it can't be a decent remark...specially with a "but' in the sentence. The whole thread is now wasted over this issue. Its just pathetic.

We all come to this forum to discuss the show and have some fun time, not to fight with each other or prove some point.

I read the topic under discussion and in this particular case a member wrote a word with blanks, she / he was asked very politely to fill in the blanks. Another member came and applauded the above member that member was also asked politely to fill in the blanks.

I would just like to know why both the members did not reply and post the actual word when they were requested many times politely. If they would have done so the situation would not have escalated at all. If they did not do it i would take it as they have something to hide or cover up, and which i feel is the real reason for any delay that is happening.

If after asking politely and not getting a proper reply but seeing that the request was just made a mockery of, then i think if and only if Bani or Crimson Sky said something then for me they are not in the wrong at all.