Rahm, I can see your points....however I still feel it is excessive to lump Mamiji in the same mould as Vasu.
Vasu literally tries to make manipulate the lives of all those around her to dance on her tunes....for the most part she has no remorse and will go to any extent.
Kaushi on the other hand, has valid reasons for her insecurities.
Granted that does not excuse her being so mean to Sadhna whenever the whim strikes her.....but the fact of the matter is...and Sadhna knows this very well too that underneath all the gruffness that Kaushi may show when she's having one of her bitter phases, she still truly loves Sadhna and cares for her.....I was watching an old epi just a few days ago, and the way Kaushi cared for Sadi during the time leading up to the Saalekh wedding and even afterwards when Mamaji wanted to kick Sadi out of the house.....that was amazing.
Vasu is a borderline psychotic.....Kaushi is just a woman who has seen the worse side of how cruel society can be and that has shaped her beliefs growing up.
She only brought up Shishir again cuz for all practical purposes, he is a nice guy and she feels that her daughter will be happy there.....she is not a woman who has 'fallen in love' herself before marriage...she LEARNT to love her own husband, that is just a generational difference....she feels it could be the same for Ragi...that she could 'learn to love her husband'
This thinking is obviously flawed given how it is obvious to everyone how much Ragvir love each other and have sacrificed for each other.
But that HARDLY makes Kaushi as mean as Vasu.....the day Kaushi BUYS out ppl to do her bidding, or sends gundas to spy after her enemies, THEN she'll graduate to the Vasundhara Rajvansh level of patheticness.
As for the reason why she's gruff to Ranvir....the way I see it, she's battling her emotions in her own way....she is not a stone who is unaffected by his suffering....but she thinks of it as her having to be stronger for her daughter's sake.
Anyways, this is all in the past now.....time for the wedding! Wooohoo!
Edited by nureat01 - 16 years ago