Unfortunately Im still supporting Ahem and irritated at Gopi!

After seeing so many episodes,in koki,ahem,gopis perspective even now unfortunately im on Ahems side. Even now Gopi nor Koki dont understand what Ahem was. Gopi left her kids thinking what she did is right, ahem left his mom. Gopi in these 10 years never bothered to know about her kids so did Ahem. Gopi becoming all egoistic and blaming ahem is ridiculous. They dont share a marital bond between them,had they have that bond they would have sorted out the problem themselves only for the sake of their life. Even today Gopi is thinking about reuniting the family and not what ahem wants. Even if a couple stays away from the family and looking after it,there is nothing wrong. There is no hard and fast rule that you have to live in a joint family. Blaming each other is useless, for once wish gohem actually decide what they want for themselves.

That's the thing that is irritating me but I blame Kokila wholly on this. She refuses to see that Ahem has made a new life for himself and in actual fact was happy with what he was doing. Gopi we have seen as a person was one who always put others first, she never thought about herself, her daughter's or their happiness. It was always 'the family.' A: because that's they way Kokila wanted her and B: that is one of the Vachans, imposed on the bride by tradition. I just wish that the girls knew the whole truth where Gopi had been and why and Kokila to realise that her Gopi vahu also needs a life of her own and free her from the tasks she keeps imposing.

I am with gopi this time,ahem is wrong n he is marrying mansi because he wants to show gopi that he moved on in his life.i had a question iss ahem happy without gopi I don't think soo agar hota soo he would married mansi earlier,gopi was in jail soo she lost his 10year but what is ahem problem why he was not with modi family n his mom kokila.I know gopi every time think abt other happiness first then abt himself but she love ahem n his daughters too if gopi didn't went to jail then she not leave his ahem n his daughters.i think no one understand gopi n i wish gopi now became strong,think of herself not go to ahem n his daughters life.

i m with u...
irritating gopi needs a big boom after so called unreasonable sacrifies,,,,,,,,,,,,,,she needs a big slap for destroying her very own small family [Ahem and 2 daughters] from modi members...dont want her to reunited ...

agree with you its all koki fault 😡

At one time I was with Ahem (when Gopi was going to jail) but after the leap, I cannot stand that egoistic idiot. The way he behaved with Gopi, Jigar and finally Koki was very evil. I would have loved to see Koki give him a few tight slaps rather than emotional blackmail. Koki should have threaten him to report bigamy since he is still a married man with his wife living. Another big mouth that needs a few thappads and a bottle full of red chillies in her mouth is Meera. What have cvs done to her character? Is it even possible? Anyways, I'd like to see Ahem stuck with living in relationship with Mansi, Koki and Gopi move back home and send Kinjal shipping back to the chawl

Why also blame Koki alone? Ahem was a mama's boy and he chose to keep it that way until Gopi went to jail. Until then he also expected Gopi to be Koki's dedicated sanskari bahu. It was his job to tell Koki that he did not want his wife involved in Jigar's problems if he was unhappy

Neither do I support Ahem or Gopi fully. Both of them are at fault. However, Kokila is also responsible. She always thought about her happiness rather than her son's or daughter's happiness. However, in this respect, Ahem is also responsible. When Kokila told him that she found a girl for him and told her name, Ahem should have told about Anita. He should have put the word before the elders of the family too. If they had known this, Kokila couldn't have refused Anita. Ahem had not put in any effort to marry Anita.

From the beginning of the show itself, Kokila was saying that her DIL should be her DIL first then Ahem's wife. But Ahem wanted the other way round. But he was not outright.

Kokila came to know about Anita only when she overheard about her conversation with Ahem. She was upset that Ahem had hidden this fact from her. If he had told her before, who knows? Kokila might have agreed as well.

Kokila never wanted the couple to be close to the extent of losing her son to Gopi. She did not like when Ahem & Gopi went to have an ice-cream, celebrating valentines day etc. When she saw the rose flower in Gopi's hand, Kokila didn't like it. She gave a long lecture to the couple. When Ahem was late for the appointment with the client, she did not like when Jigar gave the presentation to the client and earned the contract.

Gopi's fault was that she left the house on Meera's accident when she was blamed for that. Didn't Ahem know that Gopi cannot harm anyone especially her own daughter? Did he ever ask her what had exactly happened and how did Meera slip out of her arms and fell? No, he didn't. On the contrary he backed up Kokila and blamed her. Instead of wasting their time on blaming Gopi, they should have tried to find Meera. They did not bother to do that. And he tells Kokila that It was she who blamed Gopi, not he. It was she who made Gopi leave the house, not he. But Gopi was so stupid that she left the house. She didn't tell anyone about her second pregnancy to any of the family members. She should have immediately told this to Ahem instead of saying that it is a surprise which she will reveal when they come downstairs.

Kokila engaged Ahem with office work and Gopi with the house work as a result of this, Ahem & Gopi could never understand each other completely.

But Ahem has always been mamma's boy till Gopi went to jail for 10 years. He has conveniently excused himself from the situation and is blaming others. When Ahem & Gopi had not spent much time with each other how could they understand the view points of each other? How could Gopi know what is Ahem's requirement and vice-versa?

Ahem's problem is that he cannot think anything beyond himself. He should understand that if they are in a joint family, they should help each other in times of crisis and when you help others, you are helping yourself as well.

What if Jigar had thought like Ahem when Gopi was kidnapped by masterji? He could have left it to Kokila and Ahem to find Gopi and get her back. What was the need for Rashi to go and find Gopi? What was the need for her to sacrifice her life for Gopi?

Radha problem was not only concerned with Jigar, she was the problem for the entire Modi clan. When Radha had kidnapped Meera and Vidya after her re-entry, what was the need for Jigar and Paridhi to come back? They could have told Radha to do whatever she wants and left it to Gopi, Kokila and Ahem to find them. Ahem was very much aware that Radha had tortured his daughters and still he did not take any action against her. He left it yo Gopi & Koki. Taking all the things about what Radha has done to their daughters, how can he tell Gopi to keep away from Radha instead of taking an appropriate action? Why didn't he work with Gopi to send Radha to jail or mental asylum? If he had co-operated neither Gopi would have taken such a step nor would she gone behind the bars nor the question of cutting the family contact would have occurred. However, it was also Gopi's duty to discuss with Ahem & remind him of what Radha did to her daughters after her second entry. Ahem had supported Gopi when she convinced him about how these things are connected to his immediate family. Even in this case she could have convinced him. Ahem neither has an understanding nor reasoning nor visualization. So he cannot blame others and wash his hands for what happened.

@madhubarunsobti: Gopi's blaming Ahem is justified. Was it not his responsibility to take care of their daughters in her absence? When she left this to Ahem with good faith before going to jail, what did he do? He extended Gopi's mistake by absconding himself from the Modis along with his daughters, thereby lying to them about their mother and making them hate her. If Ahem does not like the joint family system, it is fine. But how can he give the responsibility to a total stranger like Mansi to take care of his daughters? It is because of that the girls got spoilt especially Meera who has become rude, arrogant and mannerless. Gopi made a bigger blunder by cutting the family contact and it has cost her. How can she hide the fact from her children who are already grown up that she has been in jail for 10 years? They have a right to know. If she had allowed Ahem and his family to keep in contact with her, a lot of things would have happened. Whenever the girls wanted to share their joys and sorrows with her, they could visit her in jail and shared with her. Who knows? they also could have reopened the case and proved her innocent and bailed her out. But Gopi did not allow that by cutting the contact. She took the blame for Umang's murder thinking that it was Kinjal. At that time Ahem had confronted her after he came to know that Kinjal didn't kill Umang. Ahem is not wrong in saying that Gopi wanted to be Mahaan but he didn't have any right to lie to the girls and make them hate her. He should understand that nobody can substitute or replace biological mother. But sadly, those who have mother cannot understand that as much as those children who are motherless.

If he didn't want to keep relationship with Gopi after what she did why didn't he visit her in jail with the divorce papers? He was not bound to that promise when he broke the ties with all.

I apologize for such a long post.

Originally posted by: sdhimaa

actually decide what they want for themselves

Yes, that is true. I agree with you on this part.😊

i tooo think it is all koki fault