My unpopular view - Page 2

Originally posted by: mugzzz

See the thing is that I think both Ahem and Gopi are equally at fault for this situation. Ahem does nothing, Gopi does too much.

Yes, agree with you in this point. Both are equally responsible for this situation.

Really, their whole marriage was always like that. They only actually got along when times were good.

They didn't spend much time with each other. When they did, Kokila was insecure and began to burden the couple.

You can't blame Meera for being the way she is. From when she was a child, she was treated badly by Radha and then left by her mother shortly after. From her point of view, she needs to build that tough girl image in order to survive.

It is not Meera's fault. It is ahem's fault. He was the one who lied to her about her mom. He did not bother to discipline her. Mansi took care of them in Gopi's absence but nobody can substitute mother. Mother is after all a mother. Those who are motherless know it better.

In a way though, I am happy for Ahem. Despite the fact that he is well into his 50's, he got the life that he wanted, and not what was imposed by him by Kokila. He needed a girl like Mansi, and not a girl like Gopi. They were forced but there was never really any love, and we all know Kokila is to blame for their situation. Rashi and Jigar on the other hand, and later Paridhi and Jigar, went on to have stable lives because Hetal never tried to control them.

Yes, it is a good thing that Ahem got the life he wanted though in the middle age. Kokila had imposed him to marry Gopi but if he wanted to marry the girl of his choice, he could have taken the Baa, Hetal & Chirag to convince Kokila to accept his choice. As for Mansi, he does not love her. Whatever he is doing, his purpose is to hurt Gopi and satisfy his ego. When he broke the relations with the Modis, he was not bound to that promise. He should have visited Gopi with the divorce papers. Why didn't he marry Mansi all these years if he loved her?

I guess what I'm trying to say is that Ahem really isn't doing anything wrong or out of character by being with Mansi. I don't think he owes Gopi anything, because Gopi made the decision to wlak out of his life. The smart thing for Gopi to do is move on with her life and try to make amends with her daighters. The only thing that Ahem owes Gopi is for the both of them to maintain a relationship as a divorced couple to co-parent their children. Divorced couples too can maintain a relationship for the children.
Ahem is very much wrong. Gopi gave him the responsibility to take care of the girls in her absence. Mansi gave 10 years of her life to Ahem & Co but at her own free will. Ahem did not promise that he will marry her. Gopi has walked out twice and that is her stupidity but Ahem is also equally stupid. In Meera's accident case, he didn't stand by Gopi knowing that she cannot do harm to others especially her own daughter. As for her killing Radha, couldn't he sense Radha's intention about his own daughters. Sooner or later she would have got back at them. Couldn't he visualize that and work with Gopi to get rid of Radha? Gopi should find a match who is better than Ahem. If Ahem gets to know that, he will get jealous.