My unpopular view

Originally posted by: mugzzz

I haven't been watching the show, but just been keeping up with the updates. (Saathiya has been too painful for me after Rashi died and Paridhi made a move on Jigs). But I may be wrong in my analysis so apologies in advanced. Please correct me if I am wrong.

I honestly don't think it's fair to expect Ahem to have stayed single his entire life. Ahem constantly told Gopi to mind her own business, but she really had some need to save Paridhi and Radha's unborn child. (I know you guys are going to hate me for this, but Modis should have arranged for Radha's abortion. That being said, they also allowed Radha to threaten them with their child...if they had pretended to be oblivious, she would have given in. But Modi's were stupid to act vulnerable to Radha and that's how she was able to play them). Gopi felt a need to keep Paridhi and Jigar married, which I found was disrespectful of Jigar and her dead cousin. If she had just let Paridhi and Jigar sort their own issues, then maybe Radha wouldn't have been dragged in. That being said, it wasn't entirely Gopi's fault. Kokila and Hetal also flip-flopped on their love of Paridhi. One day wanting her married to Jigs, next day wanting them exasperated. All these women had some need to control the men in the house and that is what Radha took advantage of to play the entire Modi clan. Ahem wanted to enjoy the new found time with his family, whom he was separated from but Gopi was too consumed with protecting Paridhi that Ahem felt neglected. And yes, you may say that if she didn't kill Radha, then Radha would have slowly killed all of them. But, like I said Modis were dumb to allow Radha to play them with that baby. They could have easily sent her back to jail/mental asylum and had the prison keep a close eye on her. Perhaps they could even have arranged to have custody of the baby after Radha gave birth in prison.

Anyways, moving on. I do agree that despite Gopi's unnecessary involvement, and Modi's unnecessary catering to Radha, that Gopi had no other choice but to kill Radha. Now while CVs haven't actually explained why Gopi got such a long sentence as all the evidence points to self-defense (and Modis being rich enough to hire the best lawyers in the country), I almost want to believe that Gopi insisted she get a heavy sentence because she was so guilt-ridden of killing her sister. Remember how she was prepared to go to jail for Umang's murder when she thought she was covering for Kinjal? Gopi wants to be a martyr by sacrificing herself for everything, without actually considering the consequences. By sacrificing herself, she forgot that she is neglecting her husband and children. She believed that just because she has the capability to sacrifice herself, Ahem would be able to sacrifice his need of a wife and support, which is not true because Ahem isn't as strong as her.

Fast-forward 10 years, Gopi was the one who decided to not keep contact with Ahem and her daughters while in prison. Someone mentioned this in another thread, but even while in prison, she could have phoned Ahem regularly, had him visit. (If you watch Orange is the New Black, you can see that prisoners are regularly keeping in touch with loved ones). But yes, I think Ahem and Gopi could have maintained a relationship and co-parented their children, despite the fact that Gopi was in prison. But Gopi insisted that Ahem just sit back and wait for her.

By, this point, I think Ahem had enough. He was controlled by his mother for his entire life, and his wife just was someone who always put others' needs above that of her husband and children. At the end of the day, I think Ahem just had enough. I think it is clear that he never really loved Gopi and his marraige and relationship with Gopi was just made because he was unable to stand up to his mother. Honestly, I think Ahem suffered the most in his marriage to Gopi because he always wanted someone else, and I'm not saying Anita specifically, but he wanted a girl who was educated, who held the same views as him, and who would put her husband and children ahead of everyone else (including his own family). Gopi left him, not once, but twice, because she always considered the greater good of the family and wanted to kiss up to Kokila. (The first time, I think she should have stayed, and the problems would have sorted themselves out...but that's for another thread). I think Ahem has finally had enough, and has decided to put the needs of his children ahead of what his Mom tells him to do. He finally has found a women whom he loves and who has taken care of his children ever since Gopi left them to be a martyr. Does Gopi seriously expect her entire family to be eaiting for her after 10 years in jail? Ahem was lonely and he found a companion in Mansi. He finally has stood up to his mother and avoided all the years of control that she has inflicted. I'll be honest, I don't think Mansi has done any wrong. She was there for Ahem when he needed someone. As for Meera, she spent her entire life without her mother and Mansi provided her with that motherly figure that she so needed. I know Gopi had no control of not being there the first time, but the second time she volunteered to cut contact with Meera. I can see where Meera is coming from and why she saw Mansi as the mother she never had.

...Anyways I'm really sorry for hte long post. I wasn't expecting to write this much but it just came to my head. I know most of you would probably disagree with me but that's ok. That's why we are all here to share different opinions 😊

Anyways. Thanks for reading. I look forward for your input.

Originally posted by: mugzzz

I haven't been watching the show, but just been keeping up with the updates. (Saathiya has been too painful for me after Rashi died and Paridhi made a move on Jigs). But I may be wrong in my analysis so apologies in advanced. Please correct me if I am wrong.

I honestly don't think it's fair to expect Ahem to have stayed single his entire life. Ahem constantly told Gopi to mind her own business, but she really had some need to save Paridhi and Radha's unborn child. (I know you guys are going to hate me for this, but Modis should have arranged for Radha's abortion. That being said, they also allowed Radha to threaten them with their child...if they had pretended to be oblivious, she would have given in. But Modi's were stupid to act vulnerable to Radha and that's how she was able to play them). Gopi felt a need to keep Paridhi and Jigar married, which I found was disrespectful of Jigar and her dead cousin. If she had just let Paridhi and Jigar sort their own issues, then maybe Radha wouldn't have been dragged in. That being said, it wasn't entirely Gopi's fault. Kokila and Hetal also flip-flopped on their love of Paridhi. One day wanting her married to Jigs, next day wanting them exasperated. All these women had some need to control the men in the house and that is what Radha took advantage of to play the entire Modi clan. Ahem wanted to enjoy the new found time with his family, whom he was separated from but Gopi was too consumed with protecting Paridhi that Ahem felt neglected. And yes, you may say that if she didn't kill Radha, then Radha would have slowly killed all of them. But, like I said Modis were dumb to allow Radha to play them with that baby. They could have easily sent her back to jail/mental asylum and had the prison keep a close eye on her. Perhaps they could even have arranged to have custody of the baby after Radha gave birth in prison.

Anyways, moving on. I do agree that despite Gopi's unnecessary involvement, and Modi's unnecessary catering to Radha, that Gopi had no other choice but to kill Radha. Now while CVs haven't actually explained why Gopi got such a long sentence as all the evidence points to self-defense (and Modis being rich enough to hire the best lawyers in the country), I almost want to believe that Gopi insisted she get a heavy sentence because she was so guilt-ridden of killing her sister. Remember how she was prepared to go to jail for Umang's murder when she thought she was covering for Kinjal? Gopi wants to be a martyr by sacrificing herself for everything, without actually considering the consequences. By sacrificing herself, she forgot that she is neglecting her husband and children. She believed that just because she has the capability to sacrifice herself, Ahem would be able to sacrifice his need of a wife and support, which is not true because Ahem isn't as strong as her.

Fast-forward 10 years, Gopi was the one who decided to not keep contact with Ahem and her daughters while in prison. Someone mentioned this in another thread, but even while in prison, she could have phoned Ahem regularly, had him visit. (If you watch Orange is the New Black, you can see that prisoners are regularly keeping in touch with loved ones). But yes, I think Ahem and Gopi could have maintained a relationship and co-parented their children, despite the fact that Gopi was in prison. But Gopi insisted that Ahem just sit back and wait for her.

By, this point, I think Ahem had enough. He was controlled by his mother for his entire life, and his wife just was someone who always put others' needs above that of her husband and children. At the end of the day, I think Ahem just had enough. I think it is clear that he never really loved Gopi and his marraige and relationship with Gopi was just made because he was unable to stand up to his mother. Honestly, I think Ahem suffered the most in his marriage to Gopi because he always wanted someone else, and I'm not saying Anita specifically, but he wanted a girl who was educated, who held the same views as him, and who would put her husband and children ahead of everyone else (including his own family). Gopi left him, not once, but twice, because she always considered the greater good of the family and wanted to kiss up to Kokila. (The first time, I think she should have stayed, and the problems would have sorted themselves out...but that's for another thread). I think Ahem has finally had enough, and has decided to put the needs of his children ahead of what his Mom tells him to do. He finally has found a women whom he loves and who has taken care of his children ever since Gopi left them to be a martyr. Does Gopi seriously expect her entire family to be eaiting for her after 10 years in jail? Ahem was lonely and he found a companion in Mansi. He finally has stood up to his mother and avoided all the years of control that she has inflicted. I'll be honest, I don't think Mansi has done any wrong. She was there for Ahem when he needed someone. As for Meera, she spent her entire life without her mother and Mansi provided her with that motherly figure that she so needed. I know Gopi had no control of not being there the first time, but the second time she volunteered to cut contact with Meera. I can see where Meera is coming from and why she saw Mansi as the mother she never had.

...Anyways I'm really sorry for hte long post. I wasn't expecting to write this much but it just came to my head. I know most of you would probably disagree with me but that's ok. That's why we are all here to share different opinions 😊

Anyways. Thanks for reading. I look forward for your input.

Originally posted by: sharoon3210

All your points are right. Ahem told Gopi to mind her own business & keep away from Radha. But simply keeping away from Radha would not have solved the problem. Radha had tortured their daughters after her re-entry like slapping Meera, stuffing Mirchi powder in her mouth, kidnapping Meera and Vidya, pushing Vidya, cutting Meera's ghungroo and changing her exam time-table.

If Gopi had done what Ahem had told her, Radha would have got back at their daughters and it was necessary to prevent this. Why didn't Ahem give the top priority to get rid of Radha? He should have supported Gopi to solve Radha problem.

Originally posted by: Xarina

I cannot call your view unpopular. It is your view after all but it is nothing that we haven't said after all.

The Modis were stupid to give Radha so much rope that instead of hanging herself she had the Modis behave like puppets on a string. Radha was clever enough to convince the prison authorities that she was mad, after all, she must have had many years looking after her mother to know how to act so they sent her to an asylum. There she would have convinced them that she was not a danger to the public and was released. The Modis had ample opportunity to register a case against Radha but chose not to, giving Radha free rein to rule, taunt and blackmail. So they chose to pamper to her needs. Leading to more tears from them and Gopi to take such a step-after being mercilessly attacked and dumped in the lake by her own sister, Gopi stepped in to protect her family and an innocent baby.

Now we come to Ahem. Bear in mind that this is a man who does not interfere or support and when things go tits up he is ready to blame everyone else but himself. If he was a husband he would have worked harder with Gopi to bring peace to the family instead he left it up to her to deal with things. As a husband would you not support your wife. When Gopi made them to take the oath where we

As he? Skulking in the background. How about using your attitude and setting her straight, but no, he has to take such a step and deny the girls not only the knowledge of their mother but of their immediate family as well. He did not think about their wellbeing. As for Meera let us not forget that she was away from the family due to Radha's plan. Gopi was a unfortunate victim in this. Can't believe that Meera has forgotten all that.

Originally posted by: Xarina

I cannot call your view unpopular. It is your view after all but it is nothing that we haven't said after all.

The Modis were stupid to give Radha so much rope that instead of hanging herself she had the Modis behave like puppets on a string. Radha was clever enough to convince the prison authorities that she was mad, after all, she must have had many years looking after her mother to know how to act so they sent her to an asylum. There she would have convinced them that she was not a danger to the public and was released. The Modis had ample opportunity to register a case against Radha but chose not to, giving Radha free rein to rule, taunt and blackmail. So they chose to pamper to her needs. Leading to more tears from them and Gopi to take such a step-after being mercilessly attacked and dumped in the lake by her own sister, Gopi stepped in to protect her family and an innocent baby.

Now we come to Ahem. Bear in mind that this is a man who does not interfere or support and when things go tits up he is ready to blame everyone else but himself. If he was a husband he would have worked harder with Gopi to bring peace to the family instead he left it up to her to deal with things. As a husband would you not support your wife. When Gopi made them to take the oath where we

As he? Skulking in the background. How about using your attitude and setting her straight, but no, he has to take such a step and deny the girls not only the knowledge of their mother but of their immediate family as well. He did not think about their wellbeing. As for Meera let us not forget that she was away from the family due to Radha's plan. Gopi was a unfortunate victim in this. Can't believe that Meera has forgotten all that.

Originally posted by: Sunnyahem

It's a bloody mess that's what it is. The writers have screwed things up too much. The only way forward I see it if gopi gets a new suitor. .someone who is willing to love her and someone she also likes. That is what is going to show ahem exactly what he needs. Then we see a jealous ahem... A frustrated Mansi...mad crazy emotional scenes... because right now ahem can say and do what he wants...get knows gopi loves him and she us alone. Put another man in the picture and ahem will sweat...!! I'm waiting for that...and even though I find ahem hot as hell... i don't agree with him at all.

Originally posted by: touch_of_pink

First of all don't think your view is unpopular or popular. You are more then welcome to share your POV whatever it may be. 😊

I have to say that pretty much all the points you made are things which I have been saying for the past month in various posts. I've had my rant, vented my frustration and decided to move on because honestly, thinking too much about the pre-leap storyline was making my head spin. 😆

But there is one point you made that I would like to focus on:

He finally has found a women whom he loves and who has taken care of his children ever since Gopi left them to be a martyr.

I don't think Ahem loves Mansi at all. She only seems to be a unpaid nanny who is infatuated with Ahem and has waited patiently for 10 years for him to accept her. Ahem has been living with this woman who he says is his 'very good friend', his daughter calls her mom and he shares a bank account with her. But their relationship from his side is purely platonic. The only reason he decided to get engaged to her was so that he could prove to Gopi that he does not love her anymore and has moved on. He even wanted Gopi to attend the engagement. Why? Because he wants to emotionally torture her. At times it's like he is almost daring her to stop him.

If Ahem genuinely wanted to move on in his life with another person, the first thing he would have said to Gopi when she came back is 'Gopi. I have met someone else. I love her and want to marry her. I want a divorce from you'. He could have sent her the divorce papers in jail. Also, whether he has moved on or not is not even the point. The point is he is still legally married to Gopi and is obligated to respect that relationship. If he does not think he can give respect to his marriage any longer, then like I said, file for divorce.

At one point I did understand Ahem's POV, his anger and frustration. Actually, I still somewhat do. But post-leap, his behaviour towards Gopi has been insulting, demeaning and downright disgusting. And no matter what Gopi did, I don't think she deserved to hear all those insults and taunts, especially the bit where he threw her illiteracy back in her face, 20 odd years after he himself helped her in overcoming it.

Okay, my post was quite long and I think I went kinda off tangent. 😕 Apologies for that. 😳