Strong Gopi... - Page 2

Yeah. Bt the way gopi is showing that she is making food for those who say they dnt need gopi. Gopi should be more strong nd stand against koki nd answer back koki

If there is a divorce Gopi gets only half of the money . If Ahem marries again and has kids his estate will be divided in all his kids . Vidya unfortunately is no Prince William . Already 8 years she has lived in super mediocre circumstances . Gopi says they were khush in that . Gopi may be khush what if Vidya resents it later ? Knowing that i actually am born with a silver spoon in my mouth and yet i lived so economically strained can be very frustrating for the child especially if he or she is not able to take a vocation of her choice , like medicene which is costly . Already she was dying for the father and family .

Vidya will lose out if Gopi and Ahem decide to have more children too😊 It is the same. When parents have more kids, they share. It is not losing out. It is sharing among siblings.

Vidya's super mediocre life involved studying in the same school that the already in MM kids Samir and Sahil were put in. And unlike those two brats, she was a level headed and sensible kid who seemed to have had a good upbringing among teachers and people who loved her.

This is not saying that Gopi was right about keeping Vidya away but that has nothing to do with the situation Gopi is facing now. She is being put down left and right and all she gets is hurt and a broken confidence. No one feels sorry except Gopi herself. I do not see Kokila or Ahem feeling sad that they are hurting another person who just saved their life or made them something good to eat. They don't have to. They have an axe to grind and they will do it, no matter how much Gopi falls flat.

A divorce settlement is not for Vidya. It is for Gopi and I think she has enough confidence to take care of herself now, with or without monetary settlement. As for Vidya, if her father wants more kids, so be it. Vidya should not think that her siblings are competition now, should she?

Gopi needs to stand up to her rights, yes. But it depends on what her rights are and how she goes about getting her rights. Even Kokila thinks that Gopi is sucking up to her. That is exactly why she orders Gopi not to do things around the house.

Gopi can stand for her rights in a better way. She can stay out of the things she has been asked to stay of and let the dust settle on her 8 year old 'mistake' a little bit.

Ahem already has accepted her subconsciously. His asking for tea from her was pretty obvious. If Gopi waited 8 years, I am pretty sure she can wait a few more weeks until Ahem simmers down to a stage where he can articulate why he is angry rather than make it worse by putting him in a place where he lashes out because he was given no other choice. He is Gopi's husband and unless he does otherwise, there is nothing Gopi has to fight for. She already has the rights if only she chooses to use them. So Gopi can rest easy.

It is not being strong when one tries to compel others by falling all over them when 2 individuals have so clearly stated their wishes otherwise.

Originally posted by: Rashi_JeeMan

Yeah. Bt the way gopi is showing that she is making food for those who say they dnt need gopi. Gopi should be more strong nd stand against koki nd answer back koki

I don't want her to answer Kokila back. I just don't want her in Kokila's way at all. Why be the unwanted person. Keep out of Koki's way. Let her go about her own tasks. The rest of the family has no issues with Gopi. Why not stick to them instead of going behind someone who currently does not want to see her?

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

I don't want her to answer Kokila back. I just don't want her in Kokila's way at all. Why be the unwanted person. Keep out of Koki's way. Let her go about her own tasks. The rest of the family has no issues with Gopi. Why not stick to them instead of going behind someone who currently does not want to see her?

yeah exactly. Gopi shoul away frm koki.

It is vastly different when step children r born and if the father gets more attached to them bcoz of the influence of the second wife and directs more money flow to them .

Vidya will just have to take that chance now, wouldn't she? If her father loves her other siblings more than her, than she has to deal with it like every child does. What guarantees that Ahem would not have divorced Gopi if she stayed. These are things in life one cannot predict. Ahem did not divorce her even when Gopi left. So there is no question of having lost her rights at all. Gopi just did not use her rights.

As for Vidya's future, she has a guaranteed future now. We are talking about gopi falling flat as a doormat now and not when she was away at Bhopal.

What message will Vidya get seeing her Dadi and Papa being cruel and harsh with her mother when her mother is trying her best to be nice?

Gopi is not turning back from MM. All I am saying and most posts seem to indicate is that she should stay in MM with dignity. It is not fair to anyone if Gopi keeps pressing herself on people who need time to get back to their senses. She should not hurry things by being the cook, cleaner and fixer when she is specifically asked not to be.

There is nothing wrong in wanting to live with self respect instead of in a palace as an unpaid and unappreciated servant.

Gopi as a teacher was not in a palace but she earned enough to live an honest living and she was happy and respected. She was doing something with her life. She was teaching other kids, making a difference in their lives, however small..

Gopi has already made a difference in the lives of Modis by staying there with Vidya. She has given them something to hope for. She is making a difference everyday by staying in that hostile house. She is making a difference by giving Ahem the subconscious feeling of having his wife back again.

She is doing more than enough. It is unfair to her and to everyone she holds dear to keep pushing the envelope which is only destroying the changes her presence has brought about. All her seva is doing is raising Koki's back further against her and putting Ahem in a position where he is totally undecided about his heart and his head.

Vidya never lost the chance and so there is no question of having no chance at all..

As for Gopi being in MM, I am not against that at all. I want her to stay, yes. But not as the unwanted servant in the house catering to all and sundry and getting only taunts and tears in return.

She should stay but focus on her priority, ie Vidya and her welfare. She should keep herself out of things that do not need her concentration right now, which includes making Koki or Ahem accept her. They will get used to her presence just like they got used to her absence in time. Gopi does not need to bring them anywhere.

Radha would then have no teeth. Ahem will soon get used to having his wife and daughter around and will come around. Koki may or may not but that does not matter if Ahem decides otherwise.

There is no need for Gopi to keep taking hate when she can do without.

I think Gopi is currently prioritizing Koki and Ahem ahead of Vidya. She is unintentionally showing Vidya that while she loves all, her father and especially her Dadi are not that nice.

Vidya never lost the chance and so there is no question of having no chance at all..