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Marriage changes you - For better or for Worse
Neha's entry into SNS today was most awaited.. She did make a grand entry though she may not
be the person we think she is and at least to me and made the most sensible comment even if
she meant it based on Rashi's physical appearance..😊
Marriage does good to some people and not so good to others..It is fate that decides a marriage but it is us, humans who have to decide if we want to work on what fate has offered to us . A very deep thought. Rashi took it wrongly and taunted Gopi that she now has acheived what she wanted. That now Rashi looks like the servant and GOpi the queen of MB.
That is the wrongest way to see the comment. Lets look a little deeper.
Marriage works out for the best for people who consider it that way and is the worst for others who cannot see the good in their marriage. A comment that is true for both Gopi and Rashi..
Gopi: This orphan girl was just a glorified servant at her aunt's house. She was treated as such though her parents had left her monetarily comfortable. She had her dad's pension that was misused. But fate intervened and she married into a family that lacked nothing.
I am not talking just about the luxury but the things this girl craved for. Gopi took the good things from her marriage close to her heart and decided to let the bad things slide.
I am not talking just about the luxury but the things this girl craved for. Gopi took the good things from her marriage close to her heart and decided to let the bad things slide.
Even when her husband disliked and spewed hate on her, she kept the good things in her marriage and her husband close to her heart. Things like getting a mother's love in her MIL, a bit of concern from her husband, a loving Devar, a family she never had.. All this is what made her marriage tick. The luxury that came out of the family was secondary. Gopi did get to dress better but that was the least of her concern..
So today she did look like a queen. She glowed because apart from the other things in her life she was also getting her husband's love and her MIL's support. A true believer in her relationships this marriage made Gopi. She has changed from being a scared, emotionally abused person to a smart, gentle yet strong woman who is becoming secure day by day.. That
is what marriage did to her.😃
Rashi: Rashi was the most pampered person ever. Her mother pampered her to bits, her dad also seems to have done the same. Again by fate and some tactful moves, she married into the
same family as her cousin. After she married, her husband, MIL and cousin made sure that
they pampered her. This marriage was her dream come true. She had the luxury she craved for and with it the love of an adoring husband, something she did not care for but got as a bonus. It looks like this marriage should have made Rashi. Unfortunately the opposite has happened. Rashi decided to look at the wrong side of her marriage. She saw herself as being the younger DIL of the house that she wanted to 'rule'. Well marriage is not an empire to rule over. It is built on relationships, not on luxuries. Mind you. Rashi does have the luxury she craves for. But for the first time in life, she is saw that with luxury comes responsibilities. She was loath to take on those.
Rashi is not ready to accept that she herself has strangled the relationship. The reason she
looked like a servant today was because she actually feels like one..Gopi even when all she had was her MILs soothing words to base her hope on continued to slog and work on her marriage. But Rashi, inspite of getting her husband's love unasked has thrown it away. And then she worsened her situation by trying to be oversmart and aspire for things she does not deserve.
But instead of accepting her mistakes, she blames the others for her current situation. That is the major reason that marriage failed Rashi or rather she failed her marriage.Rather than looking at her mariage and counting her blessings, Rashi has come out on the wrong end.
Conclusion:
It is the way we see yourself in the marriage that matters. Fate gave both Gopi and Rashi a great marriage. Both got good husbands and good in-laws. Gopi decided to take what fate offered and worked to better it. She is the queen of MB not because she thinks she is the Jethani but because she earned that place by her hardwork both in the family and in her marriage.
Rashi on the other hand took what fate had to offer and decided that she did not have enough. She cursed fate for things she needed be be happy for. She will feel like a servant until the day she sees light and starts to repent.
Marriage changes people, some for good and some for worse but it is the person who changes ultimately based on how they approach their realtionship.
