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Posted: 13 years ago
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Today for once I am feeling that in real life as well parents somehow don't like their kids being swept off in romance and disregard their work!

When kids dont' come home early and go out for dinners or parties at night times!

When they procastinate on things and be careless!

When the changes take place from being a son to being a husband, it definitely shifts the gravity and hurts someone!

When the son disregards work and starts tilting towards his wife, fathers generally get upset, here mother Koki is doing that since Parag is not!

When kids do something romantic, they definitely hide it from parents and get self-conscious!

Many comparisons can be made, above are few of them!

This is the Indian culture and society I have seen and been brought up in, however modern we all become, at heart we'll remain traditional!

For recently I was not much impressed with Koki, but yester her reactions and justification gave me something to think upon really...

If I m not her fan, she's shown to be one very close to real life parent!

What do you think of it?
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Posted: 13 years ago
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oops almost missed it...

yeah agree with ur points very well written...👏

she is much close to a real parent...

since parag is not carrying out his role...

koki is being extra strict with the kids


finally thanks for a positive post on my Koki
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Posted: 13 years ago
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yeah koki is always misunderstood...even there are times even i hated koki too...but she will be right at last as always...she is tought o understand...
she is a very good mom...
the same here even my mom was harsh on me when i was concentrating more on other things rather than studies but today i have understood her... she was right...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Great Post Shruts 👏
And well replied Munni 😃
Koki is the responsible parent in the relationship and that happens in a lot of homes where woman play the major role in the child's life..
Koki's concerns and worries are natural.. But there is no underhandedness in that. I am glad that she cleared the air by voicing that she is not against GoHem but is concerned about Aham being swayed by romance and forgetting work.. As a parent it is thoroughly understandable..
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Posted: 13 years ago
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the reason koki is misunderstood is b cos of her stern nature.
all her fear and work ethic comes from her fear that ultimately she is a nobody in the family. it is aham who is her identity. parag with his lack of responsibilites is not a shoulder to lean on. so she fears that aham loses track of his work, jigar might become the heir, since he is rightfully chirag's son. these things might be her reasons for the work ethics.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Well to be honest... One of the reasons I like Koki so much is she kinda reminds me of my own mum lol.

I am an adult, responsible job, married, living in the city. However I work away from home and after commuting for many years I moved back home during the week. It killed two birds cos I avoided the stress of daily travel and my mum wasn't living alone as my younger brother had just got married and moved out.

A day for me would have the following instructions from my mum...

Are you wearing that shirt? Don't forget to carry your jacket, it may rain later on.

Do you have still have snack bars at work in case you feel hungry? I'm just asking because I didn't see any on Monday morning.

Did you put your laptop in the car?

Don't forget you're going home today so remember to put you luggage in the car.

Did you hang your towel out?

Don't forget to put the towel on the floor when you are showering
otherwise the bath-mat will get wet.

I am making abc for lunch. Do you want me to make anything else?

Why did you come home so late for lunch? You must be hungry. Don't they know at work what your lunch-time is?

Remember you have to take me to mandir tonight so please park your car outside. Are you going to gym?

Don't forget to buy milk and bread. Send your messenger from work.

This is just a small sample of what I go through on a daily basis. But hey she's my mum and she does it cos she cares. And I love her to bits. Sometimes it drives me crazy... but I am grateful for every day that she is still around... Most times I find it easy enough to do what she asks. The times when I don't I tell her why I am doing it my way. She does not always agree but she eventually accepts it. And then there are the times when I don't listen and realise that she was right after all lol.

Growing up my sister always said she would never be like our mum when she had kids. Well guess what. She turned out exactly the same. Now I remind her when she says her kids something that she used to swear she would never say lol.

Mums... the most beautiful people in the world!!! ❤️ To them we will always be kids!

And a bit more info on me then what you may have expected 🤣





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Posted: 13 years ago
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❤️am nostalgic for sure for I lost my mum well 17 years back...and whom i loved the most in the world!

And Koki is definitely like my mom too!My mom looked almost the same as Koki but no Kaajal(my sis also commented when she watched the show...I started watching seeing her only watch)

And the only difference she was not harsh at all...so I dont appreciate Koki being so rude and harsh!


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: shruts18

❤️am nostalgic for sure for I lost my mum well 17 years back...and whom i loved the most in the world!


And Koki is definitely like my mom too!My mom looked almost the same as Koki but no Kaajal(my sis also commented when she watched the show...I started watching seeing her only watch)

And the only difference she was not harsh at all...so I dont appreciate Koki being so rude and harsh!




Shruts.. I am so sorry about your mom.. That is a hard blow..
As for Koki, she is not rude.. Just stern.. Kinjal is rude but not Koki.. As for being harsh, she knows the reality and does not believe in smiles and hugs.. But that does not mean she does not care.. Different people, different ways to love..😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Justlikethat1



Shruts.. I am so sorry about your mom.. That is a hard blow..
As for Koki, she is not rude.. Just stern.. Kinjal is rude but not Koki.. As for being harsh, she knows the reality and does not believe in smiles and hugs.. But that does not mean she does not care.. Different people, different ways to love..😊


But I have seen mums to be just soft even if lil strict, so Koki being harsh bewilders me.

She has been rude many a times to Hetal.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Lovely post Shruti & wonderful replies. Shruti, sorry to hear abt your Mom.
Shaun, loved your mom centric routine😃... I always say don't hurt their ego but please don't loose your identity.
Grown up with ..."Matri Devo Bhava" which means "Mother is a God in this world". Mom looks with her heart, feels with her eyes and feeds with her blood. A mom is a bank where her child is safe to deposit all its worries and can withdraw strength, love & confidence. Till today, whenever I have a problem, first person I remember is... my mom & call her to rant😛 or take her advise...And then have the audacity to tell her... you wasted my precious time with your long lecture lol😆 & this vicious circle continues...Being supportive & encouraging is different thing & being pushy is altogether different. 😛.
Parents especially in-laws need to learn to let go of their children when they are grown up / married.😛 .

Now coming to fictional character Koki, I wish I could give a predicated single objective answer. This is my value judgment, 😉convergent answer to a definite problem, Kokila Modi. I have given this ans many times & I repeat...Kokila Modi is not an enigma, she is not full of contradictions but she is not perfect either. she has her own set of insecurities, worries and concerns. She is indeed a very complex character. Complex characters are always interesting study & they fascinate me😉 She has an oversize ego. And an oversize ego is fundamentally driven by insecurity. And we all know the reasons for her insecurity. Looking @ Parag we sure can guess that she did not get best kind of emotional & financial support from her Parag ji. That is why she keeps the shovel ready & ready to legally bulldoze him with no hesitation. All this has made her very ego driven control freak and territorial. 🤢

She does not understand the territory of love as she has not shared it with a wonderful man in her life. That's why she cannot appreciate her son & DIL's relationship. She is abs not able to fathom that why a relationship should be based on equality, mutual respect and why Ahem does anything & everything to make Gopi happy! But here she has made Ahem a complete take charge kind of guy. '.whatever he does, he does it with conviction & might. According to him things done by halves are never done right. When he hated Gopi he hated her with intensity now that he is falling for her... he is loving her with even more intensity...can we blame him😳( we are all ready to smother him with affection now)

Harini & Munni will remember couple of days back I had written this...ctrl c ctrl v...
I think that Koki is quite happy with Gohem relationship, she does not want anything more than this😛😉 no more chooche cooing😳 enuff is the WORD 😛 According to Koki...Gopi shd take care of her son & son shd be happy with her care & concern PERIOD. She herself told Ahem that you have to work hard. So it is MM's business that is what Koki is aiming at, like Arjuna's arrow she wants Ahem only to look at the rotating fish & hit bulls eye, the MM chair. He'll anyway get that as Chirag & Hetal love & respect Ahem, as the eldest son of Modi empire. But since Koki has faced quite a few blows in her life, she does not want her son to get distracted & wants him at the helm of ME. Koki is insecure & scared abt Ahem being like his dad so... Insecurity is not from Gopi it is from Ahem, as he has Parag's genes too😉
This is exactly what was shared by Koki today to Parag.
True, children are & shd be reflection of their parents but some parents like Koki enjoy "bragging rights" of their children's success as it makes them look plain good & satisfies their ego.


But then controversy creates CASH so Ahem Koki confrontation is building up ...but I want Ahem to knock some sense in Koki's messed up brain now😉 please CVs

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