Kinjal's behaviour is all Koki's doing

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Yuks

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Posted: 13 years ago

The way I see it, Kinjal is doing everything in her power to anger Koki.
This obvious rebellion has been brought on by Koki herself

She has never supported Kinjal in a time of need.

When Kinjal had been dumped by Umang (which was because of Koki and Ahem) she needed the support of her family. But Koki and Ahem turned their backs on her completely

When she told them she wasn't pregnant, Koki could have stopped the marriage with Dhaval, but she didn't. Ahem too was outraged but he didnt dare speak against his mother. He failed Kinjal. Koki put Kinjal in hell with Urmi

And since then, everytime Urmi, to get Kinjal in trouble, tells Koki about her. Instead of speaking to her daughter, Koki always takes Urmi's side and scolds Kinjal. She always plays right into Urmi's hands and alienates Kinjal even more

The only time Koki helped was by loaning money to Dhaval. And instead of guiding him, she left him to his own devices. This led to more humiliation of Kinjal when Kinjal banayan was created.

So if Kinjal is finally rebelling against her, no one is to blame but Koki herslef. She brought this upon herslef

Yuks

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Posted: 13 years ago

I would total agree but I don't like her behaviour now.. its irritating nowadasy

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Sonia

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Posted: 13 years ago

^ ditto Ayesha. Kinjal's scene gets really irritating to me as well.

But why wasn't Kokila supportive towards Kinjal when she needed her?

I don't understand one thing. Both Kokila's children whom she instilled such amazing traits, they only had an affair with someone else under the eyes of their mother. Where as Jigar who was left free by his parents, did not do so. Although Ahem managed to keep his mother's words and get married to Gopi, he couldn't digest Anita away from himself.

Sometimes, I don't understand Kokila.

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Yuks

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Posted: 13 years ago

I agree. Koki keeps prattling on about her sanskaar and upbrining

Well look at her son. Untill reently, he wouls abuse his wife verbally on a daily basis.

As for her daughter, her list of kaands is longer than Gopi's hair

She needs to take a good look at herself and her children. Deflate her ego a little

And who can blame Kinjal and Ahem for mistreating their spouces? They've seen Koki mistreat Paraag all their lives

Yuks

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NRChau

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Posted: 13 years ago

You said it sister... An apple doesn't fall far from its tree... I donot condone Kinjal's behavior but Kokila's upbringing is so double standard...She repeatedly walks all over her husband, question her elder sister'-in-laws' authority and doesn't leave any chance to criticize her way of handling Rashi... Yes, she was bitter about not having a financial supportive husband but what about her? Did she ever support his passion whole-heartedly? If only she had set right examples!!!

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ANJ4

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Posted: 13 years ago

Yes this is koki fault. Kinjil wants attention from koki, It is like a little child, if mommy and daddy don't pay attendtion to me ... I am going to do something ... and that is what kinjil is doing.

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gracious45

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Posted: 13 years ago

I agree with all of you. First Kokila has always disrespected her hubby even in front of her kids and that is the reason that ahem does not love or respect his father because he sees him as a loser. She disrespects hetal and walks all over her. She says that they are a family and rashi should always listen and obey her but then when time comes it is always my gopi vau, my kids and nobody should interfere.
Second she was mean and distance as mother that both her kids went behind her back to have relationships. It wasnt kinjal's fault that she fell for umang and it was not her fault that her brother and mother ruined anita's life and kinjal had to pay for it. Kokila never once thought to go and talk to her daughter and ask her nicely why she would go to the trouble of faking pregnancy but no she was forced to marry dhaval. Kinjal was raised with millions and now she has to live with a person who is not so rich. If two people are in love they could handle this kind of change but kinjal did not love dhaval so she would never be able adjust.
Also, kokila knows what kind of woman rashi's mom is and instead of trying to talk to her daughter asking her how she is being treated she is believing the wrong person. Cant she see that if urmila tries to poison their lives then how badly she would treat kinjal but she told kinjal to deal with everything herself and manage. Well guess what she is managing now. Why should she ask a mother who acts like an enemy permission or be nice too. Kokila ruined both ahem and kinjal's life for her ego.

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kashish

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Posted: 13 years ago

Sorry yuks but Im slightly disagreeing.. Id like to leave the character of Koki alone as she has too many faults.. too many to name but on this present situation with Koki and Kinjal I will definately comment on..Guys please be patient and before I continue just want to say its just POV, and Im not pushing it onto anyone else😃

Yes Koki wasnt a fair mother.. But I certainly do not blame her for Umang.. yes his sister got hurt because of Ahem but if he truely loved Kinjal then would he have done what he did to her?.. Left her like that and walked away -humiliated.. I mean If my sister got hurt like that, I would not leave my love humiliated certainly- Im sure..But ofcourse it might be different for us girls.. I think if Umang seriously loved her then he would have left her but not like this.. Now Kinjal.. Seriously she has reached heights and gone beyond her limits.. She didnt even think once about her bhabhi who was in an unfamiliar surrounding, new to the house and lets not forget not accepted by her husband. Did she think once about Gopi before doing her own kalakaries.. Did she? In fact look at where it ended.. It ended with Gopi being physically abused by her husband.. so shaken.. and she was new to the family.. Can you imagine what must have gone through Gopi at that moment.. she got abused by her Mami and then her only hope of finding affection, her sasural, her husband abuses her.. Where is she meant to go from there? Yet Kinjal didnt melt.. She still was self obsessed and selfish.. What kind of a girl pretends to be pregnant and humiliate her own family that have cared for since she was born.. I sure cannot do that to my family.. and my mother is strict just like Koki- maybe a little less.. but seriously this wasnt just about Koki but the whole family... at that time Gopi stood up and took care of her but does she remember that, does she acknowledge that at all.. NO! Gopi is still a piece of dust for her.. Then Ahem went to Umang and asked him but Umang left.. did he love Kinjal..NO..Therefore Koki got her married to Dhaval.. Yes maybe that was a mistake... but look at Dhaval.. I mean that is the best Kinjal possibly deserves.. Actually she doesnt even deserve a loving husband like him who treats her with respect, because she doesnt leave one stone unturned or a chance to humiliate him does she? Ok so she got married and she isnt happy.. But what does she do.. Take revenge.. Seriously? I mean why doesnt she try to be happy, talk it out.. You know they say that women have the power to change men .. then why cant she just have patience and compromise and make her life happy. what kind of marriage doesnt need adjustment.. Seriously she treats Dhaval exactly how Ahem used to treat Gopi..Therefore I cant exactly blame Koki directly but I will surely say that maybe Koki did not give her children the right type of upbringing that was needed.. and because of that two people are suffering .. well Gopi was suffering and now it seems to get better..

Ok this is just my POV soo please no bashing.. Thank you😃

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gracious45

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: kashish_s2
Sorry yuks but Im slightly disagreeing.. Id like to leave the character of Koki alone as she has too many faults.. too many to name but on this present situation with Koki and Kinjal I will definately comment on..Guys please be patient and before I continue just want to say its just POV, and Im not pushing it onto anyone else😃

Yes Koki wasnt a fair mother.. But I certainly do not blame her for Umang.. yes his sister got hurt because of Ahem but if he truely loved Kinjal then would he have done what he did to her?.. Left her like that and walked away -humiliated.. I mean If my sister got hurt like that, I would not leave my love humiliated certainly- Im sure..But ofcourse it might be different for us girls.. I think if Umang seriously loved her then he would have left her but not like this.. Now Kinjal.. Seriously she has reached heights and gone beyond her limits.. She didnt even think once about her bhabhi who was in an unfamiliar surrounding, new to the house and lets not forget not accepted by her husband. Did she think once about Gopi before doing her own kalakaries.. Did she? In fact look at where it ended.. It ended with Gopi being physically abused by her husband.. so shaken.. and she was new to the family.. Can you imagine what must have gone through Gopi at that moment.. she got abused by her Mami and then her only hope of finding affection, her sasural, her husband abuses her.. Where is she meant to go from there? Yet Kinjal didnt melt.. She still was self obsessed and selfish.. What kind of a girl pretends to be pregnant and humiliate her own family that have cared for since she was born.. I sure cannot do that to my family.. and my mother is strict just like Koki- maybe a little less.. but seriously this wasnt just about Koki but the whole family... at that time Gopi stood up and took care of her but does she remember that, does she acknowledge that at all.. NO! Gopi is still a piece of dust for her.. Then Ahem went to Umang and asked him but Umang left.. did he love Kinjal..NO..Therefore Koki got her married to Dhaval.. Yes maybe that was a mistake... but look at Dhaval.. I mean that is the best Kinjal possibly deserves.. Actually she doesnt even deserve a loving husband like him who treats her with respect, because she doesnt leave one stone unturned or a chance to humiliate him does she? Ok so she got married and she isnt happy.. But what does she do.. Take revenge.. Seriously? I mean why doesnt she try to be happy, talk it out.. You know they say that women have the power to change men .. then why cant she just have patience and compromise and make her life happy. what kind of marriage doesnt need adjustment.. Seriously she treats Dhaval exactly how Ahem used to treat Gopi..Therefore I cant exactly blame Koki directly but I will surely say that maybe Koki did not give her children the right type of upbringing that was needed.. and because of that two people are suffering .. well Gopi was suffering and now it seems to get better..

Ok this is just my POV soo please no bashing.. Thank you😃

I think kinjal could change dhaval or adapt to his situation if urmila was not there but as long as she is there kinjal cannot live in peace. And the problem is that kokila knows how urmila is but did she once think of the mental abuse her daughter is going through. And abt gopi she had no right to suggest kinjal and dhaval's marriage because she herself does not know how to make her marriage work or understand basic things in life like not washing electronics anybody would know that. Did she ever see urmila washing the tv? But when first kinjal was rude to gopi it was because of ahem and kokila again. First she sees her mom being mean to gopi so naturally she thinks hey why should i care i will do it too since my mom is doing it. second gopi was the reason her relationhsip with umang and her best friend anita's life was ruined. And who brought poor gopi into all this the great kokila. Maybe umang's love was not strong for kinjal but then ahem's love was not strong for anita either. So how come we are not blaming ahem and why do we still like him just because he is the lead. He ruined another girl's life for his mommy what is the guarantee that he wont do that to gopi? (but that is another whole topic). I agree that kinjal should not have said about pregnancy but how is she supposed to think of everyone as family when her mother always distances herself from that family during problems. Kinjal does not think of hetal or her hubby as parent figures. And kokila does not think of jigar as her son. Technically they are a family just for the name. And kinjal of course blamed her mom and bro and to teach them a lesson she lied. Kokila forcefully got both her kids married to people she liked and not once cared about their future. She deserves everything bad she gets from her kids. I have no idea what ahem respects and admires her for. I will never forget what she did to anita or gopi in the beginning. the way she made sure gopi never got close to ahem and when she punished her by locking her in the storage room angry like she is not a 2 year old (shouldn't even do that to a kid). she is a grown woman.No matter how many nice things she does her sins will never be cleaned.

I do not mean to bash you😊, i am just saying my opinion so hope you do not get upset..😛 your POV also makes sense especially more if hetal was the mom lol...