Why Nitika do not want to leave her job ?

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Nitika is seeing that how fights and argumets are happening in the house due to her work... Her best friend is ready to go through hell just for her, whereas she does nothing, just stand and wait to enjoy the fruit of it...
Why is it so important for her to work ?? She can leave the job for a year and after when she has proved her mettle as a DIL to Cheddi and Nani ma has left, she can re-start ?? Every girl does the same... They do take a leave for atleast a month or 2 before starting their job again, then Y Nitika is not doing so ??

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Why should Nitika leave her job? Give me one reason please!

Who is unhappy or being inconvenient at C-house because of her job? Who has complained about it to whom?

Just 15 days back or so, she wasn't even there in C-house, why is her presence in C-house all so important all of a sudden?

I see the reason why there is less development and progress for women in Indian society...because majority of people (read: women) still believe in and support nani ma's thinking and ways of life.

Please, take no offense. I believe in liberalization, independence and equality of rights for women in any society.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Good topic...I guess everyone should do their bit and no point singling Nitika out. The father to be should be given the opportunity to stand by his wife and do some real work for her.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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whole thing is dumb

why is malti sitting on her butt and not going anything??? zamanna badal gaya hai now pregnant women work even when pregnant up to at least 6 months till pregnancy before they take leave

and toasty is being super woman then why doesnt nani ma help her out??? why cant chedi buy dishwasher, machine washer??? they r flooding in money bt so kanjuice

nitika shud have common sense if she is working in morning then evening she shud help in house

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I don't think that Nani maa has a problem with Nitika's working but has a problem when Nitika come home and she is not helping Toasty with the house work. Most people think that when one works, he or she is given a free pass for not doing any house work. I now lots of ladies who works and when they come back they have to do house work. Some men will help their wives with the work.

So Nitika should continue to work but has to share her responsibilities at home also

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: heart1

whole thing is dumb


why is malti sitting on her butt and not going anything??? zamanna badal gaya hai now pregnant women work even when pregnant up to at least 6 months till pregnancy before they take leave

and toasty is being super woman then why doesnt nani ma help her out??? why cant chedi buy dishwasher, machine washer??? they r flooding in money bt so kanjuice

nitika shud have common sense if she is working in morning then evening she shud help in house



:) agree with all your points

Arre, instead of bringing the issue of Nitika leaving her job because Toasty is being bombarded with loads of work, let nani ma help her out or people...think! buy all those appliances that will make Toasty's life easier. Buy her a big size washer-dryer, a gas-range with multiple stoves so she can cook more than 2 things at a time, a chopper, a food-processor, toaster, send clothes out for ironing, if you are so eager to have home-made pickle then do it over the weekend when people are around to help.

Or if none of this sounds good, then let brothers take turn in taking a week off from saree shop to help Toasty at home 😳

I have seen women working until the last week of their pregnancy. In US you get a max of 3 months maternity leave (some only get like 6-8 weeks), so women tend to work as long as they can before delivery so they can spend extra time with new born baby afterwards.

Of course I would like to see Nitika helping Toasty out either in the morning or evening but not due to any dictator's orders.
Edited by abc113 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Its so weird to ask a girl to leave her job once she gets married.. The only thing that needs to be done here is proper work-life balance. Nitika is so lucky that she has Toasty and Ved to support her, Ved is even happy to help Toasty in household chores for making up for his wife, if given a chance (adore him for that). However, someone should help Nitika realize that she should also take some responsibility of house and can help Toasty in small tasks. May be she is just newly married and would learn eventually. There is always a life outside kitchen.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: abc113



:) agree with all your points

Arre, instead of bringing the issue of Nitika leaving her job because Toasty is being bombarded with loads of work, let nani ma help her out or people...think! buy all those appliances that will make Toasty's life easier. Buy her a big size washer-dryer, a gas-range with multiple stoves so she can cook more than 2 things at a time, a chopper, a food-processor, toaster, send clothes out for ironing, if you are so eager to have home-made pickle then do it over the weekend when people are around to help.

Or if none of this sounds good, then let brothers take turn in taking a week off from saree shop to help Toasty at home 😳

I have seen women working until the last week of their pregnancy. In US you get a max of 3 months maternity leave (some only get like 6-8 weeks), so women tend to work as long as they can before delivery so they can spend extra time with new born baby afterwards.

Of course I would like to see Nitika helping Toasty out either in the morning or evening but not due to any dictator's orders.


You are right. Nani and even Malti should help Toasty. I don't understand if Malti is sick or has some trouble? Well! I don't think nani would ever allow any appliance to enter kitchen, God..she doesnt even want to prepare chutney with a mixer.😡 This is so crazzyyy..
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I think Malti should be sent to village with nani maa... -2 people in house everything will be back to normal.. this nani I wanna strangle her myself..

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: abhilasha_dream

Nitika is seeing that how fights and argumets are happening in the house due to her work... Her best friend is ready to go through hell just for her, whereas she does nothing, just stand and wait to enjoy the fruit of it...

Why is it so important for her to work ?? She can leave the job for a year and after when she has proved her mettle as a DIL to Cheddi and Nani ma has left, she can re-start ?? Every girl does the same... They do take a leave for atleast a month or 2 before starting their job again, then Y Nitika is not doing so ??


Just because a woman gets married or has a child, does not mean she has to leave her job behind, even if she does not need the money. They stated she likes to work and that's why she does it. Even Nani said it was ok for her to work if she could handle her job and the house at the same time. Unfortunately, Nitika is not doing a good job

I don't think Nitika should have to quit but she definitely needs to change. I realize she's new to the house so she still has to adjust, but she needs to at least not add work from her part (leaving her plate on the table, leaving her laptop lying around, having Toasty make her tea).

Nani has a point that she's not helping out enough. Nitika needs a chance to change that, otherwise she might have to sacrifice her job for the benefit of the family. I have a feeling that this actually will cause problems and Nani's prediction will turn into reality if nothing changes soon.

For the ones who say Nani doesn't help, she does help from time to time. She shows the daughter in laws how to do things. Her prime responsibility is Malti and she's fulfilling her duties.

Remember Malti's pregnancy apparently has complications. It's possible that she may not be allowed to work very much. So unfortunately, it's all on Toasty (Nani said this too) and Nitika is not really putting forth her effort.
Edited by megustajalebi - 13 years ago

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