Member Of The Week - chatbuster - Page 22

Originally posted by: jayc1234

oh these are hard ones Jaya. and i am no expert. still, here's my attempt for now.

Do you think boys in general are closer to fathers? Why or why not?

closer in terms of being able to relate, but usually only when they are older. probably closer towards mom in almost every other way for most of one's life

What makes a good father? What about a good mother?

lots of possibilities in either case. so what i have here is just one permuation, the traditional one where the father is the main bread-winner.

father- someone who is a good role model for sons and who sets expectations for what the daughter's husband should be like; ensures that kids have a sense of financial security; someone who shares in raising the kids and in helping keep the home a loving secure intelligent lively place for kids;

mother- one who really lives through all the trials and tribulations of looking after the kid, raising them, ensuring they have a sense of family, love and belonging and that their emotional and physical needs are taken care; one who ensures that the kids look up to the father even though he might be away a lot of the time

Would it work if fathers and mothers reversed their roles in our lives? Why or why not?

it could work but since we are wired differently thanks to societal norms, might be a bit hard for kids to understand, especially when they meet other kids and see their experiences. wld require a lot of extraordinary upbringing to set things right in their head, but u cld have an unusual kid if u succeeded

Did you ever feel the need of a sister in your life?

yes.

How do you think growing up would have been different with a sister than a brother?

i'd be more considerate and husband material 😉etc because i'd understand the other side of females too

Do you think boys and girls should be brought up differently? Why or why not? If yes, in what areas?

to an extent yes. nature has created two different genders which differ in terms of emotional/ hormonal/ physical makeup. we'd therefore probably be better off customizing the solution keeping in mind these differences.

in what areas? well, for one thing, you cant let girls hang outside late. apart from her reputation which is more at stake than it is for the guy, it's also a more dangerous world for females. there are also career choices (from nursing to comat) that's genetically more suitable for one than the other. and wholly aside from that, there are societal expectations as to what is expected from either eg home-maker versus bread-winner. to the extent one wishes to conform, these have implications for how one raises the kid eg. cooking classes versus boxing school

You would want your first child to be a boy/girl? Reasons please.

boy. just so that i could beat up on him if he ever turned out bad. 😆i'd also love going out with him. and as i grow older, maybe have him update my girl-pataoing skills to be used on his mom. 😉i wldnt know what to do with a girl child, not that i wldnt love her as much. i'd just be too terrified of the dangers lurking there.

Your advice to kids growing up in India today? How about in US?

obey your folks. more often than not, they are right. work hard, the world is your oyster if you do.

pretty much the same for kids in the US. attend one of the religious/ ethnic programs so that you dont lose your identity.

Originally posted by: Awww

Rahul - Your kind words have touched my heart 😭 - Kuch ziada tarif kardi meri chote!!

Vinnie told me you were MOW and asked me to check page 17 and when I did I was like "WOW" - Seriousy, I don't have words to express how touched I am.

Rahul, I want you to know that I have great respect, love and admiration for you. You are a strong individual with great personality and you stick to what you believe in and your kind words show me that you believe in me and this is means alot to me. Thank you for thinking so highly of me, but I am not even close to what you have expressed, yet I must say I feel very honoured!!

Love you chote!!!

your Di Zahida

kuch zyada? i thot i'd get beaten up for not saying more😊

Originally posted by: *dolly*

ok rahul some more q..

What do you have to say for these lines

1.A man is a true man when he cries in front his woman..

haha, true. if you cant get what you want begging, pleading, being charming, then you might as well send out those crocodile tears.😛 seriously though, i've heard that too from the psychobabblers on TV, so might be true

2.Do you want to be immortal?

no. too much maintenance 😆

3.Silence does not mean that you are gulity

true. but that doesnt mean that u cldnt falsely be proven guilty😉

4.Can you tell us why woman cry?( sambhal kae dena answer iska) 😉 😆

haha, pata naheen kyoon yaar. that's a mystery which if fathomed could get someone a nobel prize. 😛😆 I am working on it😉

5.You said somewhere that anger can create disasters.. now tell me do you think with patience/tolerence/love and all those softy emotions can you win when on the other end all you see is anger and a desire to through you on the ground?

i guess not. hitler was a pretty rough guy and one had to attack him back with strength. the soft approach wld not have worked which is why even a pacifist guy like einstein who was so influenced by Gandhiji had to write to Roosevelt and advocate that the US build atomic weapons. in any event, i am not sure what role anger played here. it was more strategic/ tactical thinking that finally won the day for the Allies. anger if there shld be channeled in the right direction, else it's a waste i think

Originally posted by: SmarterDesiKid

OOOOOOOOOOOYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
You cheated on the directions!!!! 😡 😆

4 set's left 😆

haha, keeping the best for last.😊

Originally posted by: chatbuster

Awesome again 👏 I just feel like asking you only these kind of questions now... The gain will be all mine.... 😊

Originally posted by: GUARDIAN ANGEL

Just wondered about the engineering connection to finance? Is it because of analytical work? Biomedical Engineering has both medical and engineering component so is it something like that? Just curious. Thanks.

actually the main thing i got outa my IIT days was the problem-solving analytical approach. very important. kind of helps sift through all the rubbish that's passed off as financial news, and to be able to act fast and wit clarity... Other aspects were developed later

Originally posted by: chatbuster

honestly i dont know. maybe i am looking for that unusual angle or for something that was missed in the conversation earlier. but if i dont see it, i wont argue for it just for the heck of it. seriously. if for no other reason than there's that bit of that ego- i wldn't intentionally want to make a jack-ass out of myself if i didnt have something to contribute or back me up with.

somewhere, i also learned from my seniors at IIT before i got to some of the IIM group interviews that what they are looking for is someone who can stand apart from the crowd and defend their viewpoints. that's the hardest thing for a leadership aspirant, to take a different stance and state it publicly. so somehow it's all of that- both an interest in finding unusual aspects in an honest attempt to bring something new and interesting to the debate and perhaps a baser instinct to go for the kill, no matter what.

something else i think that's very important. one thing i got out of my Harvard days was the fact that there are almost always lots of legitimate opinions on anything. real world does not lend itself to precise answers, to simple night and day choices and calculations. there's gray. it often comes down to how well you can articulate things. we all get convinced, rightly or wrongly, by ideas that are well-formulated and put across, and by personable smart people who can sell well. but beyond style, i know there's good and bad in all sides, much the same as there's good and bad in most people. we just have to unearth it...

dont know if i got even close to answering this. but thx for the question and for the opportunity to present my case.

Originally posted by: jayc1234