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I have been in a very similar situation to what Laila is in. Let me just clarify that I didn't go bat-shit crazy trying to kill my sautan, but women are emotional creatures and have emotional responses.
I haven't seen today's episode yet, but just from yesterday's dramas, I kind of get Laila, in a crazy way. Of-course, she's not right in wanting to kill Paro, but I understand where the possessiveness comes from. For 8 years, Laila has been the only one that Rudra has turned to. She knows him well, his habits, his needs. And suddenly, someone else has swooped in and changed everything?
She does know Rudra well. No-one can deny that. Yes, he has changed a little bit here and there. But all these years, she has looked after him, she has anticipated his needs, she feels a certain sense of ownership over him, which is not wrong. Even though he never reciprocated the same behavior towards her, he never stopped her. He would allow her to come and go as she pleased, he would go over to her place to eat, to drink, to sleep over. He let her take care of him. So she is not wrong in wanting to recreate that, to remind herself and him both, that she does have a right over him.
It takes anyone time to get over a relationship, and Laila's been in this for 8 long years. She is not going down without a fight. For normal people, a fight means talking, arguing, fighting, convincing, and bashing each other, for Laila it means sneaking around with Mohini and hating on Paro. What woman do you know has just rolled over and let a long-term relationship just end, without some kind of investment, either trying to figure out what happened, or how to fix things? Rudra gave her no real explanation, no real closure.
I was in a similar situation, where things just ended. No real closure, no real conversation. He moved on, I was stuck. It took a year, but eventually everything that was suppressed for that long, did come bubbling up like toxic lava. A year later, we fought, we cried, we laughed, and we moved on together. In the mean time, I became adept at stalking, at creating situations that allowed me to get close to this person, anything to make myself still be a part of his life. I knew his weaknesses, and I started leveraging them to get what I wanted. I started doing the things I knew he liked to remind him of how good we were together. I didn't outright bash his new girl, but I found round-about ways to point out her negativities to him. And trust me, I am not a crazy person! And if someone normal like me, struggled in this way, then what can we expect from Laila?
She's not wrong in her reaction. But we are so focused on Paro and Rudra as a couple, that we fail to understand Laila, and instead very easily label her as a vamp.
And Paro too, knows that Laila loves Rudra, and yet not only is she ok with Laila staying with them, but she doesn't seem to realize (foolishly) that Laila witnessing the lovey dovey Parud moments is probably not a good thing. Either it fuels the fire, or drags a person to the pits of despair. I know it's not Paro's fault, but a little sensitivity here won't be misplaced.
I am not defending Laila at all. I just realized that I know what it's like to be the one that was unceremoniously dumped, without any real explanations or closure. Not that it isn't for the better, because some people are just meant to be together, and some people are just not, but dealing with these kind of things is never easy.
I haven't seen today's episode yet, but just from yesterday's dramas, I kind of get Laila, in a crazy way. Of-course, she's not right in wanting to kill Paro, but I understand where the possessiveness comes from. For 8 years, Laila has been the only one that Rudra has turned to. She knows him well, his habits, his needs. And suddenly, someone else has swooped in and changed everything?
She does know Rudra well. No-one can deny that. Yes, he has changed a little bit here and there. But all these years, she has looked after him, she has anticipated his needs, she feels a certain sense of ownership over him, which is not wrong. Even though he never reciprocated the same behavior towards her, he never stopped her. He would allow her to come and go as she pleased, he would go over to her place to eat, to drink, to sleep over. He let her take care of him. So she is not wrong in wanting to recreate that, to remind herself and him both, that she does have a right over him.
It takes anyone time to get over a relationship, and Laila's been in this for 8 long years. She is not going down without a fight. For normal people, a fight means talking, arguing, fighting, convincing, and bashing each other, for Laila it means sneaking around with Mohini and hating on Paro. What woman do you know has just rolled over and let a long-term relationship just end, without some kind of investment, either trying to figure out what happened, or how to fix things? Rudra gave her no real explanation, no real closure.
I was in a similar situation, where things just ended. No real closure, no real conversation. He moved on, I was stuck. It took a year, but eventually everything that was suppressed for that long, did come bubbling up like toxic lava. A year later, we fought, we cried, we laughed, and we moved on together. In the mean time, I became adept at stalking, at creating situations that allowed me to get close to this person, anything to make myself still be a part of his life. I knew his weaknesses, and I started leveraging them to get what I wanted. I started doing the things I knew he liked to remind him of how good we were together. I didn't outright bash his new girl, but I found round-about ways to point out her negativities to him. And trust me, I am not a crazy person! And if someone normal like me, struggled in this way, then what can we expect from Laila?
She's not wrong in her reaction. But we are so focused on Paro and Rudra as a couple, that we fail to understand Laila, and instead very easily label her as a vamp.
And Paro too, knows that Laila loves Rudra, and yet not only is she ok with Laila staying with them, but she doesn't seem to realize (foolishly) that Laila witnessing the lovey dovey Parud moments is probably not a good thing. Either it fuels the fire, or drags a person to the pits of despair. I know it's not Paro's fault, but a little sensitivity here won't be misplaced.
I am not defending Laila at all. I just realized that I know what it's like to be the one that was unceremoniously dumped, without any real explanations or closure. Not that it isn't for the better, because some people are just meant to be together, and some people are just not, but dealing with these kind of things is never easy.
