Trying to make sense of this epi - Page 2

Originally posted by: AreYaar

LOL well I was trying to put it diplomatically...I can think of a few more choice words but this forum won't take it too kindly, so😆

But since you've said it...yes, she comes across as remarkably SELF-ABSORBED, SELFISH and OBTUSE. It is indeed VERY ironical that in a hate wedding scenario which is generally thrown into shows to garner sympathy for the female lead by making her cry and raise TRPs, it is the hero's POV, his pain that we are sympathizing with...cuz nothing comes through from Paro other than "This is how I see it"...not once does she bother seeing the ramifications of her actions, her behavior.

I'm also amazed by how remarkably obsessed she is with shaadi and how childishly she views it...like a 6 year old playing with her dolls might view it...she seems more enamored by the CONCEPT of marriage rather than the person she's getting married to...I'm yet to see her showing any true understanding of the man she claims to love...such that everything that comes out of her mouth ends up looking farcical.

Maybe cuz in the attempt to do a "different" sort of hate wedding wherein the heroine doesn't exactly hate the hero, the writers have lost the plot a bit...Paro's already shaky characterization suffers more in the bargain.

Originally posted by: laddoo598

Exactly. You hit the nail on the head. She is more enamored by the idea of marriage than the actual person she is married to. In her rose tinted world of destiny, and soul mates, and happily ever afters she has crafted this scenario in her head that Rudra and her are meant to be together, and that's that, there is simply no other way but her way. Its so unbelievably childish!

I still don't get how she fell in love with him so fast. This was the man who treated her horribly, tortured her emotionally, made unwanted sexual advances on her during that farce wedding week, and she forgets all of that in a jiffy. Okay, granted he meant well along. But that should give rise to respect, gratitude, and maybe infatuation to some extent, and maybe even affection a serious dose of Stockholm syndrome later. But love? Naaah. She doesn't love him. Not yet. If she did then she wouldn't be so blind to his pain, to his plight.

Also, where's her sense of being violated, being forced to act against her wishes? She doesn't seem to care two hoots about the fact that her husband (by force might I add)claims to hate her very sight, thinks she is a cheat and fraud, and has promised her life long misery. She is least bothered by all this and is happily playing wife? What are the writers sniffing again? 😆

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@Dexterocks: That is the biggest irony to me right now...Paro claims to love him, be his soulmate, destined to be with him but she's unable to understand HIS pain even ONE bit...infact it's quite amazing that in this whole epi, even after Rudra shows and even talks about his pain quite categorically, no one blinks an eye and instead they get busy doing grihapravesh?😕

exactly my thought . leave Paro, even none of the family members, esp Danveer, none of them has any kind of supportive gesture for Rudra, moreover they irritate him like hell by constantly siding with Paro and telling that she is innocent. Rudra had enough of Paro and her innocence, he did pay a huge price for that, and its unfortunate when he is hurt, he has expressed it in a drunken state, still no1 bothers to think about his perspective including Paro. She was more like, the marriage has happened, i got my soulmate . But what soulmate when you do not even realize the turmoil and suffering he went through and nor do you attempt to know about it. Atleast in that case i understand Rudra more, whenever he sees Paro in trouble, we get a valid reaction from his side, that somehow proves that he loves her but he denies to accept it, but in case of Paro she screams her lungs about her divine love for Rudra, but her actions always fail to create any impact which makes us believe that yes she is madly in love with him. From the situation, i can only depict Rudra being madly in love with her and madly angry with her.

I could have understood everything else about Paro if they had shown her having SOME understanding, SOME perceptiveness regarding Rudra's state of mind...but there is just a BLANK in Paro when it comes to that...like nothing exists in her mind except shaadi and being his patni...what is the point of wanting to be his wife if Paro can't even begin to understand his state of mind? 😕

ANd the fact that she does not even try to consider his opinion worsens the matter. heck no1 cares to consider Rudra's opinion, that why he is denying, why he does not want to marry, seems like his consent does not matter at all as long as Paro and her innocence is viable . She definitely does not understand him, otherwise till this time she would realise that he has love for her, much more and pasionate love than that off hers for him. and yes Love is not about being vocal or winning it, it can also be about denial and letting it go for the sake of the person you love, Rudra falls in the second category while Paro falls under the first one, atleast from the current situations.

Originally posted by: CyberOstrich

@ AY

Just saw the apisode- absolute mindf**ed!

It was utter nonsense- absolute nonsensical- seriously what are the writers sniffing? If they are trying to show that She is THAT innocent- its just not coming across at all!

Today it seemed like they put together the screen play 5 min before- or may be they were just flowing along- achha hate over- aansun over- now play happy shehnai music- bahu ghar aayi hai?!!!! God- absolute disconnect- arre ek episode ke liye toh sabko sad rehne dete! And that Sunerhri - going all Hip Hip Hurray- BHABHI? Total mindf*kery! Today even Rudra seemed all over the place to me- after the pheras- not convincing at all! And they dont show Paro remembering her maami-sa, thakurain maasa- all those that mattered to her- even fleetingly in her mind- ki I am getting MARRIED LIKE THIS! Paro ka toh caricature bana diya hai- it was really as if she was actually sort of gaga later- Hai meri Shaadi- Hai Meri first night!! Show her inner turmoil- her inner revulsion ki this man I revered- did this? Really show something that makes her alittle believable for god's sake

I have never watched any Saurabh Tiwari shows earlier- is that what he does generally- make the female leads so blas?

Originally posted by: DexterRocks

exactly my thought . leave Paro, even none of the family members, esp Danveer, none of them has any kind of supportive gesture for Rudra, moreover they irritate him like hell by constantly siding with Paro and telling that she is innocent. Rudra had enough of Paro and her innocence, he did pay a huge price for that, and its unfortunate when he is hurt, he has expressed it in a drunken state, still no1 bothers to think about his perspective including Paro. Exactly...even people who are technically his family couldn't care less over the anguish he's going through...yes it's not Paro's fault directly but Rudra deserves a bit more empathy and understanding from his own uncle atleast who WITNESSED his humiliation firsthand! Why does that not matter to these people at all in their blind love for Paro?😕 Can anyone really blame Rudra then for acting up and lashing out in his drunken state like this...Is it any wonder then that Rudra considers all relationships a MOCKERY and a FARCE...cuz even people who claim to love him and care for him don't seem to understand his feelings one bit😕

She was more like, the marriage has happened, i got my soulmate . But what soulmate when you do not even realize the turmoil and suffering he went through and nor do you attempt to know about it. Atleast in that case i understand Rudra more, whenever he sees Paro in trouble, we get a valid reaction from his side, that somehow proves that he loves her but he denies to accept it, but in case of Paro she screams her lungs about her divine love for Rudra, but her actions always fail to create any impact which makes us believe that yes she is madly in love with him. SO true!

ANd the fact that she does not even try to consider his opinion worsens the matter. heck no1 cares to consider Rudra's opinion, that why he is denying, why he does not want to marry, seems like his consent does not matter at all as long as Paro and her innocence is viable . She definitely does not understand him, otherwise till this time she would realise that he has love for her, much more and pasionate love than that off hers for him. and yes Love is not about being vocal or winning it, it can also be about denial and letting it go for the sake of the person you love, Rudra falls in the second category while Paro falls under the first one, atleast from the current situations. I also wondered about this...why does no one bother really trying to delve into the reasons that Rudra doesn't want to get married? Paro talks about how he can't understand love cuz he's never received it but isn't love about understanding too? Where is SHE giving him the understanding then? Where were his feelings considered in all of this? Usually in TV shows they show the woman all majboor and coerced into stuff like marriage but in this show it's totally the opposite😕😆...here no one gives a damn about the man's feelings, his opinion as long as they get what they want...like in Paro's case, all she wanted was shaadi and she got it...by hook or by crook...or like she said...toffee deke ya dhamka ke...she's gotten her way😆

Originally posted by: laddoo598

Simply minded? Naaah, she is just self absorbed. Right now she comes of as this person who is always all about her own self, what she feels, what she wants, how she wants it done, when she wants it done, and how she knows best. She baffles me!

In scenarios like this where a girl is literally arm twisted into marrying someone you are supposed to feel sympathy for her, and feel angry with the hero for violating her wishes, forcing her into a marriage wagera wagera. But I feel the complete opposite. I feel sorry for Rudra instead. 😆

Loonie residents of Ranawat haveli are no less. How they can go from being traumatized to blushing and giggling over Rudra and Paro's SR in the blink of an eye is beyond me. The only person who made sense was Mausam aunty, bas.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Originally posted by: AreYaar

LOL this is a first even for an ST show that I've seen a female character THIS mindless...I've seen both his previous shows and the female lead was never shown THIS stupidly...RR is a first that way in terms of ST shows😆

Problem is that RR is a very watered down version of LTL in many ways😆...I feel like they are vaguely trying to go for a Nakku type character with Paro...cuz contrast Paro's reaction today with Nakku's when Dutta married her in that fit of drunk rage...world of a difference...and what emoting from MV...Nakku's numbness, her pain, her shock, her heartbreak all came across so brilliantly.

But Paro's mind really doesn't seem to have anything but SHAADI in it...so where's the scope for any kind of nuanced reaction?😕

They need to give some THEHRAAV to the characters, their emotions in order for the audiences to CONNECT...but they are too busy zooming through...what was the need to jump to SR/grihapravesh within today's epi? They could have spent more of the epi focussing on Paro's emotions, her feelings but nope, nothing...it's like they couldn't care less😕

Originally posted by: CyberOstrich

Arre- why make the 'LTL for dummies' version? Copy toh achhe se kar sakte ho- I am sure people - even the TRP junta would have empathized and understood more if just one episode they would have shown that THEHRAAV. I just dont understand the hurry at all- they had the hate marriage- they got their back for somehow putting these two HAWT beings in one room- the drooling junta would also not have minded if they had postponed the suhaag raat games for one more day.

Ab tomorrow we have daaaru- milk drinking competition? 😲 I am just...??? uske baad Bapusa will come and say- OH!! Shaadi ho gayi- my prartna successful- YAY! Ab go to kitchen and make nice roties- and hasnta khelta parivaar vaapis. I only have some hopes from a sober Rudra now- but only just- coz he'll be brushed aside saying- yeh toh hai hi aisa.

I dont expect them to show Paro's pain at all- if she really is suppossed to have some- or its another Bhagya and niyati thing for her- or Ma Parvati type tapasya?