Its NOT Paro's JOB to fix Rudra! - Page 10

Originally posted by: Kalyaani

The day I lay my hands on that Manu guy, he is dead meat...

As the dog, Spike in Tom & Jerry promises "I will pulverize him"

Originally posted by: Kalyaani

Karyeshu Dasi, Karaneshu Manthri; Bhojeshu Mata, Shayaneshu Rambha, Roopeshu lakshmi, Kshamayeshu Dharitri, Shat dharmayukta, Kuladharma Pathni

1) Karyeshu Dasi: works like a servant

2) Karaneshu Mantri : advises like a minister

3) Bhojeshu Mata: feeds like a mother

4) Shayaneshu Ramba : Pleases in bed like the heavenly beauty Rambha

5) Roopeshu Lakshmi : Beautiful like Goddess Lakshmi

6) Kshmayeshu Dharitri : Having patience like Earth

7) Shat dharma yuktah: woman who has this six virtues

8) Kula dharma Patni : good housewife (a married woman who is not employed outside the home)

This is the basic rules set for a "Good wife/partner" this is what the world expects from a woman. With such archaic thinking, one cannot do much and this is what is shown in our serials. Take a look at the most popular and long running serials, this is the philosophy they base it on.

I wish there were rules for men on similar lines and I would want them enforced and FAST.

Originally posted by: ruchisahay

Lovely discussion here 👏. Great post @TM and many thoughtful replies.

Here's what I feel about the same.

Does the show with damaged hero & pristine heroine fetch TRP? NO, it does not (strictly my view - but will give some facts to present my POV).

The top TRP earners are the shows which have a powerful heroine doing well in career and personal life. The most admired women on TV are those who refuse to give up their dreams and fight back - without leaving their roots.

The consistent TOP show is about a woman not losing her identity and her dreams after her marriage. Her husband is a nice guy, who's not insecure of his wife's success and supports her all through.

The TOP show on this Channel is the story of a woman who empowered herself, fought back with everything she had and successfully made a place for herself in society. Her husband is again a nice guy who is matured and supports her.

The TOP show last week is the story of a woman who ruled India - really ruled as against most of the queens who just had a token presence. She was someone who actually had a say in the governance, and whom her husband listened to and respected in matters of governance (as mentioned in our history books)

The Mills and Boons lind of abusive, regressive love stories are more popular with the young crowd - well educated, internet savvy crowd. The so called TRP Aunties do not love these shows - internet crowd does.

Look at Madhubala, IPKKND (part 1,2) - these shows were never TRP toppers (IPK 1 did well initially but there was a steady decline later). These are internet successes, rage among the young viewers - esp overseas viewers.

As for the much-maligned Indian mentality I have read about, here's my take. I have studied in India, and worked in UK and then US before returning to India when I was 7 months pregnant and missed family like crazy. And believe me I have not found the so called Indian metality as a defining feature. Girls are progressive, husbands supportive and MILs understanding. The families shown on TV are as much alien to women in India as to those settled outside. There are problems in society but not of the nature shown on TV.

Disclaimer: I don't watch any shows but have relatives who do. Also, I read forums on and off - as I work in the night (to spend my time with my kid during the day). So, don't know what happens everyday on each show but have a general idea about the main essence of the shows.

Originally posted by: ruchisahay

Lovely discussion here 👏. Great post @TM and many thoughtful replies.

Here's what I feel about the same.

Does the show with damaged hero & pristine heroine fetch TRP? NO, it does not (strictly my view - but will give some facts to present my POV).

The top TRP earners are the shows which have a powerful heroine doing well in career and personal life. The most admired women on TV are those who refuse to give up their dreams and fight back - without leaving their roots.

The consistent TOP show is about a woman not losing her identity and her dreams after her marriage. Her husband is a nice guy, who's not insecure of his wife's success and supports her all through.

The TOP show on this Channel is the story of a woman who empowered herself, fought back with everything she had and successfully made a place for herself in society. Her husband is again a nice guy who is matured and supports her.

The TOP show last week is the story of a woman who ruled India - really ruled as against most of the queens who just had a token presence. She was someone who actually had a say in the governance, and whom her husband listened to and respected in matters of governance (as mentioned in our history books)

The Mills and Boons lind of abusive, regressive love stories are more popular with the young crowd - well educated, internet savvy crowd. The so called TRP Aunties do not love these shows - internet crowd does.

Look at Madhubala, IPKKND (part 1,2) - these shows were never TRP toppers (IPK 1 did well initially but there was a steady decline later). These are internet successes, rage among the young viewers - esp overseas viewers.

As for the much-maligned Indian mentality I have read about, here's my take. I have studied in India, and worked in UK and then US before returning to India when I was 7 months pregnant and missed family like crazy. And believe me I have not found the so called Indian metality as a defining feature. Girls are progressive, husbands supportive and MILs understanding. The families shown on TV are as much alien to women in India as to those settled outside. There are problems in society but not of the nature shown on TV.

Disclaimer: I don't watch any shows but have relatives who do. Also, I read forums on and off - as I work in the night (to spend my time with my kid during the day). So, don't know what happens everyday on each show but have a general idea about the main essence of the shows.

Originally posted by: LadyLaLa

... and I am sure all these values were coined by a man

Originally posted by: ruchisahay

Lovely discussion here 👏. Great post @TM and many thoughtful replies.

Here's what I feel about the same.

Does the show with damaged hero & pristine heroine fetch TRP? NO, it does not (strictly my view - but will give some facts to present my POV).

The top TRP earners are the shows which have a powerful heroine doing well in career and personal life. The most admired women on TV are those who refuse to give up their dreams and fight back - without leaving their roots.

The consistent TOP show is about a woman not losing her identity and her dreams after her marriage. Her husband is a nice guy, who's not insecure of his wife's success and supports her all through.

The TOP show on this Channel is the story of a woman who empowered herself, fought back with everything she had and successfully made a place for herself in society. Her husband is again a nice guy who is matured and supports her.

The TOP show last week is the story of a woman who ruled India - really ruled as against most of the queens who just had a token presence. She was someone who actually had a say in the governance, and whom her husband listened to and respected in matters of governance (as mentioned in our history books)

The Mills and Boons lind of abusive, regressive love stories are more popular with the young crowd - well educated, internet savvy crowd. The so called TRP Aunties do not love these shows - internet crowd does.

Look at Madhubala, IPKKND (part 1,2) - these shows were never TRP toppers (IPK 1 did well initially but there was a steady decline later). These are internet successes, rage among the young viewers - esp overseas viewers.

As for the much-maligned Indian mentality I have read about, here's my take. I have studied in India, and worked in UK and then US before returning to India when I was 7 months pregnant and missed family like crazy. And believe me I have not found the so called Indian metality as a defining feature. Girls are progressive, husbands supportive and MILs understanding. The families shown on TV are as much alien to women in India as to those settled outside. There are problems in society but not of the nature shown on TV.

Disclaimer: I don't watch any shows but have relatives who do. Also, I read forums on and off - as I work in the night (to spend my time with my kid during the day). So, don't know what happens everyday on each show but have a general idea about the main essence of the shows.