AsYa FF Thrd 2 'The Butterflies!' - Page 70

Plz update and pm me...😛

have a loads of free time till next week, so here i am in ur thread...

so here is my story so far,

i am a happy go lucky girl till 24 yeah may be now too happy go lucky woman... marriage , love etc was never part of my dream... yeah but did have crush one at my 8 th std on my distant cousin of mine... and one more after my post graduation,, on a good friend of mine... he is a good friend ..so can be a good partner... but never serious about that or about falling in love.

u across 24, i.e the boundary line.. after that age u have to get married... i was happy with my job and my life at that stage... so i was not interested in marriage...but... people back home were very serious about marriage and got some proposal at hand...

how we get proposal... this will be interesting for u to know.. in ur conv with aashna u spoke about horoscope... my marriage was made through horoscope... how it happened...

my parents have strong believe in astrology i too have some faith though not a blind faith.. for my eldest bro we chose our SIL, was my first cousin.. so we never saw the horoscope of her since it was decided... but for me and my 2 bro... horoscope played a major part. they have association here who literally make money using this belief here.

since we are searching for someone in the same caste but not a relative.. that was the option.. they will bring home only those biodata were the stars match... they will look at the details of the guy and family.. if it passes their expectation then it will go 3 astrologers. who did eavulate the horoscope with mine and see how the stars are matching.. and give some inputs on them... when i go home in between there will bags filled with rejection.. ok.. good... my hubby was in the good list, with 2 others... and they did came to see, and we were not that interested in others...

why horoscope... there is the reason... for that... when we go for a relative or a love marriage.. we know how the partner is ... we know them to an extent.. but when we go for stranger as a partner... the parents need some kind of faith or hold to move..forward.. it gives them satisfaction that they tried their best to find a good partner for their kid.. some assurance from the horoscope that the future is good.

so, my husband came to see me with his family, both the family met, i was hardly interested, but yet for the parents wish ok.. and they went back home,...i was ok... the next morning my MIL, called and said we like the girl(she still feels bad for that😆)... looks can be misguiding isnt...😉 she thought i am very soft spoken.. bcoz my family members are very soft esp my dad,...

i was like what... so what next.. my family started doing their research on my hubby.. only thing they didnt do was hire a detective.. leaving that they did all.. my bro visited their house and heard the neighbour about the family, my 1 bro and my husband seem to be in the same line of profession, so he called up all his contacts to know about is hubby.. so it was positive from all the sides.my husband told me that even after marriage he had friends telling him about how he was enquired.

even my family was happy with them and my mom was happy that they r only 2 brothers and no sisters...😆...my hubby is the eldest son...so all good..except me... i said i dont want to get married... please .. i am so happy in my life.. i can manage on my own.. i am not interested in marriage...

my dad is already retired from work, and he wanted to see me settled in life.. but i was quite stubborn for 2 days.. they were also kind of open, if u love someone do let us know.. we r ok...u know.. bcoz of my stubbornness...i said i dont love anyone.. for that matter.. so tug of was went on for 3 days between my parents +i bro and me.. but no conclusion.. so they called my 2 bro home.. we both share very special bond.. i open to him easily.. and we both a chat for 3 hrs.. and he kind of brain washed me in saying yes...i was so naive.. didnt get the fact i have to clear the route for him to marry😆... poor me.. i was ok.. i have to marry some day... so why not now... for the family.. bcoz i am the only girl child to do a post graduation ... in the family and getting married at 24.. all my cousins were packed and parceled around 21- 23. the weekend my family visited his home and no dowry asked.. financially.. they were just like us.. so finalised.. and the date for marriage was fixed 3 months later.

follwing his sunday his family visited us and had lunch with us.. and we both talked , and he bought me a love birds statue as a gift.. and i bought him a blue tie and cufflings.. my first and final gift for him so far...

so we exchanged no and we talked, he is simple man, but was very much interested to know more about me, i was ok.. he visited me in my work place once... we talked.. and trust me guys like before marriage... he will say yes for everything we say...but it is a different story...

so after 3 months i got married...

post marriage i will share later

Love Z!