Of first love... - Page 12

Originally posted by: starsinmyeyes

See..love between a parent and a child is different...honestly no one knows what love really is and how far one can go... I'd say the feeling is the same. How you react with different people varies.

You cited giving into family pressure...when do u give into pressure? You do so when u are convinced u are wrong and they have made the right choice for you...trust me we all want our parents to be happy but at the end of the day it's an individual's life...I agree that both parents and children need to communicate for this...if you do not ask, how will u ever know what they would have said...Why are there arranged marriages? Why do you still take your parents opinion? Its not because you don't trust your judgement. Its because you know they generally do no wrong for you. I'm not saying that they are never wrong, mind you.

Yes, you should speak to them but she was probably a teenager and at that time you think you know everything. I'm not justifying.

Second..u cited if they love someone else...of course u let them go...by doing that..u are showing character..and that's what I am talking about...now take Najma and Imraan for instance...she left him without giving their relationship a chance...was that fair? Did she suddenly realize Asad will be against it...no na...and then Imraan...had he respected her feelings...would he have called her yesterday...no..he would have left it as it is...We don't know how long they were together. How can you say she has never given it a chance? If she'd told him no soon then it is not giving the relationship a chance, if she'd gone ahead then it would be leading him on. Which one to choose? Society judges everything so its really difficult to say which is right.

He was recalling his relationships, all have failed. Lets not discuss who's to be blamed here. He felt like talking to her. He could've done it on phone. Meeting her was insensitive. But in his perspective, he's just sharing his angst.

We cannot say how far a couple will go in their life..but all I know is that when Love is not absolute, life eventually runs out of fuel...there is no grey area in love...it's there or it isn't...strength of character is always needed to love..because to love means to put your loved one before yourself...to be that selfless, u need character...I agree.

..when i say I love someone, I have to put a lot of thought into it...with great happiness, i need to be ready for a greater responsibility...I Love you...these three words are really thrown around with a lot of disdain...and it is sad..honestly...I mentioned it in a previous comment, but I am mentioning it again...with most of this world falling prey to mediocrity, Love turned out to be the biggest casualty of them all..

I get everything that you are trying to say but when you think of it from both sides, the lines of what is right and what is wrong gets blurred.

Put Imraan-Najma and Asad-Zoya on the same level...u will get what I am trying to say😊

Originally posted by: starsinmyeyes

Tumhari saari icchayein poori hogi baalike...ek baar Najma aur Imraan ki love isshtory bahar aane do...tumhara purana Asad bhi laut aayega😆

Originally posted by: starsinmyeyes

Nikhat gave it all to this relationship despite the insults...because her love was so strong...😊...did Imraan ever return the favor...promises bolne se poore nahi hoti dear...unko nibhaana padta hai...jis aadmi ka muh apni maa ke saamne nahi khulta, do u think he would have separated from his family...?? Nikhat trusted him and Imraan ne us trust ka undue advantage liya hai har baar...inspite of Haseena, the relationship would have been a successful one if Imraan was upto it...everyone noticed that Imraan never spoke up for Nikhat...they voiced their opinions too, but she defended him every single time? Kya hua? Ultimately she was pushed to her limit and she only broke the relation...if the two people are there for each other they can face any adversity, but Imraan was never there for Nikhat..ever...Some people are like that. They love to escape conflict and hence try to pacify. Yes he didn't support her, yes he didn't respect her. He was abominable. How can we say he's not to change after marriage? Nikhat is marginally strong. He might learn. One can always be given a benefit of doubt. There's always scope for change.

The understanding and love was missing from Imraan's side and so this relationship broke...do you not think Nikhat is better off without Imraan?? Do you think minus Najma, Nikhat would have been happy with a man who never stood up for her...do you think he would have made good on his promise to separate and live elsewhere? I don't want Imran with Tanveer too. She's vile but he cannot handle any family if he continues like this. But we cannot deny that he can redeem himself.

If she tells Zoya without taking names..I hope Zoya doesn't say, "If u love him, standby him"...phir toh sab gaye kaam se😆

I expect it will happen varna Asad or Zoya jhagad nahi paayenge😆

Originally posted by: rogerrocks

I hope so man..I'l flip if he does a Gopi vau and starts crying😆 And yeah, i hope Zoya doesn't try to stop him..I want him to rip everyone apart, break all the furniture and slap Haseena, Imran & Tannu😆😆

Originally posted by: GredandForge

Originally posted by: GredandForge

Ranjini, I understand your pain man😆
The number of times I've declared I'll go slap the character or the PH. 😆

Originally posted by: GredandForge

Originally posted by: rogerrocks

Lol am actually fed up of this corny Asad man😆 I cant wait to see him break all the things in the party..Enough of this roadside romeo avtar😆

Originally posted by: starsinmyeyes

That's the whole crux of it...we cannot say who was right and who was wrong...they all made mistakes in their own right...individuals make mistakes, parents make mistakes...yes our parents want what is best for us...but we need to always confide in them...they will protect you come what may...and the support they can provide is irreplaceable...if they are not on the same page as you they will try to understand...but for that you need to tell them...

When I said about giving a chance, I meant about telling Asad...she knew her brother is like that..if she wasn't sure if she will be able to tell her brother the truth, she should have been the stronger person...I know such feelings don't rationalize, but so many lives got ruined...

He was sharing his angst.,,agreed...would you do the same when put in such a situation...??..it's just unethical...baaki it's very human to behave like this...if you would have been in her place, would you not have felt hurt...yahan koi sahi galat nahi hai...it's just everyone is looking out for themselves...of their well being...and aisa sab karte hain...

Love has the power to physically manifest the most impossible tasks in the world and it's a fact...but it snatches away the one thing that humans love above all else...a control over their life...a hold..that's why everyone is scared when they first fall in love...Love is the exact opposite of control...and once you let go, there is no limit to what can be achieved...I personally believe that...and it is worth fighting for...over and over again...but that leap of faith has to be taken...nahi toh aaj ya kal...the actions fizzle out, only words remain

Originally posted by: starsinmyeyes

I want him to slap Tanveer...someone has to slap her now...bas...😆