Asad's bleeding heart...

Asad and his love…

I have been wanting to do an analysis of Asad's feelings for the longest time now. WE all know that Asad loves Zoya. And, we all think he is in denial. But, I don't think so he is. He knows for sure, that he loves Zoya, he knew it after Mangalpur, and he knew it after the Rain dance, Bol Na Halke Halke.

He has known it all along.

His self talk, where he talks about the ankaha khinchaav he feels, is evident that he is aware of his feelings for Zoya.

Him remembering the Bhaang episode, but showing that he doesn't is evidence of the fact that he knows what he said.

His own blurting out of how he likes Zoya, and the attraction he feels towards her under the influence of Bhaang are an evidence of how he feels.

Yet, he is not admitting it.

Why?

If we go back, lets study his character a bit. He loves three people dearly (and four, I must add in this world). One his mother, his sister, Ayaan and the next his father. With his father, he has now developed a bitter relationship because he deserted him, early on in his life. With all the other three, he is the pillar of support, their strength, their backbone. He has not *relied* on anyone, hence thereafter.

He has never denied having a marriage, as he has told his mother manytimes, that she can if she so wishes, search for a bride for him. He has however, stated that he will never fall in love.

Why so? Because, he is Rashid's son, and fears that he may hurt the one he loves just like his father did. He himself said, aakhir hoon to main Janaab Rashid ka hi beta na…

Also, because he feels that his Ammi is the epitome of grace and tradition, and that perfection if any, directly needs to be like her. He has an impression of what an ideal will be.

Does he really care what she wears though? No, infact he is a pro-independence and all about womens liberation. He just believes a line of tehzeeb must not be crossed. Why? Because his father crossed it. He just wants that everyone be respectful of their own commitment and boundaries unlike his father. And, then he thinks that a woman who can not control her boundaries in such superficial items like clothing, behavior…wont care for his Ammi, or sister. Deep down, he wants a partner who is traditional so that she adjusts with his Ammi and sister, more than himself. He knows he is a hurtful "pathar". But that is why he is running away from Zoya, because somewhere he fears that he can not give her the love she would crave, or he thinks so. Little does he know that it isnot clothing,but emotions that bind two people, and how beautifully Zoya has always cared about his family, and also actually undersood his pain. He wants someone who is traditional, shy, not because he thinks that such a woman will be perfect for him, but because such a woman wont cut through his heart, and try to nurse his wounds likeZoya does. He knows, that such a woman, like everyone else, will leave him alone, broody, angry, walled. But Zoya is different. He fears emotion.

Which is why, even though he loves Zoya, he will not admit it. He does not want to.He loves her so much, that he wants to protect her from himself!

If someone is still unaware of her feelings, its Zoya. She is just intrigued and attracted to Asad , she has not realized that this is a feeling, called love... Asad, on the hand knows and oscillates between his practicality and emotions, though everytimehe thinks he got it, and can let Zoya go, his heart plays truant, :). And, we love that.

But little does he know, how much Zoya loves him (little does she know herself). Reminds me of a perfect song for them.. Rehna tu! Hai Jaisa tu! Thoda sa resham, tu hamdam, thoda sa khurdara... :)

Beautifully said, dear! & the analysis is perfect! He continues to repress his feelings because he is scared of the unknown. He needs to open up and experience love, without any fears, to understand how wrong he is to hold back on such a beautiful emotion. For that to happen thought, he needs to confront the past that haunts him. He needs to realize that yes, his father committed a grave sin, and yes, that sin took away a father's love from two children. What he also needs to realize is the circumstances in which Rashid did what he did, and he just needs to let go. Only then will Asad love Zoya without any fears, without any bounds.

amazing post 👏

Zoya is still oblivious to her own feelings, although she cannot stand separation from Mr. Khan
Asad on the other hand has realized his feelings for Zoya, but is still in denial, becoz his mind tells him so...when his heart starts speaking he becomes all crazy and frantic for Zoya like we've seen in Mangalpur, like today
Asad is afraid that he might hurt the person he loves, becoz he's Rashied's son...Asad is afraid of rejection
But what I fail to understand sometimes is that why Asad thinks he can / will hurt the one he loves ,only becoz he's Rashied's son ???
Why doesn't he think for a moment that he's not only Rashied's son, but also the son of such a lovable and pure hearted person as Dilshaad...she is someone who despite all her pains, has so much love to give to her family and others...why does he fail to see that in the one person who means the world to him
Instead of thinking abt the negativity of Rashied's betrayal, he should try to be a far better person than Rashied

And maybe just maybe that is what Zoya's gonna teach him
Both have a painful past, but Zoya tries to make the best of life, whereas Asad keeps living in the past and pain

Many of us have asked, why is it that it always has to Dilshaad who has to give him a reality check abuot what he should do.

I have a take on that.

It is not that Asad is not aware of his feelings. It is not that he is in denial either. Many things he has done, specially after the Mangalpur incident are bleeding examples of how much he loves her. From the way he softly carassed her teary cheeks, to the way, he lent her his arm, to the way he was surprised that when she said "doosri baat" she did not mean what happeend between them, but Mariam's wedding… to the way how he keeps telling himself, main isse door hi rahoo to achha hai, she means nothing to me, and that though I feel an unkaha khinchaav to her, it better be unkaha, because we are not right for each other, are just all shouting that he loves her, but doesn't want to. Just like you say, I love you, even though I shouldn't.

Why does he not want to love her? Because in his mind, he has a set belief that they are not right for each other, and more so that with his broody self, and being Rashid's son, all hehas to offer her is hurt. He has always been in his cave, hid his heart behind walls, and he knows zoya wants to break it brick by brick, he just does not want to…

But then what happens, when something like what dilshaad did today happens? Well, this is garb. A faade. So tomorrow, he can fool the world (and Zoya, more importantly) that he did it because ***. He got her the employmennt letter because he wanted her to stay, but he said that he is merely reducing a reason for her to go, and left the decision up to her. He blurted the engagement decision in front of Dhurandhar out of his own desperation, but minutes after he back traks that he did it for her, because she wanted to stay here. He ran to the airport, because Dilshaad said, so. Little does he know that slowly everyone is only becoming more and moreaware of his intense feelings for Zoya, how his soul, heart are drenched in her love.

This really ties in with Asad's character. He loved Jam, but can give up the habit, because, baat pasand ki nahi usulloon ki hai. He believes that if he likes something but knows it is not good forh im, he can easily give it up. Little does he know that jam aur Zoya mein farq hai. Aadat aur Ishq mein bhi. After all, ishq pe zor nahi! J

He always wants a reason to help Zoya, because, then he can hide behind the walls he has built around himself, and push her out once more. If he admits, or stops her by his own accord, then, what will he do? No, he always needs a trigger, which is not a trigger but his crutches. .. to continue the faade he hides his pain and heart full of love behind.

How can , Asad, the lion hearted, who has always maintained what is right, now just give in to the whif of fragrant air, the breath of life, the waft offreshness that Zoya, a total opposite has brought in his life. How can the patthar dil, who has always been the support of his Ami, his sister, just melt like that? He can not! Well, atleast that is WHAT HE THINKS!

Just liked a guessed, one post above, that Asad will back out of this engagement by calling it a drama. He can conveniently *blame* this on Zoya not wanting to go, and Dilshaad asking him to stop Zoya, and he only rectifying his mistake of kicking her out earlier!

Asad backed out one more time! Did you notice, that when he first came in, he says Zoya kahin nahi jaegi, but then once he came back to reality (thanks to Najma and Dilshaad being excited about the wedding/engagement) he goes back to Mr. Farouki! This ladka, uff, I tell you!