Childhood experiences - Page 2

Originally posted by: princessonline

You have made an incredible post and I agree with you on everything!

What we go through as children shapes exactly who we become when we are older. We are who we are because of the things we grow through and the experiences we gain. I completely understand why Asad is the way he is and why Ayaan is the way he is.

Asad, has had a really tough childhood. He has had to take responsibility at a very young age. He was never able to live his childhood. He had to become a parent for Najma and the breadwinner for his family. At a very young age, when most children of his age are unaware of the harsh realities of the world he was facing them and trying to overcome them.

Some people chose to hide their problems within themselves and play pranks to show others they are happy, which is Zoya in this case and some people chose to reserve themselves because they do not want to deal with the pain associated with getting close to people and then losing them, which is Asad. That is one of the biggest reasons why Asad does not trust anyone that doesn't fit his definition of "perfect" because deep down he feels that anyone who is not "perfect" will probably end up hurting him and after everything he has gone through and seen at such a tender age I am not surprised.

This post is really amazing. I was never really able to connect the dots and always felt that Asad needed to change but your post has really made me think and about me and my siblings and how hard it was for us to adjust to and believe certain things because our parents had always sheltered us and had never told us more than we needed to know of anything, it truly made me understand that Asad is what he is because of the things he has gone through. I couldn't change myself to think like him because I never dealt with something so tragic and always had my family, grandparents, all my extended family around me supporting me and Asad probably could never think and feel like someone who has been sheltered and brought in an environment full of support and love from his family, so I really thank you for that!

Riya

Originally posted by: Laila2009

Good analysis - I had noted something similar that I hope the writers will use to bond these two characters together...the realization that both did not have a father in their lives - would really give them some insight and help in their healing process...in a future episode when Asad and Zoya have their own first child, that would open a new beginning for them to undo what their parents might have done.

Additionally, my feelings were Zoya's decision to marry were a solution in trying to find a "home" for herself...hopefully Asad will have Zoya realize that her quest is over when he proposes to her and gives her a home with a husband (himself), a mother (phoophi) and sister (Najma). I do look foward to these episodes - here is hoping the writers think of them.

Originally posted by: pinkss

Hi Sangeeta...

Awesome post :) Yesterdays's epi DID clear the air...Childhood trauma, hmmm...i remember you wrote an awesome FF related to this issue :)

Anyways, I feel bad for both the brothers, now i'm just waiting to see what's in store for Zoya :/ I have a feeling her story is much more worse (as in sad) than Asad's :(

Originally posted by: ZAHARA.

What a beautiful post! I never saw it this way but now everything seems to be in place!