Originally posted by: ~*simran*~
Ok, so my answers will be biased towards what I have I faced in Punjab when I studied there ji. Living in hostel tells you a lot.
1. NOOOO, girls and guys are treated very differently ji. For example, at the hostel, girls in time wa 5pm(meaning you couldn't leave the hostel grounds after 5pm), and guys had none. The guys could go and come back whenever they wanted, go into the city with no permission ji. the girls had to get signed permission from the parents, then the warden, then the dean if they wanted to even step out of the campus area. Even the classrooms were so different. The guys could talk to the teacher very straightforwardly, and ask whatever. If the girl asked, she would be told that it is not polite to interrupt the class, haye. Oh then the clothing. Guys could wear basically nothing, and if a girl had sleeveless on, or a skirt that reached the ankles, it was like omg, she has no sharam.
Then out of campus it was if you talked to another guy, even if you consider him a bhai, ungli uthti thi on the girl not the guy. It was like come on, if she is talking to him, then HE is also there na, but no, only the girl. It was alwayz the girl in the house who was told ke yeh karo, woh karo, you need to back when, when you need to do what, uff.
2. Simplest b/c I can give is the waaris thing I guess. Then also, the girls have abused their freedom and the other parents just made this pahvandiya on the rest of the girls. It's really hard in Punjab to be a girl and be able to voice your thoughts ji, and that's b/c a handful girls have done wrong.
3. Well this difference I saw happened in an educated enviornment. The dean was a woman, and she made sure to keep all these rules on the girls. Education in my opinion carries no value on the traditions that have been kept on. Education can give you knowledge, but the power to change your enviornment. Even with no education a person can change their soch ji. It's just that things have been put this way, and they just can't seem to get out of it. In education, well in the college I went to, the teachers emphazised a lot on how everyone should behave according to the society rules, and how one shouldn't break them. One of them actually said that girls in our society are meant to be kept in the home, where they look nice and respectful ji. Out of the house the girl looks dirty, haye, I got into so much trouble after this lol. Society as a whole needs to change, not just being educated, a society is based on rules that were written by those less educated, and those who are well educated follow them ji. Haye, sooo complicated.
5. I think it is not fair. 5000 years ago when civilzation was introduced first to the world came from India, where women were treated equally, and in some cases as superior. The girl had the right to choose her husband, and rights that were equal to man. As civilization evolved, the rights for women increased. See if it's fair ji.....
Sorry for the rant, haye
