Hey peeps!
So i just caught up on the last four episodes. Do forgive me if some of the things i say have already been said, but, I saw them all as a chunk. I won't cover *everything* that will be too tedious to me and anyone who cares to read😆
7th May: Changing Schools
Completely floored by Yash's imperious decision to change Ansh's school. Granted his arguments about giving children the best possible education in a highly competitve world were all well-taken...but his high-handed manner was totally uncalled for. 😕 I'm glad he followed her into the room to explain, but, the bottom-line is he did something totally unnecessary. While I am not sure he would put it as crudely as his father -- that men make the decisions -- he does certainly believe and act that way. Arpita probably subscribed to that school of thought...and he's never been challenged, but, it's about time someone did...
I thought Aarti was actually very polite in her "questioning" this decision, whether in front of the family, or in the privacy of their room. More so than necessary. In fact, every time Aarti has opened her mouth, even to put her foot in it (the famous parvarish show-down), she's been extraordinarily polite about it. Always eyes lowered...The eyes lowered thing is one of my pet peevs...I HATE it when people don't look me in the eye...esp. hate it when women are expected to lower their eyes in front of men/elders...loath it, detest it, abhor it...you get the point 😆
Even in her "maaf kijiye Yah ji main is baat ko nahin manti" she kept her eyes lowered...that was a damp squib to me...They still argue like strangers...and that's not surprising, they ARE strangers. So far their "fights" have left me cold...you can't really fight unless you really care...I want to see an eyes flashing, if looks could kill, no holes barred knock down drag out kind of fight...( ladies and gents who've been there know exactly what i'm talkin' about 😉😆)
but that can happen only once they lose some of their inhibitions with each other...they do have it in them...i guess I have to wait...
Bua's "ladke ki jagah" line: And that's the crux of the problem here. These people firmly believe in " A place for everyone and everyone in their place"...esp. when it comes to gender. Needless to say, I find this mind-bogglingly regressive. Yet, I was forced to conclude that I have had inflated expectations of Aarti's progressiveness ...I think there is something to say for Bua crass statement of Aarti having to take on the man's place after P's departure...She has been forced into being the independent decision maker, the single parent... All this leads me to wonder...if circumstances had not forced her, she might actually have been the pliant daughter-in-law the Scindias seem to admire? I am not saying that this somehow makes her "inauthentic"...Not at all. We are, after all, shaped by our experiences...All I am saying is that she has it in her to be all the things the Scindas want (unlike Pari)...but she can't be that way...her past has ensured that...Hope that made sense...
On the subject of Bua...Crikey this woman spews venom!
What I found fascinating was the moment when Paridi hugged Pratik for making her fav. food. Did y'all notice Bua's hysterical laughter? As soon as P&P got close...she went nuts!!!! She really is frustrated...😕
May 8th: Yash continues to disappoint
Okay so he can do push-ups with his daughter on his back...but that "once I decide I never change my mind" was plain dumb...All I can say is those are famous last words...esp. with reg. his "decision" that Arpita is the only woman he'll ever love...I wanna watch Yash eat those words...not just with that but with a lot of other things...He might think he;s all macho and manly to be so intransigent...but it takes a wise man to admit his mistakes and make changes in the way he does things...here's wishing Yash some wisdom and maturity...
Further disappointing was his "tit for tat" advice to Ansh
The girls were scared by that and I think that prompted the preventive measures they took ton the foll. day...made sure they attacked before being attacked...
Today
I am really flabbergasted at this system of parenting that Yash seems to favor. I agree that sometimes children need to be forced, but he doesn't know Ansh...Aarti does. He seems to have made up his mind that Aarti spoils Ansh. Just like Gayatri. Thats bogus. After all they've been in Scindia house for less than a week...Everyone is being overly judgmental...Aarti too for her part...but I am focussed on Yash here because he's been acting like an ass for the last few episodes and I am totally unimpressed by his lectures...and frustrated by his unbending and imperious attitude and his peremptory actions
All this comes from making an ill-considered and hasty decision to marry and not having talked things through with each other. Here both Yash and Aarti are at fault. And who is suffering? The children. Esp. Ansh. The girls are on home ground and are in the position to create mischief.
You can't throw these children together and expect them to get along and love each other.. esp. since PayPal have already expressed fears and are being constantly frightened and encouraged by Bua and Gaya...They need to be talked to...treated like people who have minds and personalities...not like plastic dolls...Children need to be treated like human beings too...the Scindias seem to have missed this memo...
My post has largely been a litany of complaints against Yash...lso what do I lose? Let me add one more..😆 His "promise" to his mother that he will take responsibility for Ansh and that Ansh will never again be naughty...hellooo??!!!😕 What sort of promise is that????? A totally unacceptable one in my view. Ansh has a personality...he is an open, lively and mischievous child...surely Yash doesn't want to destroy that????? WHYYY can't these people accept Ansh and Aarti as they are? Make *mutual* adjustments?????? They want to erase Aarti and Ash's personalities and re-make them to suit their convenience...well. it ain't happening, so there...they'll *all* have to change...whether they like it or not! whether they realize it or not!
In the end, I hope Ansh is safe...fingers crossed
*edited*
ooh ooh one more thing in my list of why i want to smack Yash Scindia
During his sanctimonious bhashan to Aarti today...(yep I am MAD as hell)...he gets on his high horse and claims never to have interfered or questioned anything Aarti has done with the girls...
First I was like...okay yeah maybe that's true...then i was like, WAIT A DOGGONE MINUTE!!!!
What about the time when all the kids were horsing around on your bed? Who ordered them out? Who said a BIG FAT NO to Aarti's extra five mins of play time? to a play date at the park???? Those things, in hindsight, might have brought the kids closer together...
Yes Yash didn't interfere when Aarti combed the girls' hair...but we've seen your track record there...yes he doesn't demand that Aarti change the color of handkerchief PayPal carry ( btw does anyone use handkerchiefs anymore?😆)...that would be pretty strange...All Aarti has done so far is feed them, dress them, cajole them into listening to a story...and you want our admiration and thanks for not interfering in those things???!!!😕 😕 😕 What the *&^%???????
I really need Z here to express what I am feeling...😆 Z? Where are ya babe?
Edited by narangi_77 - 13 years ago