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Great analysis on the lie issue Jyo. Most of the time things are not based on absolute good vs. absolute bad. All actions have reactions and ripples and it is important not just to consider the justification for the action itself but the results that action can have on the ones you love. And I think Aarti will do just that. And whatever she decides I am with her, because this was no easy decision.

@jyoti: completely agree with you...aarya drama is nothing compred to real life drama...i can remember an incident in my aunt's wedding...my granny was unusually angry with my aunt...she was shouting & cursing...& my aunt was crying bitterly...every person in the house was tense, but nobody had the courage to do something...next day was the wedding day & the house became like a haunted one...but in the morning, everything was perfectly fine, like nothing happened!!!...my aunt is happily married now...

Jyo .. amazing first post .. I've seen even worse situations and even worse lies being told before marriage in my family.. but the difference here is Aarti is hiding the TRUTH whereas my naani's sister's husband out and out LIED to the family ... about his religious status. That is something even more severe and people take things like that extremely seriously..

Jyo, I am glad you brought up the question of why do we always want Jhansi Ki Rani style heroines, when real life is not like that. I agree that none of us want to see weeping heroines 24/7, but I do not think seeing super strong women who are super strong all the time is that entertaining either. Where is the character growth in that situation? If a woman starts out at the top, being super strong, super truthful, super everything, her character as no where to go but down. However, if the woman is human, has some strengths and some weaknesses, than we can see growth happening in her character.

Granted, there are many daily soap PH's who never actually let their heroines grow and become stronger, or take forever to do so, or wait until the show is canceled, but I think that this PH will give us something different. Right now I am putting my trust in the Mittals that they know their story telling craft, and will give us logical and meaningful character development in both Aarti and Yash's characters. I'm not sure about the other characters, since story conflict has to come from somewhere, but as long as AarYa are both progressing as time goes on, regardless of any mistakes they make, or weaknesses they show, then I will be happy.

1st half take:

Other observations before the main things. Aarti and Yash, please get Bua remarried. They only showed her face a few times, but she looked so upset and pathetic. Unless she has done something worthy of prison time, she does not deserve the treatment she is getting.

Ansh is cute, but Aarti needs to work with him on this tongue sticking out thing. It's really quite rude. I don't care if that is his way of holding his own against the girls, when children make wrong choices in their behavior, it is the parents' responsibility to teach them right, not look at them in shock. Actually I am looking forward to lots of parent/children interaction from both AarYa and the kids in future.

Um...Editors, where did the varmala scene go? One second the couples don't have it, the next second they do. If I had to pick one thing that I really think could use improvement, it id the editing. Sometimes it's great and sometimes it's super confusing. Bottom line, editing needs work.

Okay, now down to business. What I has been going through my mind as I watched the first half up to the pheres is that right or wrong, it is really Dubey's actions that have finally forced Aarti to let go of Prashant. If he hadn't suggested that Aarti's divorce be kept a secret, that marriage with Yash would never have happened and it is unlikely they would have found anyone else. It's not that there might not have been good guys in existed who would be willing to marry a divorce, but would the Dubeys have ever been in a position to find them? I think not, and that would have meant that Aarti would never gotten married again.

When the call came from Prashant, Shobha was against Aarti going to meet him, while Dubey was for it. Yes, he admitted that he had some selfish reasons for letting her go, but if Aarti had never gone, she would never have faced the reality that Prashant does not want her back and that she has no future with him. Though Shobha's intentions to stop Aarti were selfless and Dubey's to let her go were selfish, it was ultimately Dubey's selfish intentions that did Aarti the most good.

Even though Aarti is forced by her parents and the circumstances to go through with the lie that Prashant is dead (for the moment), I see this as something that again can help her to let go of her past. Though Prashant is not really dead, for Aarti to move on, he needs to become dead to her. As she is doing the pooja, Dubey is the one who goes to help steady her hands. This shows to me that he is the one whose actions (again right or wrong) are responsible for Aarti accepting that her past is the past and that Prashant is no more a part of her life. He is no more her husband and she is no longer his wife.

While I in no way support Dubey's idea of supporting such a big lie, and I also do not support his method of pressurizing Aarti to agree to keep quiet, I do not agree that his actions mean that he sees Aarti only as a DIL and not a daughter. Let's face it, most parents aren't perfect. A lot of real life parents will try to pressurize their children into doing various things, and even use emotional blackmail of how they've raised them and sacrificed for them to get the children to agree. Just because Dubey also fell into this kind of disgusting behavior, that does not mean that suddenly he has changed from an Aarti supporter to a Prashant supporter.

From what I can tell from his dialogues and actions, Dubey seems to think that this divorce secret can be kept hidden permanently, as long as Aarti goes along with their decision of hiding the truth. How would this be possible if Prashant came back to live with them? They are still Ansh's grandparents, so despite how strict the Scindias are, I don't think the Dubeys assume that they will never see Aarti or Ansh again. If Prashant is in his parents lives in any capacity, the Dubeys run the risk of exposure to the Scindias. I feel that in Dubey's mind, by going through with this lie based wedding, he is silently stating that he will accept his son being dead forever.

I think that Dubey was only willing to accept Prashant back as long as he came back to Aarti and Ansh, not just to their house. What remains to be seen is after time passes and Aarti becomes more integrated into her new sasural, will Dubey's feelings remain the same? I hope that they will, but we will have to see. Perhaps I am not even correct, and he really is secretly scheming to get Prashant back and steal Ansh, but somehow I have not seen anything that will let me accept that scenario yet.


2nd half take:

For the second half I'm going to focus only on observations related to AarYa's marriage. I tried to look for symbolisms that would indicate the course of their marriage in the future.

One thing I noticed only after Aarti and Yash were side by side, is that each of their headdresses are the same color as the outfit of the other. Yash has a red turban with gold sherwani, while Aarti has a gold ghoonghat with red leghna. I don't know if I can say it exactly right, but I thought this showed that Aarti and Yash's relationship will start with a meeting of the minds. This is another way of saying that they will get to know each other's character first, recognize the similarities in their outlook and priorities and that is where the real attraction will start.

Aarti and Yash's reactions to the vachans that they took is quite interesting. Yash seems to be resolute in his acceptance of the promises. In his mind he thinks he can never feel the way for Aarti that he did for Arpita, but he accepts that he now has Aarti's responsibility. He accepts the marriage. I thought that it was interesting that he had flashbacks of the phere he took with Arpita only until he made the promise not to think of any other parayi woman. I actually think that Yash likely would have continued to have flashbacks throughout the rest of the phere, but I think the CVs wanted to show us that his head realizes that Arpita is parayi now, even if his heart doesn't agree.

Aarti herself has no flashbacks that are shown to us. She is firmly in the present, and the present is such that each time she makes a promise, she feels more weighted down by the lie that has been told. I felt I could almost see Aarti realizing that as long as Yash was unaware of the truth, there was no way she could keep her vows, that she was in fact accepting vows that were meaningless. I am not sure that Aarti will ever feel that the vows are true and that she is keeping them until she has told Yash the whole truth. I am hopeful that she can find a way to do so soon, and I'm even counting on her truthtelling self to feel too guilty to keep quiet for long.

Sindoor on the nose. I'm surprised no one in the thread mentioned the connection between sindoor falling on the nose and a husband's love. (If someone mentioned it and I missed it, I apologize.) While I'm sure it is not necessarily show in every serial, I can't think of one that I was truly interested in watching where a sindoor on the nose scene didn't happen at least once. What I found interesting about the CVs take on this common soap device, is that no one, not even the audience noticed the stray sindoor until Ansh pointed it out. I think that this is foreshadowing that Ansh will somehow be involved in Yash realizing his love for Aarti. The feelings of love that he has for her will be something that comes in it's own time and way, but I feel that Yash will be unable to realize on his own that what he feels for Aarti is love. This could be because he thinks that he can never love any woman except Arpita, or it may be that his love for Aarti is just different, so he does not recognize what it is. Regardless of why he does not recognize his love, I feel that Ansh will play a crucial role in his new father's realization. Perhaps it will be connected to Prashant trying to take Ansh away from Aarti, or it may be something else.

Is it just me, or did that mangalsutra look just like the one that Yash put on Arpita? Since Arpita died married, her mangalsutra should have gone with her, so I really hope that is not hers. But even if it is just a look-a-like, if that was done on purpose by the family, then that is creepy. Anyway, it looked to me that both Yash and Aarti were reacting to that mangalsutra as if it was a terribly heavy chain, locking them into a marriage prison. It will be interesting if the CVs ever focus on their altered perception of the mangalsutra as time goes by, particularly Aarti. I would like to she at some point how she realizes that instead of being a prison chain, her mangalsutra has actually become a welcome representation of her marriage to a wonderful man that she loves.

There were lots of other random observations I could make, but I just wanted to say this one. Regardless of what Aarti's future relationship with the Dubeys turns out to be, I think it would be nice if she could have a good relationship with Arpita's parents. They seem like nice people, and it's not their fault that they are trying to deal with their grief by seeing their daughter in their son-in-law's new wife. I honestly think that Arpita's mother may have started to see Aarti as her own person, and in time she may come to care for Aarti as an individual, instead of as an extension of Arpita. Also, as Yash is not their son and they were not the ones who were searching a bride for him, they will not have the same objections to Aarti's divorced status as the Scindias will. It will be good for Aarti to have someone else in her corner besides Yash I think.

Awesome opening post JYO! 👏

Yes, it does happen in real life! It's so lame and last minute too! I told my kids to run off and get married so no family drama...hahahahahaha just kidding! 😆

Now coming to episode according to update, Yash is pulled back...just like I predicted...I said it would be Manav...this is serial world jo dikhta woh nahin hota 😆

so touched at my motu golu Panku, he takes Ansh and carries him to see his mom getting married! Now this is why Im his fan, he has such a soft heart! 😆

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The wedding is the most detailed wedding I hv ever seen ...