Cvs!R U suggesting D.Violence is acceptable.

Originally posted by: bips

I love your post ...... i am so tired of everything being justified in the name of "lurve" ...... we should email this to all production houses ....... According to creatives when a man abuses you emotionally or physically, it shows the depth of his emotion .....

I totally agree with you. I think CVs are not taking any responsibility. They think that next week, Krishna and Pratigya will kiss and make up and every thing will be ok.

It is a myth that battering is only a momentary loss of temper.

Battering is the establishment of control and fear in a relationship through violence and other forms of abuse. The batterer uses acts of violence and a series of behaviors, including intimidation, threats, psychological abuse, isolation, etc. to coerce and to control the other person. The violence may not happen often, but it remains as a hidden (and constant) terrorizing factor.

They are justifying the worst kind of physical and emotional violence in an intimate love-partner relationship. The way all relationships start -- with two people falling in love. Abusiveness -- on the part of either partner or both -- may be there from the start. But, more often, it only emerges later, after the romance has worn off and the stresses of everyday life begin to mount.

A first episode can erupt over a trivial matter, and cool down as quickly as it heated up. For this reason, the person on the receiving end of the violence may rationalize it, thinking that he or she somehow provoked it or assume that their partner was just having a "bad day."

An abuser often helps such rationalizations along by being apologetic, charming, minimizing the incident, or swearing it will never happen again. The problem is that once a pattern of abuse begins, it can recur and escalate in intensity, and even follow a predictable cycle.

Originally posted by: deepchai

I totally agree with you. I think CVs are not taking any responsibility. They think that next week, Krishna and Pratigya will kiss and make up and every thing will be ok.

It is a myth that battering is only a momentary loss of temper.

Battering is the establishment of control and fear in a relationship through violence and other forms of abuse. The batterer uses acts of violence and a series of behaviors, including intimidation, threats, psychological abuse, isolation, etc. to coerce and to control the other person. The violence may not happen often, but it remains as a hidden (and constant) terrorizing factor.

They are justifying the worst kind of physical and emotional violence in an intimate love-partner relationship. The way all relationships start -- with two people falling in love. Abusiveness -- on the part of either partner or both -- may be there from the start. But, more often, it only emerges later, after the romance has worn off and the stresses of everyday life begin to mount.

A first episode can erupt over a trivial matter, and cool down as quickly as it heated up. For this reason, the person on the receiving end of the violence may rationalize it, thinking that he or she somehow provoked it or assume that their partner was just having a "bad day."

An abuser often helps such rationalizations along by being apologetic, charming, minimizing the incident, or swearing it will never happen again. The problem is that once a pattern of abuse begins, it can recur and escalate in intensity, and even follow a predictable cycle.

Originally posted by: bips

I love your post ...... i am so tired of everything being justified in the name of "lurve" ...... we should email this to all production houses ....... According to creatives when a man abuses you emotionally or physically, it shows the depth of his emotion .....

Originally posted by: anusarkar

Thanks for liking the post. I did not know this is what the creatives thought about domestic violence. I guess if they think emotional and physical violence shows the depth of emotion for a man ,then may be in the process if the woman dies out of torture they will think it is the depth of showing love which went wrong. Unbelievable.

Originally posted by: anusarkar

I am deeply disappointed that you are directly or indirectly suggesting that it is OK for educated and progressive woman to accept domestic violence. I believe that while showing domestic violenceon Kesar your point was since she is uneducated and subdued in nature she did not have the courage to stand up for herself. In real, people of that nature does have difficulty.

But what about Pratigya? She is an educated progressive woman ( except some cases,ex telling Kesar that being a mother is the ultimate satisfaction for a woman. That is not true) who always fights for justice. I do not believe that a woman with her qualities would stay in the house and suffer the cruel atrocities of her in- laws and mistreatment from her husband. You are the writers of the show and you have the power to change this.

Her decision in staying with her husband after hearing that he regrets marrying her shows that she chose to stay in the marraige because she loves him . That is fine. Women has the tendency to always believe that the spouse is going to change some time and someday. You are making her justify her husband's behavior by letting her believe that he said it in anger. But for how long ?

Emotional torture is also a form of domestic violence This kind of violence causes far more pain than the visible marks of bruises and scars. It is devastating to be abused by someone that you love and think loves you in return. You are making Krishna do that to Prats. By letting her stay, are you not suggesting that no matter how wrongly or badly you are mistreated it is OK and alright to stay in the relationship, holding to the one hope ,that he loves you and will change oneday.

I live in America and is married for 13 years with 2 children.I love my husband with all my heart. We had numerous fights and we still do, I guess that is normal in any relationship.There are times when we are tremendously mad with eachother, but we have never involved either of our parents. Resposible individuals do not do it. We have always solved it out by communicating. In all these 16 years (I met him in university and dated for 3 years) neither of us has ever emotionally abused eachother in anyway. But I can assure you that no matter how much I love him I would never tolerate him, if he ever lays a finger on me out of anger. I would not stay in the marraige even though we have 2 boys.It is not healthy for kids to see their parents fight.

My point is Domestic Violence never ends.It is just the beginning of a very painful life. I will not give up in letting my point been own. Media plays a very important role and you have the power to show positive sides of a women's story. Love is something which should be inspiring and uplift the person you love. Encourage him or her to do the right thing .If Krishna really loves Pratigya he should understand the truth and start re -invent himself and make himself worthy of her and show the world thatt love is indeed powerful. And if Prat really loves Krishna she should walk out of the marraige for a while and make him realize that she will not tolerate mistreatment from him or his parents and get independent . She should give Krishna the oppurtunity to realize the importance of marraige. he needs to get rid of his ego. Once the ego is gone ,everything will come to its place. There will be no place for anything but Love. Following the realization from both sides there marraige will be on good standing.

I would want to see a story where social issue are handled properly. Being silent towards domestic violence is not the answer to a marraige .Again it never goes away.