Is Bani going to be a good mother? - Page 4

I think she will be a great mother 😊 .

Yes pias spoilt but look at rano they both been brought up by her. At the end of the day parents just try to do the best and kids still dont come out great. Has we saw pia was influenced by her 'richer' friends and wanted to be as good as them so hence because of that thinking shes turned out that way.Bani cannot influence thinkingo only try to give her a good upbrining which she has already been doing.

Plus pias a adult and knows what shes doing theirs only so much she can do. Bani has great values so hence her kid has the best start not just that we have seen that sshe takes her role as a mother figure to rano and pia seriously so hence will be even better mother to krishna

Well, she has tried in her own ways that is explaining. Hitting in not the only way to punish people. My parents have never hit me, they explain. She told before running away that she was wrong. She tried to stop it. She scolded Pia and told her that she would never forgive her for what she did to pooch's kid. I have been repeating this many times. I guess, our definitions of punishments are different. She did punish in her own way for the mistakes she did to third parties. Hence, she has tried. Tried in her own ways to make her understand. And On the other hand, I see Jai only hitting and asking her to shut up but not explaining to Jigs about her mistakes. Explaining is equally important. Just hitting and shutting up for the time being does not work.

***I agree that u need not hit to teach or correct a person! But if a person doesnt understand or listen what yr elder is saying, there must be some punishment to be given or a lesson should be taught to correct them?? Dont u think so? If u are in love with yr daughter and she is trying to upset u and u just try to explain her and leave it, its ok, but yr daughter's misdeeds are hurting n number of people around and they are being suffered for those deeds? And u only break off yr ties with yr daughter when u are hurt? 😕 That's strange and that's not going to make me or u as being a good mom or a good sibling?
Its not to offend anyone!

Originally posted by: aashyagh

Well, she has tried in her own ways that is explaining. Hitting in not the only way to punish people. My parents have never hit me, they explain. She told before running away that she was wrong. She tried to stop it. She scolded Pia and told her that she would never forgive her for what she did to pooch's kid. I have been repeating this many times. I guess, our definitions of punishments are different. She did punish in her own way for the mistakes she did to third parties. Hence, she has tried. Tried in her own ways to make her understand. And On the other hand, I see Jai only hitting and asking her to shut up but not explaining to Jigs about her mistakes. Explaining is equally important. Just hitting and shutting up for the time being does not work.

***I agree that u need not hit to teach or correct a person! But if a person doesnt understand or listen what yr elder is saying, there must be some punishment to be given or a lesson should be taught to correct them?? Dont u think so? If u are in love with yr daughter and she is trying to upset u and u just try to explain her and leave it, its ok, but yr daughter's misdeeds are hurting n number of people around and they are being suffered for those deeds? And u only break off yr ties with yr daughter when u are hurt? 😕 That's strange and that's not going to make me or u as being a good mom or a good sibling?
Its not to offend anyone!

I know that and I agree but all I am saying is let's not form prejudice against Bani. Yes, she has not been a great mother nor a great sibling. But you should consider her circumstances also – her childhood, the level of experience she had, what her sisters mean to her and her personality. Not everyone are perfect and how they deal with people are different. Just because she did not correct Pia, it will not make Bani a bad mother. We are yet to see how she will be a mother, a real mother. We don't know how she will take care of a child right from birth. That's all I am saying. No offence to you too and no offence taken. No worries!😊

I know that and I agree but all I am saying is let's not form prejudice against Bani. Yes, she has not been a great mother nor a great sibling. But you should consider her circumstances also – her childhood, the level of experience she had, what her sisters mean to her and her personality. Not everyone are perfect and how they deal with people are different. Just because she did not correct Pia, it will not make Bani a bad mother. We are yet to see how she will be a mother, a real mother. We don't know how she will take care of a child right from birth. That's all I am saying. No offence to you too and no offence taken. No worries!

***Yes Meena, I agree that she can become a great mother, if she mends her priorities in life! And not cover up yr siblings mistakes! I understand that her level of experience is bad, in that case she shouldnt take all the decisions and also have to consult others! She makes decisions thinking about the kasams given to her bhoot parents and troubles others around is not correct! And when she has failed in all the relationships, then how can we defend that she can be a good mother! She isn't currently as she claims to be the mother of her sisters!

Originally posted by: aashyagh

I know that and I agree but all I am saying is let's not form prejudice against Bani. Yes, she has not been a great mother nor a great sibling. But you should consider her circumstances also – her childhood, the level of experience she had, what her sisters mean to her and her personality. Not everyone are perfect and how they deal with people are different. Just because she did not correct Pia, it will not make Bani a bad mother. We are yet to see how she will be a mother, a real mother. We don't know how she will take care of a child right from birth. That's all I am saying. No offence to you too and no offence taken. No worries!

***Yes Meena, I agree that she can become a great mother, if she mends her priorities in life! And not cover up yr siblings mistakes! I understand that her level of experience is bad, in that case she shouldnt take all the decisions and also have to consult others! She makes decisions thinking about the kasams given to her bhoot parents and troubles others around is not correct! And when she has failed in all the relationships, then how can we defend that she can be a good mother! She isn't currently as she claims to be the mother of her sisters!

Aashyagh,

By telling to look at Bani's POV, I mean look at her completely. She was always used to making decisions. She took decisions for her sisters. She took responsibility at an young age. There was no one for Bani to make decisions for her and she was the one who made decisions all her life - right or wrong. But she made it. It's the way she grew up. I don't know if am conveying what I mean.

I think you guys are expecting Bani to be an ideal person while the thing you guys are forgetting is how people are brought up makes a difference in how they make decisions.

Besides, Do you think JW would be a good father?