Sanchi & Anger Management

Patience is like a flower that gives the fragnance of love, faith and trust.

u r right debbie... but before she is put into such programe she needs to made relaise of her mistake... she have to understand what mistake she have done... i m nt sayng throw her out of house, or slap her or send her to jail dis is nt a solution... she have to been gven the same treatment wat she gves other...

I have to disagree that every household has a Sanchi. Being spoiled, disobedient or throwing tantrums is one thing, but Sanchi is manipulative and dishonest on top of that. Her parents did not do enough to keep her in check, which is the reason why she has grown up to be as out of control as she has. She has not been raised to be considerate of other people, and her rude and demanding nature has never been discouraged. In most households, parents would draw the line at talking back to elders, but no-one has ever stopped Sanchi from doing this with Anandi. So I would say that Sanchi is really an anomaly. I have certainly never met anyone like her. I've met people who are spoiled/vain/shallow, but she is all those things and also lacks a conscience/a decent moral compass. I can't think of a single redeeming feature in her character, apart from maybe her sheer tenacity to go after the things she wants.

Originally posted by: SiriuslySujal

Originally posted by: maahi11

Originally posted by: Debbiee

Thanks for your views mahi. Yes, you are right; she should be taught a lesson not to repeat this again. However not like this.

Somehow I feel psychiatry is underrated subject in India. You can see the figure that I updated in the main message to see the percentage of people having mental disorders..

In western countries people visit a psychiatrist even when they face problems like stress, insomnia, loss etc. In our country people mostly assume visiting psychiatrist is only for the mad people.

I think after studying Sanchi's case an expert could advise how to treat her.

As I said before every house has such people. Even we all human beings go through mental instability at least once in our life time. That's what I have heard from many gold-medallist psychiatrists in my family.

Originally posted by: maahi11

U r right Debiee but stil in Indai wen it cums to paychiatric treatment... as educated ppl we dont mind going n consulting... bt still if d family or inlaws cum to knw dat a gurl or a boy have gone thrugh treatment dey luk dwn upon her or him... hw ever modern we go but still indian roots r hell tight we knw we can change society... but its nt easy... untill society changes demselves...

True said didi , anger like Sanchi only spoils and creates destruction

Originally posted by: Debbiee

Sanchi & Anger Management

What Is Anger?

Anger is an emotional or behavioral reaction of displeasure to an unmet expectation, demand or belief. Anger has three components: thinking, feeling and acting.

(Reference - http://www.ext.colostate.edu/pubs/consumer/10236.html)

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Often I have wondered why some people easily get angry, send hate messages and throw tantrums. I mean we all do get angry at times. However why some are more prone to this. Even in this forum I find few members start verbal abuse even in a positive piece of discussion. Why can't they explain their point of view with patience and without abusing the other party?

Many people have sent their comments that Sanchi should be slapped, thrown out of Sekhar's house, sent to jail or mental asylum. However it's my question; how many Sanchis should be put behind the bars? The jails would be falling short as all houses in India would have at least one Sanchi in family.

People do you know what happens to especially women in mental asylums?

Most of them get raped and physically abused. Their condition get only worse. I am yet to hear someone who comes back from a mental asylum healthy enough to start life afresh. Here are few links.

1. http://www.deccanchronicle.com/130902/news-crime/article/mentally-challenged-woman-raped-pune-hospital-ward-boy-guard-arrested

2. http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-10-07/pune/42793765_1_yerawada-osmanabad-vilas-bhailume

3. http://www.indianexpress.com/news/mentally-challenged-woman-raped-by-ward-boy-guard-in-pune-hospital/1163406/

4. http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/mentally-challenged-woman-allegedly-raped-in-pune-hospital-lift-ward-boy-guard-arrested-413186

5. http://www.dnaindia.com/pune/report-shocker-mentally-challenged-woman-raped-in-pune-hospital-ward-boy-guard-arrested-1883166

People like Sanchi are unfortunate enough as they lack foresight and by their evil ways end up getting hated by everyone around. The problem is their lack of guidance, lack of goal in life, and their aggressiveness. The unmanageable passion with which they cause pain to others. Such people need assistance, anger management courses and a positive goal in life. That might change their life for ever.

After all nobody is a born criminal. There is solution to every problem and we should address to the root cause rather than thinking superficially.

Please note; each time we throw tantrums at others we turn ourselves into a SANCHI. Every time we behave with patience and think positively we transform ourselves into ANANDI. We all have this terrific combination within us.

In BV we have come across many characters those who redeemed themselves. Hopefully they would show the redeeming of or rather some trick how to manage/control such ill-tempered brats at home. There is scope of great learning here.

Anger Management links -

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/troubled-teens.htm

http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2010/01/08/8-tips-for-anger-management/

http://www.ext.colostate.edu/pubs/consumer/10236.html

US mental health studies

Previous widely cited large-scale surveys in the US were the Epidemiological Catchment Area (ECA) survey and subsequent National Comorbidity Survey (NCS). The NCS was replicated and updated between 2000 and 2003 and indicated that, of those groups of disorders assessed,nearly half of Americans (46.4%) reported meeting criteria at some point in their life for either a DSM-IV anxiety disorder (28.8%), mood disorder (20.8%), impulse-control disorder (24.8%) or substance use disorders (14.6%). Half of all lifetime cases had started by age 14 and 3/4 by age 24.

In the prior 12-month period only, around a quarter (26.2%) met criteria for any disorder"anxiety disorders 18.1%; mood disorders 9.5%; impulse control disorders 8.9%; and substance use disorders 3.8%. A substantial minority (23%) met criteria for more than two disorders. 22.3% of cases were classed as serious, 37.3% as moderate and 40.4% as mild.^[12][13]

European population studies

A 2004 cross-European study found that approximately one in four people reported meeting criteria at some point in their life for one of the DSM-IV disorders assessed, which included mood disorders (13.9%), anxiety disorders (13.6%) or alcohol disorder (5.2%). Approximately one in ten met criteria within a 12-month period. Women and younger people of either gender showed more cases of disorder.^[14]

A 2005 review of 27 studies have found that 27% of adult Europeans is or has been affected by at least one mental disorder in the past 12 months. It was also found that the most frequent disorders were anxiety disorders, depressive, somatoform and substance dependence disorders

Reference -

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prevalence_of_mental_disorders

http://www.nih.gov/news/pr/aug2004/niaaa-02.htm

...WELL VERY WELL SAID,EXPLAINED,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,NOW THE CV;S SHOULD CHANGE SAANCHI INTO A BETTER POSITIVE PERSON AFTER PUTTING HERSELF ANDHER FAMILY INTO AN UGLY EMBARASING ,UNWISE SITUATION;;;;;;;;;;NOW LETS SEE HOW THE FAMILY TAKES HER...BY HORN ,,,,,,,,,,,,,OR AGAIN IGNORING IT????????????????