Would Anandi happier With A Divorcee than Shiv - Page 2

Originally posted by: Debbiee

Debbie if we tlk abt anandi den it's not d past dat hunts her... if it is den she would be very week or very negative... normally a bad past mkes a pperson negative or inferior... in childhood ds was stricted wid her n punished her often... n we used blame ds she doing so much torture on a innocent gurl??? y did we thnk dis... coz anandi was her DIL n not daughter... if anandi was her daughter n she punished anandi for her mistakes den would we pick fingered on her...

I believe u pamper a child but at d same tme if u teach child wat is wrong n wat is right by punishing him or her on dere mistakes in childhood dats a lesson for dem...

today anandi doesn't steel money, value relationships, nor lies it's coz she is taught dis...

as I said earlier if jagya was also punished for his mistakes in childhood may be wouldnt have done mistakes...

anandi got matured not coz of her childhood bt coz of her marriage wid jagya...

n marriage is not based on past or present... it's based on how u handle situations how u love ur family how committed u r towards it relationship...

Heth Singhs and Urmi Devis are capable of weaving fictions stories even if Anandi had married a divorcee. They may even say, Anandi had a secret affair with the other guy behind their respective spouses back and thats the reason for divorces of both parties!! They might even say, the second husband is Anandi's secret teenage love!!! So I feel one cannot stop bad guys from bad mouthing. Anyway they will find one reason or another to tarnish their opponent's image.

Regarding Anandi being passive towards the comments, I have a different take. Anandi does not get affected by taunts regarding her past. She did not cry when she overheard Ira-CM convo. She looked shocked. But she just left it there. Then she had some happy time with Shiv !! If another woman was in Anandi's place, she would be either crying or fuming with anger !! Anandi focuses her energy on things she thinks worthy. She is a very positive person.

What people talk about her does not matter to her. What they think is their problem right? Even if she talks back and puts Ira and Sanchi in their place, but does it really matter, if they keep quiet just fearing her, but have the same ill feelings towards her in their mind??

I feel Anandi has a different way of looking at things. Her philosophy may not look aggressive or practical to us. But her philosophy is working for her. Irrespective of the taunts, Anandi doesn't have an ounce of insecurity regarding Shiv. She is confident in her skin. Shiv accepted her as she is. Anandi accepted Shiv as he is. If Gauri was in Anandi's place in KB, Gauri would have shouted back at Ira and would have somehow persuaded Shiv to stay apart from family. But then, every day Gauri would have worried if Shiv would one day go back to his family!!

Originally posted by: brick_red

Heth Singhs and Urmi Devis are capable of weaving fictions stories even if Anandi had married a divorcee. They may even say, Anandi had a secret affair with the other guy behind their respective spouses back and thats the reason for divorces of both parties!! They might even say, the second husband is Anandi's secret teenage love!!! So I feel one cannot stop bad guys from bad mouthing. Anyway they will find one reason or another to tarnish their opponent's image.

Regarding Anandi being passive towards the comments, I have a different take. Anandi does not get affected by taunts regarding her past. She did not cry when she overheard Ira-CM convo. She looked shocked. But she just left it there. Then she had some happy time with Shiv !! If another woman was in Anandi's place, she would be either crying or fuming with anger !! Anandi focuses her energy on things she thinks worthy. She is a very positive person.

What people talk about her does not matter to her. What they think is their problem right? Even if she talks back and puts Ira and Sanchi in their place, but does it really matter, if they keep quiet just fearing her, but have the same ill feelings towards her in their mind??

I feel Anandi has a different way of looking at things. Her philosophy may not look aggressive or practical to us. But her philosophy is working for her. Irrespective of the taunts, Anandi doesn't have an ounce of insecurity regarding Shiv. She is confident in her skin. Shiv accepted her as she is. Anandi accepted Shiv as he is. If Gauri was in Anandi's place in KB, Gauri would have shouted back at Ira and would have somehow persuaded Shiv to stay apart from family. But then, every day Gauri would have worried if Shiv would one day go back to his family!!

Originally posted by: libsrocks

I don't think Anandi would have been happier if she would have married some divorcee...not every have such positive feelings for their ex-in-laws and spouses like Anandi even after going through such bitter separation so it's not necessary that his divorcee husband would have understood her attachment for Singhs...you don't need to be a divorcee to understand such attachments...you just need to be a logical and caring human like Shiv so i feel Shiv is still the best partner Anandi could get...Shiv isn't creating nay problems for Anandi and neither is his ego...it's Ira who is creating all the trouble...Ira is actually not a good mother-in-law...she has very high and traditional expectations from her DIL and even if Shiv would have married Ashima she would have behaved the same with her only that Ashima would not have tolerated such nonsense...Shekhars are actually very narrow minded people and no matter how modern that look they are not like that...Ira easily says that Anandi did not come up to her expectations but has she ever stopped and think what expectations a DIL has from her in-laws...she wants Anandi to place her in level of Sumitra but she does nothing to become like Sumitra or even a good understanding MIL...yes she is angry with what happened with Saanchi and any mother would be but she is behaving in such uncivilised manner and even ready to go for lies to make her daughter win this case...instead of trying to know why Anandi hide so many things from her in-laws she is just accusing her...has she thought that if Anandi is being submissive than she should assure her to think of them as her family and talk fearlessly...no...i still don;t think Singhs would have found any better husband for their daughter than Shiv...he was rude and everything but how could he support Anandi when she has no solid proof to justify her statements where as he saw the change is talking about in Saanchi

Originally posted by: Debbiee

You are absolutely right librocks.

But let me add something here. Most of the mother-in-laws in this world are like this Ira only and she is justified to some extent.

A mother, a Maa is a Maa and nobody else can take her place ever. Once during my teens my mother told me "Only a Maa is a mother; the other mothers and mother-likes would always treat you like a step mother. Don't have hight expectations from them and you would be happy. If they are good then it's a bonus. Only a 'Mausi' behaves like a mother as she is a MAUSI (Maa Jaysi Mausi)"

A mother and daughter's relationship is build over many years of togetherness apart from the blood relationship. They trust each other over any other relationship in the world. It's pretty much natural for Ira to believe her daughter over Anandi when Sanchi attempted even a fake suicide. She easily fell into her trick.

Please note again I am saying Ira-Sanchi relationship is built over last 22-23 years. Ira-Anandi relationship is of few months. Let it be at least 5 years long and we would see how their relationship flourishes 😊

Originally posted by: Debbiee

Would Anandi happier With A Divorcee than Shiv

So far all the taunts and ill-treatments that Anandi faced in her second marriage by Shiv's family had one major reason. i.e. Anandi past.

Sanchi taunts her in the name of her first husband; her daba daba pyar for him.