Aligning with one's integrity - Page 6

Originally posted by: tinoo

Pressurized him how? How could sumitra pressurize him to forcibly sit in a mandap and get married to saanchi? He is an adult and he could have told them and taken a stand that he would not marry saanchi under any circumstances.

Now as for reason he did not want his family to be blamed... I do believe that this was a decision of great magnitude and he should atleast have given them the choice. i.e. "I plan to do this so as to spare you and take the blame on my shoulders ... would you like to do it in some different way?"

Maybe the singhs (dadisa and bhairon) would have preferred taking the blame on their shoulders. Did Jagya even consult them? or give them a chance?

and fair enough, if they reacted unreasonably, THEN AT THAT TIME, he could have gone and done exactly what he did and broken it off himself.

Originally posted by: monamie111

Tinoo...how r u? 😃...i really missed u and ur posts...hope u r doing well...

can u remember me?...i used to jump and attack u in every post of urs... 😆...so nice to see u back!...

Originally posted by: SiriuslySujal

Tinooo!!! Really missed your posts on here. Your thought-provoking threads were what initially got me to join this forum, and despite disagreeing with you a lot about AnSh-related matters back in the day, I definitely missed you after you left! Hope you are here to stay despite the current pathetic state of the show 🤢 If you don't remember me, here's something to jog your memory: Heth Singh And The Kidnappers 😉 😛 😆

Originally posted by: tinoo

Naz darling!! did you really think I would not remember you?? So happy to see you. 🤗

Let past disagreements lie in the past. It's okay, we can start a fresh relationship now.

Heth singh and the kidnappers 🤣🤣 Ofcourse I remember the all-time favourite rock band.

🤣🤣 Really, I remember I was drinking some soda at the time when I read your post on that, and I started laughing so hard that my drink came out through my nose and splattered onto the computer screen and the keyboard. 🤣🤣. I remember well!!

Do you remember the other rock band "dadisa's laadesars" -- with nandu, jagdish, and shiv all singing on stage in dark glasses 😎

And they were to have a sing-off at the annual Jayetsar rustic music festival.

And then the anandi-shiv duet "Mirchi and Muscles" 🤣🤣🤣. At the time she was being very snippy to him and he and his muscles were pursuing her.

Sigh!! Good times.

🤣🤣

Originally posted by: rdjha

a very nice and thought provoking post
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i agree that in all this fiasco Jagya and anandi both are to be blamed in that order.
Sanchi and Shekhars are of course at maximum fault...but i donot want to discuss them here.

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Jagya, agreed he is a changed man...and his decision of calling of the engagement and marrying Ganga was very much correct, but the way he handled it was really wrong and the biggest reason of all this fiasco.
First - i am ok that he did not wait for anandi to talk to Shiv and all, because he saw her resistance in breaking this rishta. But he should have spoken to his family. he could have called Bhairav atleast - that would have led him to a better direction with a better advice.

second - even if he did break off in haste - that is his intrinsic nature, he had enough time to tell the truth to his family before leaving for Manglore. Ganga was in trouble all done - but an hour's delay wouldnt have caused any difference to Ganga's case.

third - there was absolutely no need to marry Ganga this way. and i dont buy Sumitra as an excuse. Just because she was degrading Ganga doesnt mean you go and do the sindoor daan.
Jagya did it cause he loves Ganga and this was an easy escape from Sanchi and getting Ganga in his life. if he was not in love with Ganga, but still didnt want to mary Sanchi - then also he would have done the sindoor daan just because of Sumitra's insults? No, never. Ganga was also in love with Jagya and hence she also didnt protest. If she didnt love him, she would have fought tooth and nail but wouldnt have allowed him to fill her maang.

So this enitre wedding was unnecessary. and people are not wrong when they say that Jagya wanted to marry Ganga and made Sanchi a scapegoat. due to Jagya's wrong timing, Sanchi's faults were easily forgotten and all blame came on him, ganga and anandi.
Jagya has always been selfish and impulsive and he is still the same.
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coming to anandi - i agree she was sitting on a large pile of lies. but she never wanted to hide it, its just that she delayed things unnecessarily. but then again it is her intrinsic nature to keep things to her self, assess it to no ends and then try to brong it to light. and this is where she is at fault.

i dont buy the reason that Shiv was busy in romance and didnt allow her to speak...if she really wanted to tell him , she could have. when he knows its about his sister and J he would have listened no matter what his mood was. didnt she strongly discuss Chanda and Bhaili issues with him, he was in a romantic mood then as well. the real issue was anandi wasnt willing to share. she herself was confused and didnt understand how to present the case so that her point is understood and there is minimum hurt. she basically wanted to keep all parties happy, which is never the case when you have truth to unfold.

but i do agree with Aparna, that the way you bring out the truth is equally important. one wrong move and it can fall flat on your face and that is what happened now. Anandi was too late to speak, and when she did, Jagya's sudden wedding completely washed out her efforts.

even now when Shiv puts Jagya in jail it is very important how anandi supports Jagya. she really needs to be smart else she will lose all her relations and also her husband in the process.