Aligning with one's integrity

I have read a lot of posts here that there is no point if Jagya would have told the truth, because nobody would have believed him... and same with anandi. Even if anandi would have told the truth, nobody would have believed her.

Excellent post. I am 200 % with you on this .Both Jagya and Anandi should have done what is right no matter what is output of the situation. They both acted like coward.

Agree with each and every word you have written

In this issue I personally think that Jagya's actions were correct and that he and Ganga are definitely NOT manipulative lying blah blah blah's .I support their relationship too

But what you said here , about Jagya going back and telling the truth, about aligning with his integrity , I agree completely. He should have thought this over, gone to Bhairon and STUCK to his guns when Sumi would have made her drama- then proceeded with breaking off the engagement. His one impulsive act, though carried out with good intentions, has now made a lot of people upset

On Anandi I will remain quiet. I don't see any vestiges of the older, brave, heroic Anandi in her. Marriage seems to have changed her completely

I would also like to applaud you for bringing out such a logical, unbiased topic😊

Isnt that the takeaway the new redeemed jagya should have had from his first round of infedility.

Tinoo - Nice to see you back here.😊

Originally posted by: tinoo

Isnt that the takeaway the new redeemed jagya should have had from his first round of infedility.

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That time too he told bapusa "main aapko bolta toh bhi aap samajhte nahi"...

But the thing is he should have done his part then too, by telling Bhairon that he is in love with gauri, AND THEN if bapusa didn't listen, he needs to then take a stand for his own love for gauri or whatever else he felt he needed to do.

He repeated the same mistake again which means that he did not learn his lesson, and he is not new or redeemed, just old wine in a new bottle.

I think it's because a person's character doesn't change with circumstances , his outlook does, his perspective does.
Jagya always acts impulsively. It is a part of his nature. But comparing the two situations you have given
Then his outlook and perspective was limited to himself. it was his life, his happiness. Today it extends to encompass a sense of right or wrong. He knows what is right or wrong and he stands up for what he believes is right now, not what he believes is right for himself . Therein lies the difference
So I cannot agree with your statement that he is "old wine in a new bottle". rather I would put it as " new wine in an old bottle". His outlook , thoughts, thinking process has changed but aspects of his nature like impulsiveness hasn't

That being said, I wish he had acted in the way I mentioned above after knowing Sanchi is a twit

Originally posted by: aparnauma

Ultimately you have to live with your fellow human beings and their feelings also have to be kept in mind.

Aparnauma,

Originally posted by: tinoo

Aparnauma,

I am sure we all tell lies to not hurt feelings, but I think at Anandi's age and at Jagya's age, they must have a sense of discernment as to how serious the matters really are... and if this is something that can stand the test of time. I mean is it a one-shot lie or a long term implications type of lie.

Definitely, if someone is wearing a horrible outfit and asks me how does it look? I will say "great" not to hurt her feelings. But I don't believe that this is a lie of great magnitude. Once again, if the person is going to the shopping center in that hideous outfit, I will not tell the truth. However, if she is going to a job interview which might have implications, I will tell her the truth about the outfit.

We all say lies to avoid conflict, gain approval, not hurt people's feelings... but in the matters anandi and jagya were going through, their staying quiet was not correct.

Thanks for the welcome and good to see you too! 😃

Great post @tinoo 👍🏼
completely agree with you, even i have read about this case 😊 .

truth has to be told...and at the right time...as soon one realizes that things going wrong...well jagya to a certain extent did that, but he didn't think it was required to take his family into confidence...whats the rush to get married to ganga...& that where i have a big problem with him.

anandii's confusion is always an excuse given for her not telling the truth ..or that she is not responsible for sanchi or jagya...but the fact is she is only one who knows the truth...so her integrity also gets questioned time & again...it is very important that the facts are told at the right time & complete & not half cooked truth told is the TRUTH...only then one can safeguard one's integrity.

Originally posted by: BeyondTheSky

anandii's confusion is always an excuse given for her not telling the truth ..or that she is not responsible for sanchi or jagya...but the fact is she is only one who knows the truth...so her integrity also gets questioned time & again...it is very important that the facts are told at the right time & complete & not half cooked truth told is the TRUTH...only then one can safeguard one's integrity.