Bhabo's failure- Where did she go wrong?

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Yesterday's epi was actually a good one. Bhabo's pride and ego was hurt badly. Irrespective of that she is unwillinging to ask help from SURYA. She is holding on to last straw of her pride when she says I have 2 more sons.
It was really good to watch her other 2 sons squabbling over money again. They had no time for her. They were in their own world and trying tit for tat with each other.
One son was telling they will make their sister's wedding simple and the other told, why simple they will sell the older one's shop to make it grand. They younger one was not a bit ashmaed to tell Sooraj's money runs the house and Vik sell the dukaan for Chavi's marriage while taking no accountability himself.
Meena worried about her 50K rupees. Not a single person asking Bhabo and Babasa how they are.
Bhabo though tradional and ego bound has come across as a lady of values. Yes her values were old but she did have a conscience which prompted her to take Sandhya for exam after LC. Why none of her other children except Sooraj developed that conscience. Where did she go wrong and how much Babasa and Sooraj has contributed to the attitude of Vik, Mohit and Chavi.

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HalleNJ thumbnail
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Posted: 12 years ago
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she went wrong by giving all responsibilities to Suraj ...she indirectly taught them how to 'use' suraj kindness and be dependent...so now no one was able to see her pain...bhabo deserves it!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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true kd.so more tracks on the way post IPS.

mohit to change
followed by all.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Nice post Shruthi.
Though we have discussed many times about Bhabho's way of parenting and her failure, one important mistake she has done and is continuing to do is making them believe that Suraj is still responsible to provide for Rathi house expenses from the sweet shop earnings. Her blind support to Mohit in all the financial crisis is a wrong step. On top of that, she is also supporting Emily to open a parlor. Mohit gets easy escape from all the responsibilities if Emily starts working.

Suraj is also responsible for this attitude of his family members.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I have a serious dough whether suraj is bhabo's real son.. her other children are selfish and self centered think about them self and there well gain and loss. How come suraj turned out to be such good person... šŸ˜•šŸ˜•šŸ˜² Actually Vikram and Mohit have bhabo's quality as she is as selfcentered and always think about her pride..
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Posted: 12 years ago
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nice post shruthi.
@sindu : do u think mohit will change ever.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I think it's because til date Bhabo had placed all the burden of the household expenses on Suraj. So none of the others felt like it was their responsibility.
She also never holds the others especially Mohit accountable for any of their mistakes...atleast not to the extreme level she goes with SurYa. 🤢

I mean forget about Vikram or Chavi and just look at Mohit for example:
Suraj wasted so much money on college and different courses for him and he still doesn't have a job that pays well enough to support himself and his wife. He has premarital relations with Emily and gets her pregnant. He has to marry her even though she's of a different religion. He is constantly threatening to divorce her even though she is pregnant. And he is willing to put her to work despite her pregnancy in a beauty parlor he expects Bhabo to set up for him using Suraj's earnings. 😔

Bhabo knows all of this...including him threatening Emily to lie, yet she protects him...and literally covers his tracks...

No accountability + No responsibility= Freeloading, selfish idiots for children 🤪
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Posted: 12 years ago
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you forgot to add that he denied responsibility and lied to everyone that he is not the father of emily's child. he tried to cheat on the DNA test during holi also..

how much lower can a person fall?

he can have an affair with her but not take the responsibility for it
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: cooldudette

you forgot to add that he denied responsibility and lied to everyone that he is not the father of emily's child. he tried to cheat on the DNA test during holi also..

how much lower can a person fall?

he can have an affair with her but not take the responsibility for it



And still that stupid non spin female emily married him.. I know she was pregnant but still staying with a person who dont respect you and has no love for u.. It would have be better if she would hav kept her self respect and dignity and raised the child alone.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Yes I agree to most of you. Where Bhabo went wrong was in fixing something called Accountability. She gave responsibility and accountability to Sooraj alone even before his marriage. According to her Sooraj was for family and he was not supposed to have personal life. His personal life was only to take the family line forward and nothing else. Just like Sooraj was accountable and responsible same rule applied to his wife. She was also expected to be for parivaar only and nothing else. Together they both were expected to push under the carpet all the ill doings of rest of family And fortunately for her Sooraj and Sandhya kept on doing the same. Irresepctive of that she refused to allow them something they both want. Now the dirt SURYA has pushed under the carpet is raising its ugly head. Still her ego remains the same 😭

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