Integrity and chugli and interpretations

Lots of discussions on integrity and chugli.

Why judges dole out different types of judgment and why there are review petitions if the truth is only one entity?

That is called interpretation.

Just like judges, individuals also interpret, not blindly run after truth.

and chugli. No husband appreciates if wifey goes on telling that your sister did this, did that every alternate day in the name of truth. she will be labelled as chuglikhor.

Anandi is not basically chglikhor and so are many of us. We wont tell our spouses what happened because that poor thing had a hard day and we dont want to go on and on. Especially when that fellow doesn't take things seriously and has his or her own interpretations.

Like shiv has some opinion about sanchi that she is sweet and all her acts are result of bachpana. that is his interpretation of sanchi. anandi has more neutral interpretation of sanchi. Not with her entirely and not against her entirely.

sumitra has her own negative interpretation of ganga while Bhairon is neutral and Jagya is positive.

for me the present Jagya is much better than present Shiv.

for me anandi is silly and confused and always in trouble. Thats it. Nothing more and nothing less.

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

for me the present Jagya is much better than present Shiv.

for me anandi is silly and confused and always in trouble. Thats it. Nothing more and nothing less.

the main problem is sanchi, sumitra and shekhars in that order.

Ignoring them and picking on others means you are not treating the disease but content with only diagnosis.

To me shiv, Sumatra, DS all act as life is black and white... never think in terms of grey which anandi does...but problem with her is her actions. ...at they follow situations...she needs to act before or at the situation...but she never does

I will get benefit of doubt to almost everyone except Heth singh and sanchi.

@ leaves agree with you...as others are victim of situations whereas People like Sanchi create complex situations for others...make them victims by manipulating them...such characters need to be tackled with open eyes and and mind.

I agree- when it comes right down to it , ultimately truth is a matter of perception and interpretation for people

But I would like to extend one point----If that's the case shouldn't we then remain neutral or non-judgemental

Truth to me is basically facts What is happening NOW. It is only when we add the colours of our own judgement based on what we think they are, their own pasts and behaviours and everything else that these facts get distorted and we tend to perceive rather than just see

Let's take the two most argued topics in BV

1. Sumitra and Ganga vs Sanchi

Here it's Sumitra's perceptions that created this mess. For her
a. Sanchi was young, from a wonderful background, had an amazing man called Shiv as her brother. Sanchi's subsequent sucking up thereby consolidated her impression as a wonderful young girl and enabled her to ignore all of Sanchi's slip ups and dismiss it as bachpana

b. Ganga , a woman who left her husband and with no background. For Sumitra the fact alone that she left her husband was slightly hard to digest and her impression of Ganga wasn't all that good. This made her a receptive mind to Sanchi's poison

If Sumitra had remained neutral and refrained from making judgements she could have seen Sanchi's bad along with all the good and that would have raised red flags. She could have seen Ganga's good along with the danger she posed and thereby made logical decisions rather than developing this concentrated hate against her

Bhairon remaining neutral had the ability to see truth as truth and could therefore understand the situation and deal with it better

2. Shiv

A man who is logical, smart and has had a well deserved reputation for integrity till now

If this situation was happening in another family with 3 other people as Jagya, Ganga and Sanchi- I am certain he would have raised questions regarding the behaviour of that Sanchi. However in this case his impression of Sanchi as a childish, loving sister and of Jagya as a cheating womanizer has clouded his judgement
If he had remained neutral and seen facts for facts he would have definitely have suspected something was amiss


The only way to see truth for truth is to remain unbiased- See the situation from outside , logically and stick to facts without extra baggage of who the participants are

We need to see , not perceive
Unfortunately in real life it is all too hard to do so

Even dadisa is somewhat neutral but is swayed by sumitra and her interpretations.

It will take some time for everyone to cool down and think, think deeply.

They say time heels.

They were all thrown into this situation because of one person and that person's obsession. What about that person's interpretation? Perhaps some delusionary interpretation like I am right and Jagya is good and somebody is creating problems between us like ganga, anandi.

anandi's interpretation maybe. Everyone is right in their own way and wrong in their own way.

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

I will get benefit of doubt to almost everyone except Heth singh and sanchi.

Even Heth singh has a valid reason !! By saving Gulli from the marriage mandap -- Anandi ruffled the feathers of Hethsingh by disrupting his sons' marriage !Though looks like illogical logic...from his point of view..Anandi did harm to his reputation !That's why he tortured her and tried to tarnish her stature ! Here Anandi never did any harm to Sanchi ! On the contrary ...knowingly or unknowingly--- she helped her in almost all occasions ! Through out the drama Sanchi is busy with digging graves for almost everybody ! Now she dug a grave for herself...but while digging it she has taken utmost care...to see that it must be too small for her ...so that she can have a sneak peek...later a clear picture of what is happening around her ! Even if Jagdish and Anaandi revealed the truth at the right time in the right place ...I dont' think there will be any impact on the weird thinking of Sekhars' or of Sumitra !