OMG pyaar per itne Ilzaam

OMG pyaar per itne Ilzaam ...
As Shakespeare has rightly said... "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."

I'm really surprised to see so many allegations on Anandi that too for one sentence which was said more out of her love and gratitude towards Shiv. when we really love & care for someone we don't look for mistakes. Instead we fight the mistakes, accept the faults and overlook the excuses and walk hand in hand!
We all know it pretty well that we all have to make adjustment and changes in all walks of life from school to college to work to marriage... Here we are talking about a lawfully wedded couple. Ah like cars marriage also needs servicing time to time 😉. The trick is to learn to adjust the expectation just like while sailing we adjust the sail according the wind's direction.

First we have to remember that she is a baalika vadhu not any one of us ...she was told how valuable and integral marriage is for mankind and she has to make it work ( Today's FB portrayed the same thoughts) ...the ideology that sasural is her real home was drilled into her head. She was taught about traditions and married & sent away before even she blossomed into a women from a girl. She went from parental homes to Singh's homes at the age of 8 and there under the strict DS she learnt all the hard lessons of life ... Though Singh's king abandoned her but again she was told & explained that she can never be happy without a man in her life.
So deep down a person who has never stayed independently how will she know that one could be happy living as a single person.😉

Though she fights for emancipation of women & but in reality she has no idea that singleness can be a productive and happy experience😃 and CV will never give her that pleasure either.

Jab Aji ko shaadi ki bandhan mai bandh kar rehna hai tho... she has to face 101 problems and come out of it too. Getting married brings with it an entire network of protections and responsibilities, both tangible and intangible, that affects the couple in every area of life. With wedding voes come woes too😛. I'm sure all of you know ...Marriages are made in heaven so are thunder and lightning too 😆. Anandi knows this pretty well like all things worthwhile...a little sweat makes it sweeter.😳

Earlier it was her 'won't' & his 'will' now we'll get to see her 'will' & his 'won't'.

No marriage is issue-less nor does it come with instructions manual. In marriage, or in life also we all have some trouble filled days...do we leave work, or school or abandon our parents ...no we try to make it work & try to find out what went wrong.
So why can the same be done in marriage?
Successful marriages are those that withstand all tempests😛. We sure have to have some patience and dedication to our wedding vows.😳

What is so wrong if she thinks that he is her LIFE now...he has given her a lot of love, respect and hope for better tomorrow . He only made her triumph over her bad experiences with his unconditional support which gave her a aerial view of a wonderful future together.
before marriage he yearned for her now he earns for her 😆
he is performing his duties. He did not yell at his sister as she was not in her senses seeing her fiance putting sindoor on somebody else. She maybe a witch or a penguin all he know was his sis was ditched by unscrupulous Jagdeesh whom he had though is changed man now.

Lesson for Aji: A man of pleasure at times can become a man of pain too😉 we women should know how to twist and turn and turn the pain to our gain 😆

Now about being regressive:

From the word go the show is regressive...a girl becomes a balika vadhu at the age of 8 then she is forced to marry for the second time around much against her will ...well Shiv was a good soul made her fall love with him ...that is different story but then she had to leave her job of Sarpanch to be with her in laws in Udaipur. All she has been doing is trying to please and placate her Ils & crazy sil for last 6 months...what was so progressive in it? Yes there was a bout of progressiveness 😉 Aji started her NGO Bhaile and in the process lost her pallu 😆

wow tina...great post...👏

I can agree with what you wrote, for some extent. They all are true also, from Anandi's view.

She understood why her husband was angry with Singhs and family. She understood the love of her husband for his sister. No problems.

When Jagya found his fiancee was despicably cheating him and his family, keeping them under the false impression of her non-existing love and respect, Anandi wanted Jagya to do nothing all of a sudden! And she repeatedly was saying to everyone that she had asked him to wait until she talk with elders!

When I see the issue as a third person, I find that a little awkward. Has Jagdish not got a heart? Is he beyond the feeling of being betrayed and loved? As if he has no right to feel anger... She can understand why her husband is angry, but not a person whose fiancee cheated him and his family. 😆.

Originally posted by: -Jamy-

I can agree with what you wrote, for some extent. They all are true also, from Anandi's view.

She understood why her husband was angry with Singhs and family. She understood the love of her husband for his sister. No problems.

When Jagya found his fiancee was despicably cheating him and his family, keeping them under the false impression of her non-existing love and respect, Anandi wanted Jagya to do nothing all of a sudden! And she repeatedly was saying to everyone that she had asked him to wait until she talk with elders!

When I see the issue as a third person, I find that a little awkward. Has Jagdish not got a heart? Is he beyond the feeling of being betrayed and loved? As if he has no right to feel anger... She can understand why her husband is angry, but not a person whose fiancee cheated him and his family. 😆.

Fiancee has happily become a victim now thx to J's rash sindoor to ganga

Of course J has a heart & I'm sure that he also longs for love and true companionship. He has all the right to get his saccha pyaar enuff of kacha pyaar . But what went wrong was sindoorification of Ganga. He did not end it there he went on to profess his unconditional love and support to Ganga ...That's when Shiv completely lost it. So you got engaged with my sister and were harboring feelings for another girl. So JaAn & Gauri triangle started floating in front of his eyes.
This unscrupulous man will never change ...how could I fall in his trap. Shiv is feeling cheated.

No she understands J also that's why when he was taking all the blame she was feeling miserable and said about Sanchi's coffee house confession to her friends.
Aji is in the middle now she is feeling for her new friend J and she is feeling bad for shiv & family ...the situations are all slipping from her hands.

Tina di...wonderful post😊

Originally posted by: 5cents

OMG pyaar per itne Ilzaam ...
As Shakespeare has rightly said... "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."

I'm really surprised to see so many allegations on Anandi that too for one sentence which was said more out of her love and gratitude towards Shiv. when we really love & care for someone we don't look for mistakes. Instead we fight the mistakes, accept the faults and overlook the excuses and walk hand in hand!
We all know it pretty well that we all have to make adjustment and changes in all walks of life from school to college to work to marriage... Here we are talking about a lawfully wedded couple. Ah like cars marriage also needs servicing time to time 😉. The trick is to learn to adjust the expectation just like while sailing we adjust the sail according the wind's direction.

First we have to remember that she is a baalika vadhu not any one of us ...she was told how valuable and integral marriage is for mankind and she has to make it work ( Today's FB portrayed the same thoughts) ...the ideology that sasural is her real home was drilled into her head. She was taught about traditions and married & sent away before even she blossomed into a women from a girl. She went from parental homes to Singh's homes at the age of 8 and there under the strict DS she learnt all the hard lessons of life ... Though Singh's king abandoned her but again she was told & explained that she can never be happy without a man in her life.
So deep down a person who has never stayed independently how will she know that one could be happy living as a single person.😉

Though she fights for emancipation of women & but in reality she has no idea that singleness can be a productive and happy experience😃 and CV will never give her that pleasure either.

Jab Aji ko shaadi ki bandhan mai bandh kar rehna hai tho... she has to face 101 problems and come out of it too. Getting married brings with it an entire network of protections and responsibilities, both tangible and intangible, that affects the couple in every area of life. With wedding voes come woes too😛. I'm sure all of you know ...Marriages are made in heaven so are thunder and lightning too 😆. Anandi knows this pretty well like all things worthwhile...a little sweat makes it sweeter.😳

Earlier it was her 'won't' & his 'will' now we'll get to see her 'will' & his 'won't'.

No marriage is issue-less nor does it come with instructions manual. In marriage, or in life also we all have some trouble filled days...do we leave work, or school or abandon our parents ...no we try to make it work & try to find out what went wrong.
So why can the same be done in marriage?
Successful marriages are those that withstand all tempests😛. We sure have to have some patience and dedication to our wedding vows.😳

What is so wrong if she thinks that he is her LIFE now...he has given her a lot of love, respect and hope for better tomorrow . He only made her triumph over her bad experiences with his unconditional support which gave her a aerial view of a wonderful future together.
before marriage he yearned for her now he earns for her 😆
he is performing his duties. He did not yell at his sister as she was not in her senses seeing her fiance putting sindoor on somebody else. She maybe a witch or a penguin all he know was his sis was ditched by unscrupulous Jagdeesh whom he had though is changed man now.

Lesson for Aji: A man of pleasure at times can become a man of pain too😉 we women should know how to twist and turn and turn the pain to our gain 😆

Now about being regressive:

From the word go the show is regressive...a girl becomes a balika vadhu at the age of 8 then she is forced to marry for the second time around much against her will ...well Shiv was a good soul made her fall love with him ...that is different story but then she had to leave her job of Sarpanch to be with her in laws in Udaipur. All she has been doing is trying to please and placate her Ils & crazy sil for last 6 months...what was so progressive in it? Yes there was a bout of progressiveness 😉 Aji started her NGO Bhaile and in the process lost her pallu 😆

OMG Tina...awesome, amazing, super-duper post !!!!👏👏👏👏❤️❤️🤗

Hiral this is what I explained in my post She respects him and is emotionally & lovingly connected now. Her prayer to Kanha ji proved she loves God and trusts her husband.😳 Remember lagaav ka roop dhikaya so for her...he is all rolled in one friend, philosopher and guide.

She sure puts him on a GODLY pedestal but I feel he has also completely submitted to her mind, body and soul❤️. For him she is no less than Goddess Durga😃.

Till date he has always understood her fears and insecurities helped her come out of it. So isn't it her responsibility now to understand and submit to him. Submission does not mean blind obedience nor does it mean now you cannot think for yourself. Both husband & wife can have their own opinions, thoughts, and ideas.

Now there is nothing to prove both of them know how much they both loves and respect each other. But this does not mean that they can never be hurt by each others action or words . Ansh love each other maddeningly and they respect & honor each other so now Shiv is feeling how could Aji not be my guiding light in this.

In a lighter vein... uski bati kaise fuse ho gaye 😉 & Aji play the music and get his attention then show him the light 😳

UFFF this fused couple😆

wow...@5cents...you explained everything so beautifully and humorously...loved it 👏

Rashmi 🤗
Yes, in marriage there always will be issues. We are not Cinderella from Disney show ...who have not aged in these 50 years & everything is on the surface. Of course there is more to love. But it is never realized through escaping the reality of disappointment and conflict. We all have to face it.
Disappointments are to the soul what a thunderstorm is to the air. Shiv ji barso abb garaj na not allowed.

Working through conflicts and differences, weathering storms, admitting selfishness and anger these are the necessary difficulties that allow genuine intimacy to grow. Unfortunately, many believe that such disappointments signal the end of intimacy but I feel it is the beginning.
The fairy tale must end for the potential of true intimacy to begin.w