Is long hair only a prerequisite for a DIL? - Page 2

Originally posted by: pallavi25

That is quite common in most Indian families! Hypocrisy, different sets of rules for DILs and daughters. Married daughter visits Maayka, parents say Beta, thodi der aur ruk jaa, baad mein chali jaana...same parents as saas sasur would tell their bahu not to visit Maayka all the time and only go for short visits!

So daughter can have short hair and wear western dresses as shes Amreekan now but bahu has to be full on Desi and have long hair touching her ankles (basically grow her tresses till she trips on her own hair 😆) and bahu has to wear saris with pallu covering her head all the time!

I remember as a new bride I was asked to cover my head for the first few months but I gave up after the first 2 days as pallu would slip down constantly. 😆 My sasural was also very traditional Old Calcutta type family but they gave up trying to change me after a while. 😆

In my mother's time and also a few rishtas in my time, prospective groom's family would ask would be bride to sing for them, to walk a few paces (to see if she limped or not) and open her hair bun or chotis to see the length of her hair.

Im so glad that my daughter grew up outside India and she would never have to face such "interviews" 😆

Not just India, a lot of Asian cultures have these double standards where daughters and bahus are not held to the same set of rules. I find this really funny and inconsistent.. I really want to ask about the thought process behind these separate rules.

On a side note, you reminded me of Chanchan 😆 What I don't get it why is it only with sarees? I mean, can't bahus just use the dupatta for covering her head (that part bugged me a lot in Chanchan)

Originally posted by: --Evon--

Not just India, a lot of Asian cultures have these double standards where daughters and bahus are not held to the same set of rules. I find this really funny and inconsistent.. I really want to ask about the thought process behind these separate rules.

On a side note, you reminded me of Chanchan 😆 What I don't get it why is it only with sarees? I mean, can't bahus just use the dupatta for covering her head (that part bugged me a lot in Chanchan)

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Yes, remembered Chhanchhan scenes😆...I dont know why Sari is considered more traditional and decent than salwars. I think salwars kameez hides more of the female body than a sari, which reveals the navel and back. In fact a westerner had once told me that sari was a sexy piece of clothing! 😆

Oh so the hypocrisy is common throughout Asia! Im not surprised...all Asians have a lot in common in terms of traditions and rituals.

Obviously hypocrites will show favoritism for their own daughter and neglect or abuse the bahu...because bahu is someone else's daughter. In old times, a Bengali groom would bring home his bride and tell his mother: Look Maa, I brought a Daasi (maid servant) for you"... Just Imagine!

Oh God! I shudder at the thought It's mostly psychological because if it's just about decency... the open back salwar suits and super revealing lehenga cholis (is that the name? the ones in the beginning of Saraswaitchandra) should also be not traditional enough..

I want Prachi to wake up and smell the coffee! I don't know if Prachi or Sunil even love each other. With Prachi, I feel it's an infatuation and something she is mistaking for love.

Yes, Sanchi should stop the wedding if she wants her sister's happiness as Prachi will be miserable in that house! Sunil is spineless so cannot expect him to even utter a squeak in support of his wife.