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I have been reading a lot of posts bashing Ganga and I wanted to make a post of my own so here goes-Phewđ:
I think you are wrong regarding Ganga. The whole problem surrounding Ganga is that people have way too many expectations of her. And then again, the fact that she was introduced as a love interest for Jagdish whose past makes him an object of hate for many did not help her case. Here's what I saw when she entered
She is and has always been a simple girl. Sold at the age of 12 she endured years of abuse before attempting to run away. Even that attempt was solely because she was concerned for her child- a case of natural instincts like mother love winning over her own feelings of fear
What that says to me about her is that of a normal,slightly timid girl who takes life as it comes, who is NOT a rebel and who tries to make the best of a bad situation. Somene who bore no resemblance to Anandi in fact
By the time she was 20 (her current age in BV) she had a 1 yr old son. She had been physically, mentally and sexually abused in every way possible by an utterly disgusting family, making her terrified, nervous and filling her with bitterness and hate against them. Her first entry shows that beautifully- she was like a cornered animal at that time. She knew nothing about the world except that it was her enemy. Qualities of independance, standing up for one's own rights had been stamped out of her. She was weak, mentally
Thankfully nature and fate intervened. First Jagya entered her life and motivated her even more to take her child and get out . He told her what awaited her child if she didn't do it. Secondly she was so frantic for her child that she grabbed the first helping hand she could and ran
Here we have a woman who is scared to trust the world but who is well aware that she needs help. Remember she had tried to run away twice before and both times had been cruelly dealt with. It was only when Jagya helped her that she found her own way
Ganga is basically a woman who subconsciously relies on help, no matter how much she tries not to,primarily because she has never experienced doing things on her own. Put yourself in her shoes and think. What would have happened if you never knew your parents, grew up in a harsh household went into an even worse one for 19 long years. Almost all of her formative years was spent in beating any spark of individuality and character out of her. You cannot compare her to a normal woman and expect her to behave the same way. Characters are developed based on the environment you grow up in.
Even one traumatic incident can scar you for life.My volunteer experience has made me come in contact with rape victims and it is pitiable. They start at every noise , they are terrified of their own family members , the mere presence of a male doctor scares them, it takes years of therapy for them to get over it ...this child has been undergoing it all through her teenage years!
It speaks volumes about her that even after all that she manages to lead a normal life. But the repercussions are there and it is reflected in her low self esteem, her inability to hide her own feelings and therefore her frequent crying( described fondly as crocodile tears by some) , her acceptance to Jagya's orders----he is the only man who has ever shown affection or kindness!
To return , Ganga reaches Badi Haveli. There she is taken aback by the kindness she receives. Her low self esteem immediately makes her painfully grateful to them and she starts doing kitchen work and assuming the position of a servant in that household. She also clings to the Singhs, as they are kind to her and they assume a position of family in her mind. They also treated her in such amanner, be it Dadisa's insistance that she stay or Sumitra and Gehna's loving companionship. Most of all Jagya assumes the role of friend, mentor and hero to her. He saved her life, gave her a new lease of freedom and motivates her to move on. Of all the Singhs with the possible exception of Dadisa he is the one who really understands her.
For those of you who cannot understand Ganga, I suggest you think of your very old grandparents. They are old and mentally weak, prone to tears or fits of irritability and tends to cling on to their children. What old age did to the strength of their minds, years of abuse did to Ganga
Ganga falls in love with Jagya. It was inevitable. For a woman who had absolutely no experience with affection from men , Jagya was a revelation. As for people suggesting that it was wrong for her to do so-đ
Nobody falls in love wantedly. It happens. What you can control is how you behave after it. I had a huge crush from 8th-10th on a guy. Thankfully neither did he know I exist,nor did I fail to see that it was just a crush
But for Ganga hero-worship turned into love primarily because she could not identify or categorize her feelings. Not only did she not have a mother figure to explain to her about feelings that are natural at this age, she has never experienced them before. The crush turned to love . But the fact that she did not act upon it is what defines her
Now she is confused and horrified. Nobody is there for her to advise her . She tries to carry on as normal. Then the Singh horror starts. The family this child considered her own suddenly wants her out. Many people question- WHY DID SHE CONSIDER THEM HER OWN? Because obviously they led her to believe so
They forced her to stay with them, treated her as one of them and then did a 360 degree turn. It's the equivalent of giving a baby a balloon, hugging it, cuddling it and then slapping the child and popping the balloon. Ganga is no different from the baby when it comes to love or relationships
Unsettled and thrown off balance she tries to find her way again and she almost does so but the Bala rape attempt happens and then she is shattered again
The whole point is people see Ganga as a normal girl or Anandi and blame her. She is NOT a normal girl and definitely not Anandi. Anandi had champions during her darkest time. This girl had no one when she was enduring horrors beyond the imagination of a woman.Not even another woman to comfort her.
Ganga is NOT a fighter. She fought for Mannu because he is the center of her world. She fought for Jagya's life because she loved him. She fought for the Singh's life during Ratan Singh's attck because she loves them. But by normal character she is NOT a fighter . It's not her fault. Her past has scarred her in such a manner. Timidity or being scared is not a crime in my opinion as long as you keep trying to change it. Everyone's different
What I don't understand is why she is blamed for not being a fighter. Not everyone grows up to be a strong independent champion. It takes a good environment, it takes support and encouragement.None of which Ganga had when growing up
But there are also woman who need help , who are inherently weak and they need help to achieve that independence and strength. Merely bashing her for not being strong enough or accepting help or not taking a firm stand against decisions makes us victim-bashers. We should be the ones to rise up and become champions for them instead
What makes Ganga special to me is that she keeps trying to overcome those problems and she is actually a loving, nice person who genuinely cares about people and doesn't want to hurt them. It doesn't matter if she is not a tigress who eschews all help and carves her own path and blah blah blah. The fact that she is not a superwoman who thinks on her feet is NOT something to be blamed
Final word
Ganga is a simple woman with simple ambitions who is trying to overcome the effects of her own past. The zenith of her ambition is a career of her own, a way to provide her child with rotis and a family,people she can love, rely on and take care of. I am cheering for her on her own personal adventure
P.S- Sorry for the loong postđł
I think you are wrong regarding Ganga. The whole problem surrounding Ganga is that people have way too many expectations of her. And then again, the fact that she was introduced as a love interest for Jagdish whose past makes him an object of hate for many did not help her case. Here's what I saw when she entered
She is and has always been a simple girl. Sold at the age of 12 she endured years of abuse before attempting to run away. Even that attempt was solely because she was concerned for her child- a case of natural instincts like mother love winning over her own feelings of fear
What that says to me about her is that of a normal,slightly timid girl who takes life as it comes, who is NOT a rebel and who tries to make the best of a bad situation. Somene who bore no resemblance to Anandi in fact
By the time she was 20 (her current age in BV) she had a 1 yr old son. She had been physically, mentally and sexually abused in every way possible by an utterly disgusting family, making her terrified, nervous and filling her with bitterness and hate against them. Her first entry shows that beautifully- she was like a cornered animal at that time. She knew nothing about the world except that it was her enemy. Qualities of independance, standing up for one's own rights had been stamped out of her. She was weak, mentally
Thankfully nature and fate intervened. First Jagya entered her life and motivated her even more to take her child and get out . He told her what awaited her child if she didn't do it. Secondly she was so frantic for her child that she grabbed the first helping hand she could and ran
Here we have a woman who is scared to trust the world but who is well aware that she needs help. Remember she had tried to run away twice before and both times had been cruelly dealt with. It was only when Jagya helped her that she found her own way
Ganga is basically a woman who subconsciously relies on help, no matter how much she tries not to,primarily because she has never experienced doing things on her own. Put yourself in her shoes and think. What would have happened if you never knew your parents, grew up in a harsh household went into an even worse one for 19 long years. Almost all of her formative years was spent in beating any spark of individuality and character out of her. You cannot compare her to a normal woman and expect her to behave the same way. Characters are developed based on the environment you grow up in.
Even one traumatic incident can scar you for life.My volunteer experience has made me come in contact with rape victims and it is pitiable. They start at every noise , they are terrified of their own family members , the mere presence of a male doctor scares them, it takes years of therapy for them to get over it ...this child has been undergoing it all through her teenage years!
It speaks volumes about her that even after all that she manages to lead a normal life. But the repercussions are there and it is reflected in her low self esteem, her inability to hide her own feelings and therefore her frequent crying( described fondly as crocodile tears by some) , her acceptance to Jagya's orders----he is the only man who has ever shown affection or kindness!
To return , Ganga reaches Badi Haveli. There she is taken aback by the kindness she receives. Her low self esteem immediately makes her painfully grateful to them and she starts doing kitchen work and assuming the position of a servant in that household. She also clings to the Singhs, as they are kind to her and they assume a position of family in her mind. They also treated her in such amanner, be it Dadisa's insistance that she stay or Sumitra and Gehna's loving companionship. Most of all Jagya assumes the role of friend, mentor and hero to her. He saved her life, gave her a new lease of freedom and motivates her to move on. Of all the Singhs with the possible exception of Dadisa he is the one who really understands her.
For those of you who cannot understand Ganga, I suggest you think of your very old grandparents. They are old and mentally weak, prone to tears or fits of irritability and tends to cling on to their children. What old age did to the strength of their minds, years of abuse did to Ganga
Ganga falls in love with Jagya. It was inevitable. For a woman who had absolutely no experience with affection from men , Jagya was a revelation. As for people suggesting that it was wrong for her to do so-đ
Nobody falls in love wantedly. It happens. What you can control is how you behave after it. I had a huge crush from 8th-10th on a guy. Thankfully neither did he know I exist,nor did I fail to see that it was just a crush
But for Ganga hero-worship turned into love primarily because she could not identify or categorize her feelings. Not only did she not have a mother figure to explain to her about feelings that are natural at this age, she has never experienced them before. The crush turned to love . But the fact that she did not act upon it is what defines her
Now she is confused and horrified. Nobody is there for her to advise her . She tries to carry on as normal. Then the Singh horror starts. The family this child considered her own suddenly wants her out. Many people question- WHY DID SHE CONSIDER THEM HER OWN? Because obviously they led her to believe so
They forced her to stay with them, treated her as one of them and then did a 360 degree turn. It's the equivalent of giving a baby a balloon, hugging it, cuddling it and then slapping the child and popping the balloon. Ganga is no different from the baby when it comes to love or relationships
Unsettled and thrown off balance she tries to find her way again and she almost does so but the Bala rape attempt happens and then she is shattered again
The whole point is people see Ganga as a normal girl or Anandi and blame her. She is NOT a normal girl and definitely not Anandi. Anandi had champions during her darkest time. This girl had no one when she was enduring horrors beyond the imagination of a woman.Not even another woman to comfort her.
Ganga is NOT a fighter. She fought for Mannu because he is the center of her world. She fought for Jagya's life because she loved him. She fought for the Singh's life during Ratan Singh's attck because she loves them. But by normal character she is NOT a fighter . It's not her fault. Her past has scarred her in such a manner. Timidity or being scared is not a crime in my opinion as long as you keep trying to change it. Everyone's different
What I don't understand is why she is blamed for not being a fighter. Not everyone grows up to be a strong independent champion. It takes a good environment, it takes support and encouragement.None of which Ganga had when growing up
But there are also woman who need help , who are inherently weak and they need help to achieve that independence and strength. Merely bashing her for not being strong enough or accepting help or not taking a firm stand against decisions makes us victim-bashers. We should be the ones to rise up and become champions for them instead
What makes Ganga special to me is that she keeps trying to overcome those problems and she is actually a loving, nice person who genuinely cares about people and doesn't want to hurt them. It doesn't matter if she is not a tigress who eschews all help and carves her own path and blah blah blah. The fact that she is not a superwoman who thinks on her feet is NOT something to be blamed
Final word
Ganga is a simple woman with simple ambitions who is trying to overcome the effects of her own past. The zenith of her ambition is a career of her own, a way to provide her child with rotis and a family,people she can love, rely on and take care of. I am cheering for her on her own personal adventure
P.S- Sorry for the loong postđł
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