Bhabo the mother lost to Sandhya the bahu

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Sonali_11

@Sonali_11

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Posted: 12 years ago

#21

Sandhya's connection with Bhabo is because of Suraj , whatever she has done or is doing ,its all because she loves and respect Suraj ..Moreover she is the type who believes in keeping the family together ,Ofcourse she does want motherly love from Bhabo but this time its because she feels that shes the reason of mother and son rift and thats why she is trying to bring them closer..
Suraj doesnt have any personal prob with Bhabo , he's not considered a good son because he has been supporting Sandhya throughout. She gives importance to family as she knows how important family is for Suraj..
If Sandhya doesnt know how to cook thats acceptable , because in rathi house she was hardly shown cooking and now she has to do it on her own..secondly whatever silly things she is doin to get bhabo's attention is working in her favour anyway ...

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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 12 years ago

#22

@niruba from day one Sandhya was never afraid of Bhabo or what will Bhabo think of her. She was afraid of what Bhabo will think of the sanskaars she has been taught by her parents. The sanskaar she ahs been taught is not breaking up the family and it is because of the fear that she being the reason for peace going out of RP family makes her do these dumb charades.

It is this fear Arvind Kothari in dream sequence had asked Sandhya to get over and keep her trust on Sooraj as he will not do anything to hamper relationship. By that he meant not to take decisions in her hand and support Sooraj in his decision in every possible way as a good wife. He really really reminded her she is no longer papa's little girl but Sooraj's wife.

Now though she is doing for Sooraj what will happen. Will Sooraj's intention of moving out will work. He wanted his mother to repent. Will Bhabo repent seeing Sandhya doing this blunders. yesterday clearly Bhabo the saas won and Sandhya the wife lost. It will add on to her belief that she was right all along. Her son would suffer in Sandhya's hand. He is already suffering when Sandhya is at home and she doesnt have any authority. If this is the condition now what will become of him when Sandhya become IPS and have the authority with her. What will be her son's condition. Will any mother like to see her son the way Bhabo saw Sooraj and love her DIL. Even the most accomodative one will feel sorry why the hell she married her son to such a woman and destroyed his life.

@Sonali Sandhya is winning , but what about the end result. Do you really really think Bhabo will call both of them back lovingly if Sandhya continues this. She will love her DIL for bringing back her son to her. Will this trick of Sandhya make Bhabo accept IPS. Will this act give Sooraj the happiness that Sandhya really thinks he will get if he gets united with Bhabo and Bhabo shouts the reason fo her calling back is she was unable to see her son suffering in the hands of his wife. Will he be happy listening to such insult for his wife. Remember the way his eyes went when Meena told you might be eating burned food or the effort with which he was hiding the neel ka daag to protect his wife from insult.

The question can Sooraj live without Bhabo, yes he can if he gets the complete security in marital relationship with Sandhya. He has accepted the fact that way to Bhabo's reform is not easy and it will take time. It is only Sandhya that thinks Sooraj cannot live without Bhabo just like Sooraj thought Sandhya wanted freedom from their marriage and did SV2.

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..Anusha..

@..Anusha..

Sparkler

Posted: 12 years ago

#23

Interesting

Well I don't mind if Bhabo tells SurYa to leave or just Sandy to leave. At some point this nonsense has to end. Unless Bhabo cuts the cord, it won't end.

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iluvsuraj

@iluvsuraj

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Posted: 12 years ago

#24

Suraj as a person is very determined and driven by commitment.It was this commitment towards his family that made him leave his future and work as a halwai.He excelled in that too. It is his commitment towards his wife that makes him so strong and focused.

He is someone who will never stand up for himself...he has never asked anyone anything for himself.But it is unfortunate that no one has ever done anything good to/for him nevertheless.

But he is a completely different man when it comes to Sandhya's dream.Especially from the 2nd matka time.He will not let anything come in between her and her dream.And for this he may even question Bhabho,like he did(subtly) before leaving RM.

I appreciate Sandhya's efforts to save Suraj's vishwaas,but that's not the way one can achieve it,that too by not telling him...Suraj had promised Sandhya that she will become an IPS officer with Bhabho's blessings.This is what he expects from the separation.Now that she is intentionally committing mistakes,how can you expect Suraj to return back when Bhabho tells RP that she called them back as she can't see her son suffer?Also,the jeweler's thing.Sandhya has cracked many cases,and this will be one of them.It will not make much difference to Bhabho.It's just like taking the day's earnings from Suraj without even looking at him.

Sandhya should help suraj,but change her strategy as this is not gonna help them both in the long run.

Edited by iluvsuraj - 12 years ago

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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 12 years ago

#25

@rosamine i am completely in agreement with Sandhya's intent, but the method she adopts is not that of a wife, but that of a bahu. I have problem only with method not intent. Her method will not help Sooraj get happiness, because his happiness is incomplete without her. Her method will antagonize Bhabo more towards her and Sooraj intent of bitterness healing will never happen.

It is fine to have your identity, but after marriage I as a woman believe you should never do things behind your husband's back as it might backfire which has happened in this serial more than once. It was Sandhya's doing things behind Sooraj's back that has bought DABH story to this level as Sooraj at everytime had to take blame on his head to save both the ladies in his life which has strained his relationship with Bhabo to this extent.

If Sandhya was more open, didnt take decisions behind his back he would have been able to manage his role as a son and husband in a much better fashion.

I have already put the things in another thread. Let me put it once again

- Sandhya hiding her educational qualifications even after multiple times Sooraj asking her the cause of her sadness and frustration. It blows up. Sooraj learns the truth from her brother while she was being thrown out and in that split second decides to support taking the blame on head. First strain of Bhabo- Sooraj relationship

- Sooraj decides to support Sandhya's dream. Bhabo brainwashes her. Sandhya listens and gets herself ready to consummate the marriage though she is not mentally prepared for it. Sooraj again catches her and again pleads with her to speak her mind. She stays mum. Sooraj takes decision in his own way forcing her to come his way as he listened to Bhabo brainwash. Night college happens and when the lid on that opens Bhabo-Sooraj relationship strains further

- Matka challenge and Liquor choc happens. Sandhya discovers it decides to throw away her dream. Lies to Sooraj that was only one lie. Sooraj again reacts to save her dream as he doesnt know the real reason of her action. He goes strongly to protect her dream during SBC. Bhabo discovers Sandhya gave away 2 matka's for her which emboldens her to ask from Sandhya the 3rd matka by asking her and Sooraj to stay away from house if she wins. Sandhya goes to sacrifice again. During final Sooraj knows the real reason of her action. He ask her to win and he just honours what his mother asked Sandhya to do. Bhabo-Sooraj relationship is almost cut

Now again Sandhya is doing things behind his back. Now not 1 lie, will be multiple keeping him in dark. By the time he discovers it will be too late and he will be once again in catch 22 position to take decision one way or other.

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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 12 years ago

#26

@Rosamine I know the end result of this will be sweet for all of viewers as it will bring SURYA closr if Bhabo throws them out. So to be frank I also want that result only. 😃 But Sandhya's intent is not that. She feels with this method both of them will get re-entry to RM and Sooraj will be happy, which will not work.

Edited by shruthiravi - 12 years ago

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Sonali_11

@Sonali_11

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#27

Shruthi I'll definately agree with you on one point here ..Being a Surya fan I do have this complaint from Sandhya that she never openly discusses things with Suraj, Suraj doesnt hide anything from Sandhya and he too has complained about the same..
Diya aur baati for me is that they both make a plan to trap Bhabo and win her heart so that she calls them back..Sandhya's intention is good and she is doing it to bring Suraj and Bhabo closer but both are working on different things.She is highlighting her mistakes while hes trying to hide them so it makes the situation awkward.
Some spoiler stated that Suraj will find out about her intentional mistakes and wil support her, lets see as I don't completely believe all spoilers, one even mentioned a rift between surya after teej which never happened. .From the yesterday's SBB seg desi ghee one, it seems they both have planned something now.But personally i think its either the chavi issue or something else which woud convince bhabo to call them , these mistakes woudnt be the reason.

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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 12 years ago

#28

Sonali I feel this time Sooraj does catch her before hand. He understands her intent and help her to correct her method. Def a challenge to romance him is in the right direction and as Umaji said let jewellery scam may be the reason for calling them back. But I personally believe they will not make Bhabo completely accept IPS till Sandhya goes for IPS training.

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Mrs_Ojha

@Mrs_Ojha

Explorer

Posted: 12 years ago

#29

No, no, no - Sandy is not a good wife at all! I can't remember even one thing that she has done from him - meaning only for him, not for Bhabo or other people. I am sorry so say that but she has been a pretty useless wife material so far.
I am very sorry for Suraj at this point of the story. He gives everything and he gets nothing in return.