Marriage and social class

I cannot understand why Daarji chose Bani - a girl from such a simple family and as he tellingly put it today 'who don't have haisiyat to stand before him' for Parmeet. After all for Randeep they got Gagan who seems to be from an equal family and on the face of things, everything seems good between them. Then what was the point, especially when he actually looked down upon Bani's family?

I can understand from Bani's family's point of view that they would have been very happy as a rishta like this would mean the world to them as their daughter would be settled in a much better off family and would not have to want for anything.

And in real life also, people in India are conscious about social class though unless it was a love marriage, I have rarely heard of this much of disparity between the two families.

I know I am rambling.Sorry. But main questions/doubts I have are

- Why did Daarji select Bani considering he thinks his family is sosuperior and her family are like ants in front of them

- As Bani seems to be based on reality, have you heard of such arranged marriages and how well did the couple adjust post-marriage?

Originally posted by: BullsEye777

And in real life also, people in India are conscious about social class though unless it was a love marriage, I have rarely heard of this much of disparity between the two families.

Originally posted by: MannieXO

^Neither have I. But I guess it's possible as long as the bride's family is able to pay for the whole wedding and provide the dowry (what ever the groom's family requests for)... this is what I've seen happening in Punjabi villages. When I went to my bua's daughter's wedding in India I was shocked these kinda traditions are still held high there (and I dont get why they do dowry when it's forbidden in Sikhism).

Using my bua's family as an example, I'm not sure how wealthy or not they are (they have a decent size house but don't know how much farm land they own), for their daughter's wedding my dad and both his brothers pitched in to pay for majority of the wedding costs (We're in Canada and his brothers are in the States and UK so I guess like most villagers there my bua probably assumed her brothers have enough money to pitch in since theyre from these foreign countries)... my bua's daughter got married into I would say a fairly wealthy family... more wealthier than my bua's that's for sure (and yes the groom is NRI but his family lives in India :P).

Getting back to the point if the bride's family has way less wealth than the groom's family, the only way I see the wedding happening (talking about village weddings of course) is if the bride's family is able to meet the demands of the groom's family (it helps a lot if you have close family members living in wealthier foreign countries)... rarely do you ever see a family like Parmeet's in a village who don't ask for much from the bride's family ... I would say in terms of the wedding happening, Bani's family got off lucky they didn't have to buy Parmeet expensive things or buy a new car/tractor for the family.

bani shouldn't cry for this kind of in laws ..they are just some piece of shit wake up girl and start living her life .. bani should stand up for herself and her family's self respect to fight her sasural house.. she should have shown to her sasural house.. bride 's side not have less qualified.. they have full self respect ... and rises.. but bani's family should standup for daughter justice.. . they doesnt take easily diz matter.. and they should speak up they should fight and lesson to daarji.. becoz he is over and very senseless and not humanity person.. but should lesson to daarji 😡 i want see that cv should have shown that is womens (rajji and bani)should fight their justice..and rises 😡 in diz serial 😛 if womens are in silently so many young brides commit suicide becoz they are afraid and quite of getting out for help ..😛 so cv should give right messages to da womens..😛

I have a feeling Daarji has good reason for his decision. Maybe he found out that one of his sons wanted to molest Rano.and he also realized that cheapo Randeep has same bad intentions towards Bani.thats why he thought they would be better off in their maikas .

maybe it happens in villages n small places, but being from delhi, i havent ever seen such difference in families getting married. even what has been written above that if the girl's family can pay and all, even then ive neither heard or seen any case like that., all marriages r of equals or near equals unless its a love marriage thats different

Agreed, even I had written abt this issue too. Daarji is definitely hiding something from his family bcoz I think even Rano was from a simple family.There must be some reason for choosing such simple village girls for his rich NRI son n grandson.
He even told Manpreet not to ask questions regarding his decision.

i think daarji had a doubt about permeet i think that's why she choose bani i mean a middle class girl

Originally posted by: Dadisa2011

I have a feeling Daarji has good reason for his decision. Maybe he found out that one of his sons wanted to molest Rano.and he also realized that cheapo Randeep has same bad intentions towards Bani.thats why he thought they would be better off in their maikas .

and Bani should ve thankful that she is far away from pervo Randeep.